my boyfriend of 5 months broke up with me a few days ago over the phone. I know he really liked me and we built up our relationship. he said that his ex-girlfriend who he'd met while he was in Australian and was with for a month but had been split up for 5 months had recently come back into his life (a week before we split up) and he said he can't ignore his feelings for her although his feelings for me are still strong. I think he made this decision because they have friends in common..it was one of his mates who brought her up and that there's loads of them going to Australian in about a week. he associates her with good things but that's not always how its going to be when they're back in this country. I'm gutted and upset and hurt. things were really good and I feel he's just made an impulsive decision and not really thought it through. do you think he will regret it once he's back here? and I feel like I'm the ones who an emotional mess. do you think he even misses me? please help me. its torture.
I know it's hard, but I have to say this. You desperately need closure. He chose a girl over you, in impulse. No hard decision making, he just made it. This means his feelings for you, while genuine, weren't enough to stop him from going back to her. Get over him and move on. I'm sorry.
I wouldn't take him back even if he did come back. It sounds like you're second choice right now. He may or may not regret it depending on how things go with her, but I suggest you move on. He'll only start to miss you if things don't work out with her. You should not be okay with being second choice or backup.
All you can really do is wait if you really want him back. He could well make a similar snap-decision to dump her and go back to you. BUT if he's that willing to give up on your 5 months so quickly for someone he dated for a month is it really worth having him back if he valued your relationship so little? Your choice, but in my opinion you'd be doing yourself a favour by getting out of there.