My boyfriend blocked my number, what do I do?

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I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. We have been fighting for days, and he asked for space for four days of no contact. I am the type that does not do space, and I like to resolve issues immediately instead of dwelling and over thinking the issue. He told me he has been miserable lately in the relationship, but if anyone should be miserable it's me. He is disrespectful and he lacks communication within our long distance relationship. I have called and sent him text messages and he decided to block my phone number, letting me know he will unblock it in 3 days. I think the simple act of blocking my number is disrespectful. Do I break up with him or just wait it out until he unblocks me? I feel like I should be standing up for myself. These next 3 days are going to drive me insane because I want to talk to him and resolve our issues.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It seems he has taken desperate measures because he needs his space. Personally, i like to resolve issues as soon as possible. Commuinication is so important to make a relationship work.

I would just accept he wants his space, he obviously needs time to sort his head out before dealing with speaking to you. When he does decide to talk to you , try to explain to him that if he wants the relationship to work, you both need to commuincate to resolve any issues, rather than ignoring it for days on end.

Space distances two people, it doesn't bring them closer together. He can't shut you out everytime you both have an argument .

Relationships are measured by the bad times, not the good. So you both need to become stronger together when faced with any adversities.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You are doing the crazy girlfriend thing and chasing him away. He asked for 4 days, and you still tried to contact him. Calm yourself down and wait or break up, because obviously, you can't handle respecting his wish for space. Sometimes, people need to think, not everyone will bend to your will 100% of the time to do things as you want them to be done.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Lol we think almost identically. Oddly usually guys are the problem solvers. The problem is that even though we think the same I have been around nagging and controlling women before and it's awful. I learned my lesson immediately: avoid them.

The point here is that you need to relax. If he needs space it's because he is probably overwhelmed and he has to process all of this information. Things take time. Nothing happens instantaneously... not really anyway. Even the time it takes to blink can be measured.

The point I'm trying to make is that you need to learn to be patient because most people will expect it. He also didn't want to ignore you but he feels you aren't giving him a choice. Chill out. He might be an introvert.

JSmuve · Accepted Answer

Let's follow the bouncing ball.

1) He asks for 4 days of no contact
2) You contacted him by texting and calling him ignoring his wish for no contact
3) he blocks your number to get his wish of no contact

One can draw two conclusions from this:
1) you brought this upon yourself
2) he doesn't want to talk to you at this moment

What do you do?

Take this time to reflect on your relationship, the direction it's going, and whether there's a future here. He's taking this time to think. You should too.

Mesonfielde · Answer

This is technically "silent treatment". You can either break up or wait... depends. Just don't think about it for 3 days then.

Cmasterson · Answer

How can you break up with him whilst he has you blocked? the communication is already cut at the momment, as you and him are different in dealing with arguments and issues, I think you should have given him the space he wanted in the start, some people are able to think clearer, and more rational, would you rather him make an irrational move just based on the fact that you aren't patient and don't want to worry? Lack of communication in a long distance relationship is basically the cut off, without it you have nothing left, and so I can understand you're not taking this well and you're hurt and frustrated. He may have felt overwhelmed with you arguing against his way of wanting to deal with his feelings. Everyone is entitled to feel how they want to, we are our own person, and just because we are in a relationship with someone, doesn't mean we can tell them how to deal with it. I know you're desperately wanting to figure everything out, you're going to worry but the most you can do is stay busy for the time to pass, and show him you're not dependent on him. When those 3 days pass hopefully the both of you will be in a better mindset.

KBelle · Answer

Honestly, if his need for space (which is totally normal btw) is too much for you, you should break up with him. He's the kind of person who needs space occasionally and you're the kind of person who doesn't understand that... it's just not going to work.

He only blocked you because you were not respecting his wish to have space... so no I don't see his action as disrespectful. He's respecting himself and his needs... and he did ask you to give him space (so you were warned). He also told you he would unblock you in 3 days... sounds like he knows it's hard for you and this is the only way he can get space.

I know you want to resolve your issues but it's not all about you, honey. He has needs too and he needs time to work through some of the thoughts and feelings he's having. What's 3 days? Just wait it out and maybe working through your issues will be easier after you've both had some time to reflect.

DanteSparda · Answer

How can you tolerate such kind of behavior?
That clearly shows he's being disrespectful.

Not only should you respect other people, but you should demand the same degree of respect for yourself. You should never put up with any kind disrespect from anyone, especially a person you are in love with. You will have a much better chance of keeping a man interested in you if you stand up yourself, than if you allow him to walk all over you.

