What does it mean if a guy teases everyone but me?

[Anonymous]

My crush playfully teases pretty much everyone, except he doesn't tease me and is just super nice to me instead. He calls me the nicest person he's ever met and treats me really friendly and gives me high fives and stuff and sometimes uses my niceness to tease other people. Or maybe he teases other people so he can be nice to me? Either way, he treats me different. Could it mean he likes me? Or does he just really respect me and not want to tease me? I'm kinda shy so maybe he just thinks he shouldn't tease me And feels I need to be treated nicely?

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And if you slip up, you can learn from your mistakes :) how will you learn to swim unless you jump in the water? ;) if she likes you for who you are it doesn't matter whether you slip up. :) there I go again, another long message :) And I haven't seen my guy since last week bc we're on spring break this week.

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Ignore that last update, I wrote it in the wrong place. :)

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Hahahaha ok I'll do that :-)

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Ugh wrong place again... sorry!

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Yeah I know...:) and like I said, I do think beforehand about those things but it just never happens when I actually get a chance, bc for some weird reason I don't realize I could've said something if it happens when I'm not expecting...

[nickbrick]

This guy you know reminds me of me :) I tend to be a very outgoing social person. Whether it is with friends or complete strangers. For me, when I have a crush on a girl I tend to act differently around them. I will tease her, but not nearly as much as someone else. So in that sense it seems that yes, he does like you. This is because he acts differently around you. At the same time, I question him too. I tend to high-five all my friends and none of my crush's. The high-five tends to me more of a friendship status. However, if he is only high-fiving you, then things look a little better. Most likely it seems that he wants to be around you without making things too obvious. When there is a girl I want to be around I tend to keep things more in the friendzone. I guess it is because I have this outgoing personality, but... when it comes to my crush I am a little bit more reserved. As a result your guy friend wants to be near you without making things weird. If you get the chance... and please make sure your timing is right... ask him if he wants to hang out and do something. (Don't mention that it will be just you two). You also don't have to phrase it like a date. See if he asks whether it will be just you two (this means he might like you) or if he responds with "are (John) and (Sammy) coming?" (This means that he might be looking more towards a friend status. It really does vary by guy so don't over analyze this. Hope this helps!

[Asker]

Wow thanks! that really does help! And yeah he is very confusing. He's so outgoing with everyone it's hard to read him. At one of our school orchestra concerts he got super friendly with me. more friendly than he's ever been and as if we we've been best friends for forever. He gave me a bunch of high fives and after one of them he basically complimented my high fiving skills. He basically ignored proximity rules and leaned in to whisper in my ear, and he wouldn't stop telling people how nice I was. Whenever he teases my friend he starts using her "mean-ness" to treat me nice and tease her back. And he feels the need to reassure me telling me it's okay whenever she does something "mean". Is he just doing that bc he knows I'm kinda shy and wants me to feel good about myself bc he's just that nice or maybe he really does like me? Also, he is very random. That same night I was standing across from him in a circle of 4 and randomly out of the blue he says my name, waves and asks me how I was

[Asker]

Oh and another time at a different concert we were backstage and supposed to be quiet. Well I accidentally laughed out loud and he was standing nearby and said my name and shhh and put his finger up to his lips. I looked at him, smiled, then looked away. 5 secs later I felt him still looking and I looked back and he was STILL looking with his finger up. It's like he forgot to put it down. But other than these moments plus a few more, he only talks to me once in a while at school..

[nickbrick]

He is obviously very close and comfortable with you. Definetly check to see how close he gets with other people. How good of friends are you? If you are really close then this makes sense. If this is a new thing then it is even more likely that he likes you. If this continues and you like him and you think he likes you "go for it" Tell him how you feel and be kind/sincere. If he is a really close friend then he will understand even if he rejects you. Also, you will know. That always makes me feel better. :)

[Asker]

Not that close of friends. More like acquaintences. Which is one of the main reasons it confused me... except he's really friendly so that might possibly be the only reason. One time he offered me a high five and I gave it, then another girl was like do I get one? And he said no, (my name) and I are like best friends. And at that point I barely knew him. Another time he randomly asked me if we were friends, it had to do with another one of his teasing situations, bt still... he's so confusing!

[nickbrick]

I don't really know what to day. He is just a very confusing person. Good Luck!

[Asker]

Haha ok! Thanks for all of your advice! :)

[Daydreamer1983]

I think it means he has a crush on you. He is aware that you are sensitive and won't tease you. But also, he's subtly singling you out (because he likes you), and acting funny and behaving like this to look social, funny and friendly to try show you a good side to him.

Basically this guy sounds like me and you sound like my crush. I do what he does too.

[Asker]

That makes sense actually! Except he is social and funny with everyone so I guess he is just more so with me minus the teasing and plus the friendliness. But I'm not sure if he likes me or not. Several times and moments and this he's said/done really convince me he might actually like me, but then there's also the fact that he doesn't really talk to me that much except every now and then and doesn't take good opportunities to do so.

[Daydreamer1983]

Again, he sounds like me. I am crazy about this girl but don't talk to her much. Normally I never get a chance, or there are people around and I can't get her alone. The truth is that I am crazy about her and would spend all day talking to her if I could.

If you like him, take a tiny risk and flirt back or tease in the smallest way and see how he reacts. He sounds like a total gentleman so i doubt he would ignore or be thoughtless at your advances, whatever they may be. Give him a sign! Good luck.

Answer mine?

[Asker]

Ok thanks I'll try that! :) and if she's in a group and you can't get her alone you could just start small and say hey/hello/good morning or whatever as you walk by. or if she notices you nearby catch her eye and give her a smile. Girls love that and it shows you care :) and maybe if that works and she smiles back you can summon her over and have a chat? :) if you're crazy about her take a risk to just go up and talk to her. You never know how amazing something could turn out ubless you try. Just go for it! Make yourself go talk to her! It doesn't have to be an intense, deep conversation at first, just start with how is your day? Or something simple and maybe it'll become something more, or maybe it'll take a few times to get there. :)

[Daydreamer1983]

I try, but she is kind of strange, different with me. I cannot understand it. My question before my last one might explain better. I lose all my confidence when I try approach her because I can't tell if she wants me to go away or stay and talk.

