Why do guys like leading girls on and why can they be such a**holes at time?

[Anonymous]

so there was this guy that I was crushing on for some time, and we always used to do the whole eye contact thing, I should always catch him looking at me. so I decided to ask him flat out over IM if he's interested. and guess what it blew up in my face. he was like he's not always looking at me and that it only seems like that. he lies that he's not single and says he's not interested. I was totally crushed, he could have at least tried to be nice about it. :( so I don't understand, why do guys like leading girls on and why can they be such a**holes at time?

[jtj25m]

You always used to do the whole eye contact thing? Good lord if I wanted to go out with everyone I made eye contact with I'd be quite the manwhore. Maybe you genuinely misinterpreted what was going on, so when you told him he was doing something he wasn't, he told you so. Judging by that, who knows whether or not he 'lied' about being single and interested or not, or whether it was something else you just misread. Just as many women are bitches as guys are assholes, I get sick of both sides blaming the whole other side just because of a few bad experiences, experiences that in cases like this, are probably the person's fault and not the complete other gender's fault.

[sonic241928]

I have no idea why some guys are like this, but trust me, not all of them are. Your guy just couldn't handle a little directness, which speaks volumes about his maturity level. There are many nice, simple guys like me, who don't like to play games. (I mean, I'm willing to flirt, but I wouldn't do so with a girl I'm not interested in.) We often feel trampled on by *all* girls when it seems like all females fall for jerks much easier.

Anyway, my point is, keep looking for the right guy, he's out there. Best of luck.

[QueenKatie]

Awww, that's a horrible thing to happen and my heart goes out to you. It's hard when you make yourself vulnerable like that to have someone treat you so insensitively.

But not all guys are like that! There are some lovely, genuine, caring members of the male tribe out there. And I'm sure some of them are single and would love to date you. You just happened to stumble across a stinker - don't let his pigheadedness ruin your chances of meeting the right guy for you - keep looking, and you'll find Mr Right!

[MrTinker]

Okey, you have my respect now - I haven't seen a woman comment on that some men are good in a long time. Proof your not girl but a woman :)

[beccabear11]

holy crap! that's nothing... wait until you get a guy who says you're the most perfect beautiful thing ever to hit the face of the earth and he's nice looking and everything, but falls off of the face of the earth like he died or something because he was a big lier.

[GIntrovert]

I've done that a few times.

I only did it because I didn't want to hurt her. I really did like the girl, but I didn't want a relationship with her, all I wanted was sex and I knew she wanted a relationship, so I did what I thought was right, I turn her down and left her alone...

As a man who has done this and understands your anger, I am sorry.

[Regularguy]

It goes both ways, I've had situations where I've had the same thing but with the opposite sex. I've been led on by girls who flirt with me only to get the attention. It's all a part of life so don't take it too hard.

[MrTinker]

Both male and females are 'jerks' but that's life and I have to say I really don't like the first of both genders who started making love a game.

[lilwintergirl]

i tihnk you read it wrong. and about the jerk thing.. yea guys are jerks but girls can be too