The #1 medicine that can cure a broken heart is time but you should find a passion for your future have a goal that will make you successful then forget about him then maybe he will see what missed out on :)

Sweetheart64 · Answer

Honestly, you should take this time to reevaluate what you want. You say you love him and I understand that but yet you say you argue every other week. You can love someone but not be in love with them.

Also, maybe you also need to work on changing you instead of trying to change him. You seem like you expect a lot because it's all "I this and I that."

You don't want space and like to resolve things fast, but he wants space, you, yourself are only 50 percent of the relationship and both of you seem to always want it your own way without regards to the other person. He asked for 4 days and right away you tried to contact him, right there that's not respecting his wishes but you call him disrespectful. If you both keep this up you're going to end up resenting each other.

Sara413 · Answer

You sound kind of suffocating.. he asked for space and instead you bombarded him with calls and texts - that was disrespectful on your part and I don't blame him for blocking your number temporarily. People deal with things differently and it seems that you don't have any understanding for that. You expect him to deal with issues the same way you do, and that is unfair. Neither way is right or wrong, but if he needs space you're only making things worse by not giving it to him. He probably feels like he can't think when you're constantly there trying to talk it out. He needs to gather his thoughts for a while.

You didn't give any indication what the other issues in the relationship are, so I'm only going off the details that we know. Given what we know, if I was the BF I'd be really annoyed by your actions and you would be driving me away for sure.

Kountry_King · Answer

Well you guys haven't been in each others good graces that's what it sounds like but it sounds like your boyfriend doesn't want to talk about it right now. I always thought men tried to fix things I don't know he's told you he wanted space and he'd get back to you but YOU still continued to text him. Not respecting his wishes it's not like he was ignoring you he just wanted time to breathe about whatever you were fighting about if you want to leave you can , if not you should wait patiently til he comes around

findingdreamland · Answer

He should not have blocked you. That is really immature but he did it. Well.

You have to be patient. That is what you have to do. Some people are not open to communication.

Give some time, if he doesn't contact you, then start to worry. But not now.

pumaOH24 · Answer

He asked for space to let things cool down and the you don’t respect his request. Then you get upset when he blocks you because you ignored his request? -shakes his head-

It sounds like you two are opposites so it going to take a bit of work to get things worked out unless both of you are willing to compromise on some things especially if other areas are going as well as the “space” area currently is!

ameliajp · Answer

some people honestly need space.
i'm one of them.
i don't like to do things when i'm full of emotion because i tend to do the wrong thing. like scream or say things i don't mean. so when i ask for space or take it, i need it in order to approach the problem in a healthy and balanced way.

Anonymous · Answer

Give him some space like he asked for and then talk it through in a couple of days. One could say that you were disrespectful for not giving him space like he asked for. Everyone deals with things differently. Also, you can't expect him to make you his priority 24/7/365. It doesn't work like that. You say you want to stand up for yourself and break if off. He's standing up for hkmsf by blocking your number.

Anonymous · Answer

He shouldn't disrespect you. But in terms of the communication thing I think you are in the wrong. He asked for space. You are disrespecting him by going against that wish. He wouldn't have blocked you if you hadn't tried contacting him. You don't respect his wishes and needs. You might wanna hash it out immediately but he doesn't so just leave him be. He wants a break from the fighting. Honestly you sound like too much. He has made his boundaries clear it is you that is being unreasonable

jss123 · Answer

You both need to think long and hard about this. If one day you get married you or he can't do things such as blocking. This is a huge red flag for both of you in your relationship. Personally I'd end it now if it was my situation because I've experienced blocking before ignored it and it ended really badly. You're still young enough to find someone much more compatible to you.

ButterSauce · Answer

Take this time to think, really deeply think, what you are doing that makes him miserable.

Ponycargirl12 · Answer

Just take the time out to think it over. Long distance is hard, mine ended due to infidelity on the other end. If you love this guy, don't drive him away.

Rosie-posie · Answer

I understand wanting to resolve issues asap I am the same way, but in turn you disrespected his wishes and contacted him anyways. That could possibly be a reason he could choose to break it off with you. Give him time and space, hey at least he told you.

GingerBiscuits · Answer

Block him as well & give him reality of what it means to "take a break". From a guy, it means leave me in peace while I try to bang thot then expect to be able to come back to you.

Rickshia · Answer

Wow, he just needs to unblock you already so you two can talk it out. Just wait until he unblocks you. Don't worry.

emmily2396 · Answer

Well, you didn't respect him either. He asked for no contact for just 4 days... on the other hand blocking you was rude.. that's not a reason to break up though

falling_star4 · Answer

Babe, if you're not happy then what's the point? I get that people are stubborn, but if there's too many problems then is it really worth it?

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