[Asker]

Maybe she likes you or is confused by you bc you won't talk to her. You'll never know if she does or does not want to talk to you unless you just try. Believe in yourself. You can do it. You've got nothing to lose, and if she doesn't accept you for who she is that her problem and her loss :) she doesn't know what she's missing out on. ;) but just go for it! Get to know her better!

[Asker]

Sorry I meant if she doesn't accept you for who YOU are ;)

[Asker]

And based on what you wrote in your questions, I think she likes you or is interested. The awkwardness is a major sign. Don't be shy, if you want it you have to go after it! :) I know I always feel awkward around my crush. Maybe she's waiting for you to make a move to see if you like her. ;)

[Daydreamer1983]

I am shy though, that's the thing. She can be so hard to read I can't tell if she's uncomfortable or wanting me to try something.

Anyway, let us know how you get on :)

[Asker]

I'm shy too, I understand how hard it is. But if you want something to happen you should just go for it! You'll never know until you try! If you don't do anything you'll regret the missed opportunity later and look back on it wishing you had done something. Just think about how wonderful things could turn out if you just take one little risk and break out of your shell. "Those who do not take risks will accomplish nothing in life" :) trust me I know it's way easier said than done, but you can't expect anything to happen unless you go for it. If she is interested now and is waiting for you to make a move, you don't want her to think you're not interested bc you're just shy. It doesn't have to be much. Like I said, just start with a smile or a greeting or small talk for awhile so she sees you're open to talking to her and interested :) please just try :) it's so painful to hear situations like that. The girl likes the guy and he likes her but they're both too shy to say anything or make

[Asker]

a move so they never end up together even though they really wanted to be together. If anything, maybe consult a friend and maybe they can help or you can go talk to her with your friend. That's usually how I approach my crush. I can't do it by myself yet so I bring my friend and it works :)

[Asker]

It'll make you feel more comfortable as well. that friend can help start the conversation, or just stand there while you talk who knows. but talking in a group with her may help before talking alone. It may build up for that too. That's how my situation worked :) let me know how things work out! Be brave! You're so worth it, remember that. :)

[Asker]

Pleaaassseeee :)

[Daydreamer1983]

What you have written was written so beautifully and with passion. I really thank you for taking the time to do that and get me psyched up to take action.

I just feel like I can't approach her. My confidence is zero and she is very hard to get to a place to where I feel like I can try feel her out (so to speak!). I would take a while to explain the long mad story of me and this girl (or you could read my old questions- i think they are all about her).

I will see how it goes but it is also one step forward two steps back with her. I haven't seen her since the weekend and I don't know when I'll see her again.

You seem convinced that she likes me. That is heartening. I just feel like I freak her out and she just about tolerates me.

Have you seen your guy lately?

[Asker]

No problem! :) you seem like a really great, genuine guy and you deserve someone wonderful. And about the confidence thing. Don't worry, it'll take time. Do you have a trustworthy friend? Like I said, it really WILL help. You'll feel more comfortable and they can help get you out of any ruts you may land in. why do you think you freak her out? Does she act that way or are you just paranoid about your advances? in order to find out, you just have to ignore those thoughts and not worry about that and just go about it. Speaking from personal experience: stop waiting for a "right" moment and just go for it. I mean obviously not just ANY time, but if neither of you are deeply in the middle of something go ahead. What could go wrong? Stop thinking about what could go wrong and think about what could go right :) remember what a fantastic person you are. You are braver than you think, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you believe. No one's perfect. We all make mistakes.

[Asker]

And if you slip up, you can learn from your mistakes :) how will you learn to swim unless you jump in the water? ;) if she likes you for who you are it doesn't matter whether you slip up. :) there I go again, another long message :) And I haven't seen my guy since last week bc we're on spring break this week.

[Daydreamer1983]

Thanks for all that. I haven't seen her since Sunday and don't know when I will see her next. I will try stay positive and confident and talk to her more whenever I next see her.

[Asker]

Good :) bc I know you can do it. Let me know how it goes ;)

[Daydreamer1983]

Will you not see your guy until next week?

[Asker]

Nope

[Daydreamer1983]

Do you have him on Twitter or Facebook or anything like that?

I don't really have anyone to confide in at work about my situation. There's hardly any staff left and most people are unreliable or I'm not super close with them.

[Asker]

No, unfortunately :( and that stinks that there isn't really anyone you could confide in. if there's someone you at least talk to every now in then you could say hey let's go talk to her or something like that. But if you don't want to do that then you'll just have to go for it solo. :) I wish I could be there in person to help ;)

[Daydreamer1983]

I wish I could have you there to help me too :)

[Asker]

:) good luck!

[Daydreamer1983]

I've seen her twice this morning up close and neither of us spoke to one another. She has no makeup on today (and looks so beautiful) and looks kind of sad. I feel like I just annoy her being around her. Argh!

[Asker]

Don't even think negative like that! You don't know for sure that you annoy her and you won't know unless you go talk to her. If she looks beautiful, then tell her so. If she looks sad, ask her how she is or if something's wrong. Girls like to know that you care and one compliment can go a long way. The next time you see her: pretend like you don't think she's annoyed by you. Just take a chance and go talk to her. Make yourself go. Tell yourself you will and think about how awesome it could turn out. Think about how awesome it will feel afterwards knowing you got the guts to go up to your crush even if it didn't go exactly how you wanted. You can do it!! Show her you care about her and how much you admire her! :) be courageous! not fearless, but acting in spite of fear. Trust me, I empathize, but you must not like her enough if you're not willing to put yourself out there with at least a simple greeting or smile :) you must not want anything to happen between you guys.

