When a guy tells you to call him....? need guy advice

[Anonymous]

When a guy always puts the ball in your court and says stuff like feel free to call me if you want to get together or let me know when your available...as in he always puts the ball in your court does that mean he's not that into you?

Updates

+1 y

ok well he asked me out one time and I couldn't go cus I had work so I told him what days I was available that week and he was all I can't promise anything now but I'll keep it in mind...then I never heard from him. that was a couple weeks ago.

[Anonymous]

Oh boy that is one thing I HATE that some guys do. Actaully, the track records with guys who always do this are no good! They are usually players who have no intention of actaully developing a relationship with you. If you showed your interest than it works both ways!

[dumail]

I've been doing that lately. I'll tell why we do or I did this way.

Generally, we don't know if she interested or not and we are fear of rejection/denial if we ask directly like "Do you want to hang out when you're available?"

[dumail]

Also, is not that he is not into you as you expected.

He likes you but he is trying to figure out if you are dating with someone already.

[Asker]

Huh? I don't understand?

[Asker]

Ok well look at my update

[dumail]

Sorry for the confusion, replying from your update.

Did you call him?

[Asker]

No I didn't. I let him know what days I could hang out and he didn't do anything. I havn't from him since that day (bout 2 weeks ago)

[dumail]

I believe you have the right to call him and say, "What is up with you?' in a nice tone.

You probably lost his attention for that period of time.

[Asker]

During which time period? well he said he wanted to see me but he's making no effort

[dumail]

How long you know him for? he is definitely unsure what to do or not ready.

The period after you told him that can't go because you had work to do till now?

I was thinking of what you said "couple of weeks ago" = 2-3 weeks ago without any contacts between you and him. If I am wrong, correct me plz.

[Asker]

Well yeah it had been two weeks since I heard from him. so I sent him a general text like what's up? and he never responded...and that was a week ago so yeah....idk what to do

[dumail]

Never ever use digital messaging to get responses. Which includes phone text, msn, forums and any other (TYPING) communication. Because it is very unreliable due there may be technical issue or lost message.

[MrNameless]

If he wasn't into you.. He wouldn't tell you to call him.. Instead he'd tell you he'd call you back.. and never call back.

[Asker]

So you think I should still try and talk to him even though he didn't respond and I havn't heard from him at all. wouldn't a guy put in effort if he was interested?

[JohnHA]

Nah actually it mean's he want's to see if you care. Had to make this short because I'm a little busy right now :P

[Asker]

Yeah well if I hae shown him that I am interested and he says he wants to see me but makes no effort to do so then what?

[JohnHA]

Maybe he want's you to pull all the strings.. He seem's like a guy to have someone else do all the talking for him.

[Asker]

Yeah but what if you show that you care and he still doesn't really try

[Anonymous]

guys like this you should forget and ignore.