When a guy breaks up with you, does he feel pain and heartbreak as well?
My ex and I just recently broke up. Saturday to be exact.
The past 2 months I guess you could say, we've been having problems, but always worked them out. He moved away to college (only 2 hours away though.), and it seems like ever since then, things have been strained and tough. Well we still acted affectionate towards each other, went on a few dates when he'd visit. But then the phones calls started coming few and far between. But we texted everyday, and would leave messages on Facebook, chat on Facebook, things like that. If he didn't text me, he'd call me.
Then the sweet little text messages would stop, and we'd just have regular conversations, and then we'd hardly communicate on Facebook at all. I noticed, as well as others that he had changed since he left for college. Like almost like he was depressed, and really unhappy. He was always negative, moody, tired, stressed, and I told him bluntly that he had changed, and that at times he was unpleasant and not fun to be around.
He admitted that he had changed, and that he didn't like it. We then made a "pact" to treat each other better, and to be ourselves again. Well then I asked him how he felt about me, and he would not answer, he said so there would be no miscommunication over texting (we learned from experience), so he said we would call me the next day. He didn't call me, and I asked him if he was going to, he said no, it would be best to be discussed in person. So I asked him if he was going to break up with me, and his reply was, "Who said that?!" so he told me not to assume that everything was fine, and not to worry. So this past Friday I told him that I was coming up to visit him, and he was excited about it! So I get there, and he gives me a HUGE hug, that I couldn't breath. Then he held my hand as he gave me a tour of the college. And when we got to his dorm, I pulled out the shirts that I had bought for him, and he tried them on...but he never said thank you. Well, we go out to eat, and he grabs my ticket to pay for my meal and said, "I'm your boyfriend. I'm going to pay." so we walk back to his dorm, and he's holding my hand, so I let go to walk down some stairs, and he says, "How come you never hold my hand anymore? Every time I try and hold it, you let go!" So I grabbed it, and we walked into his dorm, sat on the couch, and were watching TV. He wasn't talking very much, so I said, "I'm sitting next to one of my favorite people." and smiled at him, and his reply was, "Good!" then he put his arm around me, and we snuggled while watching TV. Well then, he moves his hand down to my waist, and pulls me closer to him, and places his other hand around my neck, and was caressing it, and he laid his head on mine. Later, when I had to leave, he takes me to meet his friend first, and she follows us to my care, he hugs be goodbye, and leans into my car and gives me a kiss goodbye. I told him I would text him when I got home. (I'll continue the rest on a reply...)
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Forget him. I was in the same situation as yours and my ex told me the same line as your bf.
"If I can't treat you like a princess, then I don't deserve you. You deserve someone better."
Omg please, that's just his ways of saying: I don't wanna be with you and I feel bad about it. He doesn't have feelings for you any longer. Move on. He said it himself that he only thought of you as his good friend.
I know it's hard not to see him again since you have same friends etc. Me too. But you know what, when I and my ex meet in group situations, we just don't talk. It might be ackward but we have to do what we have to. He didn't tell you wanting to break up because he's still unsure on how to say it to you. So, when you brought that up, he sees it as an opportunity to say how he feels that is his feelings has faded as a lover for you.
To answer your main question: Yes, guys can feel that way but it depends on the situation etc. If he only thought of you just as a fling, then I doubt it.