[Asker]

Do you just want to watch life go by? being heartbroken and sad and wishing something to happen and waiting around until something happens on its own? :)

[Daydreamer1983]

Later she was really far down the corridor and she pulled a face, turned her head to the side as if to wake me up from a daydream and said 'hey (insert my name here)!' and disappeared into the girls changing room. She was so fast I could barely get a reply out but I said 'hey how are you?' and she said 'fine' and I shouted 'excellent' and she giggled from behind the door.

[Asker]

Well that's good! :) good for you! And that does not sound like she's annoyed by you at all. Besides, if she was annoyed she probably wouldn't even bother saying hey. If anything I'd say it sounds like she WANTS you to talk to her :) keep trying, you'll get there :(

[Asker]

Sorry I meant :)

[Daydreamer1983]

Thanks. I was stupid, huh? I think she knows I like her and is just trying to make things less awkward between us since I am the one being weird.

Let me know how it goes with your guy. Will you see him this week?

[Asker]

Yeah that's ok. I'm always stupid around my crush too. No one can really help it :) Sometimes it can turn into a sort of inside joke or something too. And yeah I've seen him. I'm trying to decide how to go about it or if I just want to wait for him to talk to me first and then make a conversation that way. Bc like you, I feel like I annoy him by trying to go talk to him :)

[Daydreamer1983]

Hah. It's funny to see the girl side of it- should I talk first or leave it up to the other person?

Go ask him how his break was, all casual style.

[Asker]

Haha yeah... it really shouldn't be that hard for me knowing that he will talk back and is nice to me and stuff but, exactly like you, I just feel like I weird him out bc of all my other attempts to talk to him and I feel like I might give myself away by trying again. But also the other half of me thinks he will initiate first so I kinda subconsiously make the decision to wait and get him to say something first but then the opportunity passes... which is why I want him to start first so I can try to get myself talking more with practice :)

[Asker]

In my head I can literally carry out a great conversation from whatever he says to me and take it in any direction but in reality I can't get past the one worded answers and such. One time he was standing behind me in line and said "Hey (my name). How are you?" silly me just said "Hey. Good." Totally could have made that more casual and asked him how he was too... and the worst part was that I didn't even turn around to look at him... I don't even know why. Trying to stay cool but I end up acting stupid like that...

[Daydreamer1983]

Will you have another chance to talk to him today?

You sound like me now haha!

[Asker]

Haha yeah we're basically in the same boat. :) and no, not today. Tomorrow though.

[Daydreamer1983]

Ok cool. :)

[Asker]

How about you? Do you know when you'll see her again?

[Daydreamer1983]

I don't know. I might see her today at work.

[Asker]

Any luck today?

[Daydreamer1983]

She wasn't there today. It feels so hopeless sometimes.

How about you?

[Asker]

I know, you just have to fake it till you make it :) and he was there... but... I can't... I just really wish he would say something first bc I think I could do it then and not feel like a stalker... but he hasn't talked to me for a while :( and yeah I know I should just go talk to him... but he's just so hard to approach and it never seems like there's a good time. I'm just like you :)

[Daydreamer1983]

It's horrible isn't it? Surrounded by lots of people you don't want to talk to, and the one you do you can't seem to do it!

If I see her today, I'll try approach her and talk. I dare you to do the same :p

[Asker]

Alright. Challenge accepted ;)

[Daydreamer1983]

And... I didn't see her today. Probably out having a great day in the sun with another guy :(

How did you get on?

[Asker]

Aw don't think like that... there'll be other chances.

And I honestly tried my best. I really did. But he doesn't stick around very long so I couldn't try to talk to him after any of my classes and my friend's locker is near his so sometimes I go over there to try to talk to him and I did today but he literally spenD's like 3 seconds at his locker so it never works, like today. It was a perfect day too... everything was going well and I was actually going to talk to him if I could...

[Daydreamer1983]

Ah that sucks :( will there be any situations where you are all in a group again as in your original question?

[Asker]

Our school orchestra concerts. So many memories...:) so many. And usually if we talk at the concerts then he'll most likely enthusiastically talk to me the next day :)

[Asker]

But our next one isn't until mid May...

[Daydreamer1983]

Can you not kinda drop in a casual 'hows the orchestra music going?' kinda thing? See what he's thinking about May? What instrument does he play? And what do you play?

I'm just back from a party. Not one girl looked at me. And I left alone as always. Same way as I entered. The supreme loneliness is so horrible. Argh! Sorry for being so negative. I've drank a bit tonight.

[Asker]

Nah it's cool :) did you try to talk to any of them? If you want something to happen you should take action and MAKE it happen instead of waiting for things to happen by themselves.

He plays cello and I play violin. But I don't think he's very interested in playing. I guess I could try to tease him a little about it. If he would just stick around a bit...

[Asker]

So I'm in a quartet and we were playing at a student event and I look up there he is walking though the door. I didn't expect to see him at all. And apparently he said hi and was looking at me, but I didn't hear him. But just bc he looked at me doesn't nevessarily mean he was talking to me... maybe he was just saying hi to all of us and happened to look at me

[Daydreamer1983]

Saw her a few times today. Totally blew it. Three times I saw her and it was just... not good. She was kind of awkward and stuff, we said hi when we passed face to face and a few other times I saw her and just buckled and didn't say much. There was other times I was about and she didn't say anything. But then there were times I could have said something and didn't. i think maybe she's just not that bothered and it isn't meant to be.

[Asker]

Just because you're nervous doesn't mean she doesn't want to talk to you or that it wasn't meant to be. Like I've been saying, go talk to her! Actually have a conversation if you can, and get to know her! Let her see what a wonderful guy you are! Some girls like to be chased a little so maybe she wants to see if you like her enough to go up to her.

[Daydreamer1983]

Thanks. I just feel my energy and self-belief vanish When I see her. I feel like she did something for my attention today when she kinda had a go at a guy at work I was talking to when he made a comment at her as she passed by.

[Asker]

Wait you were talking to a guy and as she walked by he talked to her? Is that what happened?

