It's difficult for a guy to be in that situation, sometimes.
Even though you were polite in your rejection, their feelings for you don't just disappear. You may consider the matter over with, but everytime they see you, they'll be experiencing that attraction to you. Only this time, they'll know that nothing is ever going to come of it, and that's a hard thing to deal with.
Imagine if you had feelings for someone, and they ended up getting together with someone else, instead. It would be painful to see the person that you liked with someone else.
A lot of guys will simply avoid contact to protect their feelings. It's not fair to the girl, who may be losing a friend, but it's also not fair for the guy to surpress his own feelings, either. It's just one of those situations where somebody always loses.
If you value the friendship, and want to keep them as one, I would just let them have some space for a while, for their feelings to dissipate a little. Just check in with them occasiinally, to let them know that you still value their friendship, even though you don't want to date them.
If they can come to grips with that, you'll be able to retain them as a friend. It's just up to them how well they can deal with it.
Because it's uncomfortable and awkward for them. I've been in that situation before. The best thing you can do is continue being a friend to them... eventually they'll get over it
Being friends would be too uncomfortable and in the way of them emotionally moving on.
Because they're hurting and it won't help seeing someone who rejected them over and over.
Uh cause it hurts to see them again I guess? Also boys your age may just be more sensitive...
Well wouldn't you do the same. I mean, if a guy liked you, and you don't like them, wouldn't it be kind of awkward?
because they don't feel comfortable anymore maybe?
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