[Daydreamer1983]

Yes. I was at her section at work talking to him because I had to see him about work stuff (he doesn't normally work there). She was coming back from a break and he was blocking the door she wanted in. She asked him to move in not the most polite of manners and he made some kind of comment like 'have you forgiven me?' and she said really directly 'no I hate you!' and went back to work. this guy is known for being lazy so I think it might have been something to do with that. But I have sometimes joked with her in the past about how he is an idiot, so maybe her being rude to him was her way of trying to reinforce my feeling toward him? I was talking to him and I looked in the door she went and I could see her looking at me putting her hair up.

[Asker]

Hmm... yeah it's very possible she's trying to get your attention like that :)

[Asker]

So go talk to her! :)

[Daydreamer1983]

So you maybe think she wanted my attention? Do you do that with the guy you like- hang about where he is, but not look at him or make eye contact and maybe talk to the person he's with, but not always to him?

How are you getting on anyway?

[Asker]

Yeah definitely, in some way or another. We just like to try to get your attention or at least see how you react.

Well I haven't talked to him yet. But he supposedly said hi to me that other night like I said. And today in orchestra class a lot of people were missing so we had to all move closer to the front. I don't know if you know how orchestras are seated (in a horseshoe shape) but he's cello, and I violin and those sections face eachother. So since we had to move up front, he decided to move all the way up next to his friend so that he was basically sitting almost right in front of me (facing me). I felt kind of awkward the whole time. I doubt he moved for that reason, but it was still weird of him.

[Daydreamer1983]

I bet you loved the view :) did you not smile or stick your tongue out? :)

[Daydreamer1983]

And sorry, I missed the message about him saying hi and you not hearing it (this thread is unwieldy now!). That's totally the thing that would happen to me- I'd say hi and she would not answer and I'd convince myself she didn't like me.

[Asker]

Haha yeah I know this is definitely the longest conversation in the comments section :) but that's ok ;)
And yeah I wish I would have heard him. I saw him walk in and then I kinda freaked out and looked away and then somehow didn't hear him say hi. But I mean he could have been talking to anyone else in our quartet since he seems to be friends with everyone. And of course I loved the view! ;) but I was trying not to stare too much...:) and no I didn't stick my tongue out, that would be totally uncharacteristic of me. And i smiled but only bc he's hilarious. :) today, in a different class I have with him I accidentally laughed out loud at something he said... that was embarrassing... and another time he was giving a presentation and I was literally biting my tongue trying not to burst out laughing..:) but that's one of the things I like about him. He knows how to cheer you up, and is not so arrogant that he doesn't know when to shut up like some guys...:)

[Asker]

I wonder if there's some kind of limit on these comments... hm :) anyways, tell me about the girl you like. What do you like about her? I hope you don't mind how long our conversation has gotten haha ;)

[Daydreamer1983]

Not at all. I really enjoy talking to you. You seem lovely and I hope this guy picks up on your affection for him and asks you out.

I have to be honest and say, I don't know what I like about her. I barely know her, she is hardly approachable, and she seems immature and slightly neurotic. I know she hangs with some rough people and she speaks with a kinda street voice (which becomes more polite and less hard with me). Despite this, the truth is that I am totally besotted with her. I feel this overwhelming desire to take care of her, look out for her and treat her well. I feel super protective of her (even though I have no right to) My head turns to wherever she might be in work. When she goes by, I can feel my heart fill up with something, and I have this feeling of fleeting extreme happiness and joy and just being able to see her. To see her even for a second each day fills me with an uncontrollable mix of emotions. She is the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in my entire life.

[Daydreamer1983]

Her beauty floors me. She looks vaguely melancholy, and it just lends to her vulnerability, femininity and fuels my desire to protect her. I like how awkward she is when she tries to smile or make a joke with me. I love her super dark eyes, the way her freckles come out when it's summer. I like how she half-sighs when she says 'hi' or her soft laugh. Generally she is mellow and calm. I doubt she is always like this though. I feel like I could do anything on this earth if I had her love. all these things hit me when I see her. Then she's gone, and I have to come back to Earth with the realisation that she is not mine.

[Asker]

That was beautiful and your attraction and affection for her seems pure and true. No matter what happens always remember that if someone doesn't like you for who you truly are, they don't deserve such a magnificent guy like you. I'm sure she would be absolutely flattered if she knew how you felt. Even if she does happen to not feel the same way, she'll understand and appreciate your gestures. I think you should tell her how you feel (at least eventually). If a guy told me this I would be totally flattered and awe struck and even if I didn't have some feelings before I would give him a chance bc he seems to trully, genuinely care. And I like guys that are genuine. :) I know it's hard to approach her, but she needs to hear ow you feel about her! This may sound silly but maybe try to write an anonymous (or not) letter telling her how you feel if you're too shy to say it in person. See how she reacts and go from there. tell her just what you told me :)

[Asker]

You never know unless you try. And maybe you'll find out if she likes you or not. If she does, fantastic! Think about how awesome that would be! If not, so what? that's ok! At least you can stop worrying your head off wondering whether she likes you back and maybe it will bring you somewhat closer anyway. You don't necessarily have to ask her out, but you could get a few friends and invite her to join in on a night/day out. Develloping a friendship and getting to know her better will help your situation. And even if she doesn't like you in that way, at least you'll get to spend some time with her :)

[Daydreamer1983]

She doesn't seem like the soppy type. I actually wondered if what I wrote was a tad creepy :)

And you you stick your tongue exactly because it is uncharacteristic of you. Then he knows you like him differently. Just like he did when isolated you from being teased. Mirror his treatment of you and he might see how you feel.

[Asker]

I mean I understand you didn't mean it as creepy so it wasn't exactly creepy, but you might not want to tell her some of those things just in case she does take it the creepy way. :) even if you don't think she's the soppy type doesn't mean she isn't on the inside. if that what it takes to tell her how you feel then you should do it. Maybe you could just do a simple note saying I like your smile or I like your eyes or something. I know it's kinda cheesy, but it gets the point across. You deserve any chance with any girl :)
And we'll see about the tongue-sticking...:) maybe I'll find another way. And today I stood up to turn in a quiz, took one step to the right (my desk is on the end) to get around my desk and then BAM! someone ran into me, and guess. who. it. was. I have no idea how I always end up in these weird circumstances and coincidences with him. Anyways yeah... his shoulder ran right into the side of my head and it hurt. But I think I can use it to tease him :)

[Daydreamer1983]

Beautiful! Exactly. Time to tease him and wind him up over it, see how he reacts. And how he responds will be quite telling.

A girl playing violin and sticking her tongue out at me in a flirty way is actually my idea of heaven haha. What man could resist?

[Asker]

Hahaha yeah I suppose so... I wouldn't know though, I'm not a guy ;)
And yeah I think I will try to tease him with it. Bc I mean it wasn't just a little bump that you could walk off acting like it didn't happen. It was hard core impact with his shoulder and my head and I'm pretty sure he apologized bt I'm not sure... he said several things and I could keep track of what he said. i know he at least turned around towards me. But I could just be like "how's your shoulder?" Or something I don't know. :)

[Asker]

*couldn't keep track

[Asker]

Any suggestions? :)

[Daydreamer1983]

Well I'm a guy (even though I act like a little boy!). I'll be able to decipher it for you.

Next time you see him, just hold your head and be like 'ah, I think you gave me concussion the other day! You got a permit for that shoulder?' 'The medical bill is in the post, by the way!' Or like you suggested 'how's your shoulder? Same as my forehead?' Just ham it up a little, be flippant, charming and approachable but still feminine and delicate, like it did hurt a bit. Basically just act how Rachel in friends would deal with your situation :)

[Asker]

Hahahaha ok I'll do that :-)

[Daydreamer1983]

It's easy to be unsure where to put your reply as this thread is so huge now :)

[Asker]

Yeah I keep doing that haha :)

[Asker]

Would it be weird if I brought it up tomorrow? Bc there might not be another opportunity today...

[Daydreamer1983]

Nope. It's still totally relevant. It's time to tease him a little, I think! :)

[Daydreamer1983]

Unless you spoke to him today, of course. :) did you?

[Asker]

No not today. I realize now there was probably one or two good opportunities that I missed... but otherwise there wasn't much of a chance to go up to him. I'll ty tomorrow though

[Asker]

I don't know though... he's incredibly hard for me to read. He does things like I've told you, where he's totally nice to me and compliments me and gives me high fives and whispers in my ear and the fact that he talks to me in the first place and so many things like that that seem like it means he likes me. And ther ehave been many circumstances where it seems certain he liked me... but then the rest of the time he doesn't try to talk to me very often and it seems like he completely avoids me sometimes. And the fact that he's just so friendly and nice and talkative to everyone convinces me that maybe he doesn't like me and just thinks I'm a nice person and that's all...

[Daydreamer1983]

Well he is acting like me... I never show a girl I like her (as you know. Today I actualky flirted another with another girl I don't really like that way but is still attractive- so there! It means nothing he's nice to everyone but sometimes shy with you). What you need to do is try the teasing him about rugby tackling you and what he says. he needs a sign you aren't just a friendly person but someone who likes him that way too.

[Asker]

Ok I will try the teasing :) and that's what I think sometimes too, but he's not a shy person... and even if he was with someone he liked it's the fact that sometimes he is just completely open with me at random times and other times not... like at our first orchestra concert this year is when he got super open with me. He kept calling me the nicest person he's ever met, and he basically ignored proximity rules and stood somewhat close to me and leaned in to whisper in my ear--to tease my friend, but still...-- and he gave me high fives, complimented my high fives and basically just acted like we were best friends... but then except for every now and then he doesn't talk to me... and I don't think it's bc he's shy. But I will do my best to ty to tease him and see how he reacts :) I've been wanting to tease him but it's hard for me to even approach him in the first place. :) and I like your rugby tackling to describe it haha ;)

[Daydreamer1983]

Any luck today?

[Asker]

Ugh I feel so stupid! I can't even talk to this awesome guy even though I really want to! We were standing by the door waiting for class to let out for lunch and he was like a few feet away from me... I mean he was on his phone so it kind of made him a little less approachable, but still... I literally just stood there staring at him basically... I imagined doing it like all last night but I failed! Ughh... I need helpp

[Daydreamer1983]

That's it! Give me his address I'm going to go see him tell him how lovely you are and to ask you out asap!

[Asker]

Hahahaha I really wish... That would be amazing :)

[Daydreamer1983]

I think he's shy and wants you to meet him halfway.

[Asker]

Possibly, I just somehow need to find a way to do that and meet him halfway.

[Asker]

I can talk to any other guy easily and exactly how I want to... but him... why must he be so difficult?

[Daydreamer1983]

I know it's hard to fathom at times shy it's so hard. You need to be ruthless and take the few and far between chances that come.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm going to keep trying :) and I'll let you know if something happens. But I'm mainly counting on our orhestra concert in May and we have another small concert like a couple weeks right after. :)

[Asker]

So how have things going for you?

[Daydreamer1983]

I'm totally crestfallen. I've only seen her once this week and I got a 'hi' with not too much enthusiasm. I saw her twice after but she was serving customers but I did not even get eye contact from her. I felt a bit sad over it.

My job role at work has changed. Likely after tomorrow I might not see her again. I don't even want the job as it don't allow me any more money, just note responsibility and stress. I feel like circumstances and the universe is telling that this girl isn't going to be mine.

[Asker]

Well that's all the more reason to go talk to her! Tell her it was great knowing her and you hope you guys can stay in touch. Tell her she was lovely working with or that you'll miss working with her or something and if she doesn't reciprocate then, well, you can move on if u want to, or if she does like you or at least as a friend you can schedule some time to hang out :) make yourself say something since you won't get another chance and you don't want to regret not saying anything for the rest of your life. But even if she doesn't like you back, don't worry, there is some amazing girl waiting out there for you :)

[Asker]

Did you see her today?

[Daydreamer1983]

I saw her for a very short time. I was in a very cold room doing stock counts and she came in wrapped in a big freezer jacket. And she said 'I'm so ####### cold Dave! (I'm called dave for the purposes of this story. It's not my real name). she said she was feeling unwell (and she looked it) and she was annoyed her boss had sent her to look for stock there when she wasn't well. I said I'd get the stuff for her if she wanted. But she rifled through the stuff herself and was mumbling and saying how cold she was and throwing my name in there a lot. Then when she had found what she was looking for she went leave, but the door had closed her in. Her hands were full so I had to open it. She was moaning how cold and sick she felt and kept ending her sentences with my name. I opened the door for her and she scarpered off. I think she went home sick because I didn't see her for the rest of the day.

[Asker]

What's your impression of what happened?

[Daydreamer1983]

I really don't know.

[Daydreamer1983]

What's yours?

[Asker]

Well to me, it's interesting how she kept saying your name. It means she's acknowledging you rather than just talking and complaining to the air and was possibly reaching out to you. Maybe try to comfort her or ask her if you can help. If you see her again, ask her is she's feeling better. Even if she doesn't answer abouting wanting help, go help her And show her your chivalry. She'll appreciate your gesture at helping her when she wasn't at her best. But a lot of the time, if girls use your name or even use it more than necessary, it means they prbly like the sound of it bc they might admire you.

[Asker]

Or maybe she kept saying your name bc she wanted you to say something back or comfort her. Did you respond at all while she was talkig?

[Daydreamer1983]

She just talked non-stop! Just blabbering to herself almost, but saying my name at the end. No eye contact except for when she first saw me too. I did talk back but she was so frantic and talking non-stop.

[Asker]

Saying your name consistently is a good sign :)

[Daydreamer1983]

The rest not so, huh?

[Asker]

The rest as in what? Saying she was cold and stuff?

[Asker]

There were no bad signs, all that you told me seems that it was basically her saying how cold she was the whole time but she kept saying your name, so saying your name a lot is a good thing

[Asker]

If that's what you meant

[Daydreamer1983]

The whole lack of eye contact, running off really quick, not talking about anything specific kind of makes me think she is just awkward to be near me though.

[Asker]

I feel awkward around my crush, so that doesn't necessarily mean anything specific. And i especially feel awkward making eye contact with him. And it sounds like she just felt pretty miserable and bad in the first place so she probably just didn't feel good enough to stick around and talk.

[Daydreamer1983]

Ok. Well I might not see her again anyway. I just felt powerless and she vanished so fast and just talks over me.

[Asker]

I think she just felt really bad and miserable. Don't feel bad. You'll probably get another chance :) but you should ask her if she feels better when u see her again

[Daydreamer1983]

I might not see her again though. And I just feel like even another girl at work who I barely even know cares more about me than her (this other girl is strictly a friend I should add). it just feels futile.

[Asker]

Well like I've said, you never know. Everyone is different. It's very possible she's waiting for you to make a move first or get you to really talk to her or see if you'll go after her.

[Asker]

Wouldn't it just be so much easier to go up to her and get to know her and actually find out if she likes you or at least become better friends than just waiting for her to give you a definite sign or come to you and then stressing yourself oUT over wondering what she's feeling? :)

[Daydreamer1983]

Yeah that is the normal way to do it. But what we have isn't normal. When we are together she just blabbers constantly and is edgy or just, different with me. I talk to other girls, even flirt with some, and it's easier than this. Maybe if we can't even talk it's a bad basis for anything.

It looks like I won't see her again anyway. Maybe we should just focus on you now ;) actually, you seem lovely- will you just marry me instead?

[Asker]

Different doesn't necessily mean wrong. We all treat certain people different ways, especially if we have feelings for them. :) and of course it's easier to flirt with other girls, it's the same way for me with guys and the guy I like. And I'm not completely sure whether you're joking or not haha, but I'm flattered either way :) You seem like a magnificent guy and I would love to be with someone just like you ;) <3

[Daydreamer1983]

When will you see your crush again?

[Asker]

Today

[Daydreamer1983]

Give him the biggest smile and if gets too near say 'I hope you have shoulder pads on cos I've forgotten to bring my crash helmet!'.

Any idea what music or bands he likes? I dare to learn one of the songs on violin and the next time you're at rehearsal play it all innocently like you have no idea he likes that band and see how he responds.

Be cool. You are cool. He's weak like I am with that girl I liked. You're the one with the power. Test the water.

Enjoy.

[Asker]

Alright, will do. But I don't know what kind of music he likes.

[Daydreamer1983]

You not got his Facebook or Twitter?

In that case, Beatles or radiohead. My heart would explode if a girl I liked started playing one of those bands. In fact, I met my friends new gf for the first time the other day sge liked all this obscure music I love. I could not believe it. Trust me it might work. But then again, you think his musical passion is fading huh

[Daydreamer1983]

Sorry I should've added it made have a little crush on my friends gf for being so cool. ;p

[Asker]

Haha that's ok :)

[Daydreamer1983]

Any sparks today?

[Asker]

No not yet. We had a lot of tests yesterday so there wasn't really a good time. But I'll see him again today

[Daydreamer1983]

Go for it! :) x

[Asker]

Today in one of our classes we had to do group work and I was in his group :) although it was just him and his good friend and then me and another girl so nothing really happened and he just goofed off with his friend mostly. I pretty much just stood there watching the whole time and then he asked me to do something so I did it. Then he said something about me taking one for the team... but nothing really happened and didn't say anything bc it was kinda awkward with his friend there... but there were a couple times where we made eye contact for a couple seconds... other than that though nothing happened...

[Daydreamer1983]

That's cute but frustrating. Maybe he was trying to look cool and playful and used his interaction with his friend to do that. It's just a shame you didn't get a chance to chat to him more.

[Asker]

Maybe...
Anything happen for you?

[Daydreamer1983]

I'm in a very stressful point of my life- I've been appointed to a new job in my place of work that is more responsibility and more hours, but no more pay. I'm not happy and struggling. It also means I see her much less. Having said that, I saw her three times yesterday - the first I was approaching and she looked, then when I was there she kept her head down, maybe because she was busy with customers or maybe to ignore me? The second time she was up near my bit to get stuff- she asked me where it was, then said she was taking it and kept saying my name after every sentence. Again, just talked non-stop and in a kind of playful voice, and made little eye contact. It's almost as if she doesn't want me to be able to talk or ask her anything. Then I saw her as she left and she looked at me then looked away when I was close to her. Super confusing

[Daydreamer1983]

On the other hand, there's a girl who calls me babe and keeps asking if i missed her and wants me to hug her all the time. Yet has a serious bf!

I think you need to tease him or pick on him a tiny bit, see how he resoinds.

[Asker]

yeah I'm trying to wait for a good moment to do so. Although im pretty sure when I do it will certainly evoke an interesting response or reaction from him no matter what :) Today was interesting: one class I have with him, we sit at two people tables, and he sits at the table in front of me on the left side (I'm on the right side of my table). So the person that sits next to me was gone today, and at one point he leans back all the way, stretching, so that his head and arms were on my table. I was taking notes so I just continued and didn't look up at him bc I felt so awkward... like I felt like if I looked up, his face would be right there...

And that's a shame you don't get to see her as much. You should take advantage of the times you do. Use that as an excuse to go talk to her. Be like "hey how are you? I feel like we haven't talked in forever/ you feel like you never get to talk to eachother anymore" or even that you miss talking to her or seeing her cute smile everyday.

[Asker]

And if a girl likes someone, she will sometimes ignore them bc they don't want to appear too desperate, even if they are, or they want to see how you'll respond. Or they're shy/ intimidated and trying to get the courage to go talk to them (as we both have experienced :) ) and as far as the other girl with the bf... who knows why some people do what they do... sometimes you just don't know human motives... but maybe she's just really playful and likes you as a close friend. But even people in relationships can still be attracted to others at the same time. It's human nature, it hppens. But that doesn't mean they will leave their bf for another

[Daydreamer1983]

Today was your perfect day to tease him, especially when he is leaning over to where you are and all that stuff. You have to take a little leap of faith and tease him. If girls don't quite pull it off, guys forgive them. When guys mess it up, they can look a bit desperate or sleazy or whatever. He seems like such a nice guy he would overlook any awkwardness and welcome any cheating or spontaneous action from you. I know I would. Girls who are a bit more open and fun and willing to show their vulnerability by putting themselves out there are super attractive.

[Asker]

Yeah I know... it's just that I don't think of doing that when I have the opportunity... I like shut down and don't know what to do and freak out that he's near me or talking to me in the first place... I know what I want to say when I imagine circumstances in my head but whenever a real circumstance happens it never comes out...:(

[Asker]

And it's not like I'm hesitating or debating whether to say something or not... I just literally stop thinking around him and am basically running off of my subconsious...

[Daydreamer1983]

I understand. I do the exact same thing. They can ask you a relatively simple question and you can't even form a simple answer because your brain is jumping through hoops. That's why you need to think beforehand how you can tease him and pick on him so the conversation is skewed towards him thinking fast on his feet.

[Asker]

Tomorrow is basically my last chance to talk to him until the fall. And we have an orchestra thing for most of the afternoon so I'm going to force myself to say something to him. I was thinking of telling him to have a nice summer and such. Is there anything I could say that's sweet and that he might remember but that's not something very forward like I LIKE YOU! Just something nice. Or do you think just saying have a nice summer is good? Since I barely talk to him anyways

[Anonymous]

Could be that he's uncomfortable doing that with you. He might be worried about your reaction. I've been doing this but it's because we work together. I joke around and tease the other guys but never him. I was always nervous he'd figure out I liked him and he wouldn't like it. However, I found out he was taking offense to the fact that I was joking around with everyone but him. It actually made him angry. So I've started to. It could be why he does that with you.

[lostgirl_searching]

Usually guys teases girls because they mean they like you like one of my guy friends teases me but in a flirty way because he likes me but if they don't it could be mean he likes you as well, if you like him you should tease him, I shocked mines by teasing back and we have so much fun teasing each other in a flirty way.

[Mikaychay95]

I think he may like you! Funny that everyone says he will tease you because he likes you but in this case he doesn't yet teases everyone else because instead of trying to get your attention in general he's trying not to screw anything up.

[BushBabyBoo]

Well, he can't be teasing everyone, that can't be possible right? He probably just respects you and knows you're a nice person and wants to treat you well. He might like you, but I think it's too hard to tell from this.

[Asker]

Yeah, obviously not everyone, but a lot of girls. That's just his nature. What else do you want to know? He's so confusing to me.

[BushBabyBoo]

Well I think it'd be too hard for anyone to tell, even you. It could mean anything and you won't know unless you flirt or tease if thats what you want to do.

[Asker]

True. There was one night in particular that my friend really thought he liked me. And most of the time after nights like those he'll talk to me more the next day at school. But then it starts to fizzle out. So who knows. But I'll try. I feel like I'm being too obvious whenever I try to go talk to him though. Like I want him to know I like him, but I also don't want him to know.

[Midnightbreeze]

How you behave determines how you are treated. Guys normally are shy of shy girls. Perhaps you dont sound and look playful so he thinks you might dislike it. But he respr t and is shy of you. Start teasing him and youd be amazed what he'd start doing to you.
WARNING: Get ready to recieve crazier teases

[Asker]

How do you suggest going about teasing him since that line hasn't been crossed between us yet?

[Asker]

In other words: how should I go about this? It would kind of be uncharacteristic for me to just randomly tease him.

[Midnightbreeze]

Its all about being touchy but dont touch sensitive areas. You should get closer to him how intimate you are determines what he can and can't do with you

[Asker]

The touch barrier hasn't been crossed either except for high fives so should I start with a high five maybe? I know that's prbly lame, but he's given me so many so it might mean something, plus were only in high school so anything more might be too sudden

[Midnightbreeze]

How did he get to know you?

[Asker]

Honestly, I'm not completely sure. The first time I talked to him was at a school dance when we had dance cards with assigned people to dance with and he was one of them. I didn't have a crush on him then. I don't think we talked again until our spring concert and he started giving me a lot of high fives then.

[PlayboyRJ]

Actually I have an different opinion here than most people.. I think you only tease someone you are comfortable with.. It could mean he likes you and doesn't want to upset you but it also means he his not comfortable enough with you or you can say not very open with you.. My advice is make him more open with you by teasing, sharing jokes, physical contact etc.

[Asker]

Maybe, except sometimes he DOES seem too comfortable with me considering we're not really friends. What with the excessive high fives, being close to me, whispering in my ear ( :-) !!!) and such :) I just can't figure out this kid ;)

[PlayboyRJ]

Well you could do something to find out ;)

[Asker]

I try, but it never comes out. I forget everything I planned to say and forget how to act normal all the while trying to stay chill which pretty much always ends up in me missing the opportunity without realizing it until afterwards or making a fool of myself...:(

[PlayboyRJ]

Well, I know it's difficult but if you don't do something now you will regret it your whole life.. Maybe you could use others help.. some friends you can trust... they can help create the right situation for you.. if you know what I mean

[Asker]

Yeah I tell myself that but it's still hard for me to approach him and when I do bring a friend I still can't say what I want to say bc I blank out. I end up giving one word answers without meaning to and I don't realize until afterwards that I could've made a great conversation and took it in any direction if I could only get past the one word answer. But I'm going to keep trying. :) it's not that I'm nervous, really, I literally just can't think at all around him and part of me is trying to keep cool so those instincts clash and then this happens.

[PlayboyRJ]

Ok just don't give up...

[Asker]

I won't :)

[PeachSunset]

In general if he doesn't treat you the way he treats any other person (not including treating you in a horrible disrespectful way) then he most likely likes you. He sees you in a different way than others. And he's probably to shy to tease you around. So he likes you <33 hahah

[Anonymous]

i1127.photobucket.com/.../ezgif.com-add-text.gif He likes you and what the rest of the GAGers said

[Klaatu51]

then that means he's afraid to tease you because he likes you and he's afraid if he makes you angry basically

[Asker]

Awww :) or maybe he just knows I'm kinda shy and thinks I need the confidence boosters by treating me super friendly...

[Consultant]

Just grab his butt or something. Send him a signal he can't misread.

[kileyc]

favorite comment by far hahaha

[Consultant]

Lol thanks OP. Just to be clear tho, I'm kidding about the first sentence, not kidding about the 2nd sentence.

have fun :)

[Consultant]

Oh wait @kileyc you aren't OP. Nvm, thanks again tho!

OP: Why am I not MHO yet? :)

[sham100]

I think he is scared that if he teases you, you might think he has a crush on you.
He doesn't want to to get the wrong impression and get hurt and he doesn't want to ruin your friendship.

[Asker]

That would make sense. But I wouldn't necessarily think he had a crush on me if he did tease me, since he naturally teases everyone. The fact that he DOESN'T tease me is the reason I'm confused. :)

[sham100]

You know that it wouldn't mean to you that he has a crush on you but he doesn't know what.
I think he is being cautious not to give you the wrong impression. :)

[Asker]

Very possible :) sometimes he's not cautious enough though ;)

[sham100]

I think if he was interested he would have approached you by now, told you if he felt anything especially when he knows you have a crush on him. :)

[sham100]

Always remember that actions speak louder than words. :)

[Asker]

But I don't think he knows I have a crush on him... but I totally agree that he would've approached me if he was interested... but it's just the way he acts and talks when he does approach me that have me confused. Maybe he just doesn't feel comfortable telling me he likes me yet, if he does. Or he doesn't realize he does yet, which is what my friend thinks

[AnnicaCrespin]

high fives... lol. how old are you guys? anyways he probably assumes you would take it the wrong way or hurt you if he teases you. doesn't necessarily mean he likes you though.

[Asker]

High school. He'll sometimes give me the most random high fives. Once I was walking down the hallway between him and my friend and my friend did something "mean" so he felt the need to reassure me for some reason and tell me it was okay. Then randomly he holds out his hand in a low five position. At first I wasn't sure if he was just hand gesturing or what bc he didn't give any warning except just sticking out his hand so I kinda hesitated and then finally he was like come on give me a high five... so yeah. That was kinda awkward, but they're usually random like that. And that would make sense if he doesn't Want to hurt me. :)

[LotusBloom]

If you're the only one he doesn't tease, he likes you. I had a similar thing happen with a previous crush of mine. He used to tease me a lot less than other girls. Well, before I told him I liked being teased a bit.

[theoriginalnick]

Oh yeah, he's trying to make you like him in fact. That's how a guy tries to make a girl feel more comfortable around him. Seems to me like you've got a crush, so try and go for it!

[rajashikh]

he likes u and he's trying to be careful not to do anything stupid and screw up everything... if he gets the green signal he might probably make the move.

[martyfellow]

He thinks you are too sensitive to put up with teasing. Are you?

[Asker]

No, I don't mind being teased as long as it's just playful, which it would be if he teased me-- so nope.

[martyfellow]

He might think you're too sensitive though.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

He could like you and be afraid to tease you
cause deep down your extra special to him
he thinks well i tease her she might not go out with me

[FreyaDiermayr]

I don't know sounds like he likes you, but for MEEE, guys aren't mean to me because i think they're intimidated by my uhh shyness or something and think i might punch them

[katedepp32]

maybe he's into you or he's just trying to be nice with you because he thinks you're nice and he would like to be your friend

[MysteriousFlower]

Its respect that shows that he likes you, and its much more identifiable then him being a meanie! :)

[Asker]

True! :) but if he likes me, wouldn't he try to talk to me whenever there's a good opportunity?

[MysteriousFlower]

Yeah he's just shy :)

[Golanu]

Sounds like you are friendzoned. I use to friendzone girls too...

[madpete1111]

Why don't you tease him and see what happens. Oh, and he might be gay so... ya

[moxygirl11]

He thinks you're really nice and doesn't want to hurt your feelings

[Jersey1]

He said you are the nicest person he ever met, so teasing you wouldn't be fair to him. He may like you too.