When a guy stops acting shy around you, does it mean he is no longer interested?

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Ok, I know these types of questions are getting old. This one guy who used to come off as really nervous around me didn't act like it at all yesterday. At first I was happy that he was able to talk to me because it has been frustrating me for a while but not I'm wondering if it is because he lost interest in me. Do shyer guys ever open up to the girl he likes or does it seem like he is over me? I read this article again succeedsocially. com/shyguys and I couldnt find anything about a shyer guy being able to just change his ways.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

well i'm a shy guy when it comes to things of the heart. I went on a few dates with a shy girl who got cold feet. She then said we were just friends. i remained friends, friendly and spoke to her when i saw her but stopped texting and emailing her. By doing this i was giving her space to decide what she wanted to do, well a few days ago i got a text message on my phone from her and she asked me to hang out with her next week. So in my instance, i had to treat her mean in a nice way to keep her keen. in relation to you, maybe he is doing the same, but it seems strange. is there any one you can trust friendly with him maybe that can perhaps do some undercover investigative work for you?

AllThatSweetJazz · Accepted Answer

Once a shy guy feels comfortable around you he'll speak more confidently because he trusts that you won't think less of him. He feels he knows you better and won't fuck up. He still likes you, you should escalate things.

_calypso · Accepted Answer

Everyone is shy at the beginning, so I think he warmed up on you. But that doesn't mean he isn't interested in you. Nor can I guarantee that he is. Did he give any sign that he isn't interested? e. g. he casually avoids physical contact, doesn't stare at you for at least 4 seconds, treats you like you're a 'bro', etc. But if he really is the shy type, maybe befriending him first will be the best move. Shy guys are really... elusive. and their version of flirting is reaaaally subtle that you will just mistake it for a friendly gesture, so.. Pay. Close. Attention. :)

Anime27 · Accepted Answer

my boyfriend was shy as hell at first but now he is just himself which I love. It is good that he acts himself in front of you. you don't know 100% for sure what he is feeling on the inside (butterflies and all that) but if he's comfortable enough to act himself around you I would see it as a huge plus. In relationships guys can be your best friend and your lover and if you're lucky enough to get both then that's great.

Hanjheo · Accepted Answer

It really depends on the guy, some don't. But others, like my guy, do. He was really shy and awkward with me at first, but relaxed into it after he realized that I wasn't going to bite his head off. It really depends on the reason he's shy or nervous in the first place and if it's just with you or in general. It also depends on all the other underlying personality traits he has.

DANNYBASSMAN93 · Answer

Well in all honesty it could be 1 of 3 things either:

He found someone else he finds of more interest

Placed you in the friendzone because he saw something about you he doesn't like.

Or... he's grown used to being around you and feels comfortable and confident enough to be more open, which doesn't necessarily mean he's into you.

On the other hand he could be playing the confident card and trying to read your reaction on him being more approachable. Who knows? You'll just have to find out.

AARON9890 · Answer

If he has been talking to you for a while maybe he is gaining a bit of confidence and feels more comfortable around you so as a result has stopped acting shy around you. If he hasn't talked to you before then maybe he's just decided to take the plunge and go for it. If he wasn't interested he wouldn't give you the time of day, so its likely that he's interested.

Kapakani · Answer

You should actually be feeling the opposite right now! It means he feels comfortable enough around you to show a side not many others see. I'd say interest level has risen or at least is above 70%. But the are other factors if have to know to fully know if this guy is "into you" per say lol.

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

I can come off very shy towards a girl to not talking to her
cause i become secretly in love with her and there is
not much i can do but try to overcome that and he may
of not loss interest in you he could be in love with you
watch his actions around you, does he blush around you
does he get real quiet when your around, these are things
you need to look for with him?

Jolson131 · Answer

Maybe he got a big dose of self-confidence. I know for me I used to be shy when talking to a girl I liked. But after reading lots of articles and watching a lot of videos about pick up "Game" I realized girls don't want to talk to a guy whos a bitch. So maybe he just realized if he wants you he needs to sack up.

Setesh9 · Answer

It could mean he likes you even more now that he's comfortable with you. It could also just be him breaking his shell. See how he reacts to others (male and female) before making a solid decision. If he's AS comfortable around males he's just met as he is with males he's known for a long period of time, he's breaking his shell. If he's just as shy around girls he's known for awhile as he is around guys he just met, he's just shy (or has woman/mother issues).

CountVronsky · Answer

We don't get so shy and nervous when we gain more confidence with the other person by spending some time together. Confidence is a good thing. I can't assure you that he likes you, but his acting less nervous around you is definitely not a sign that he doesn't.

Sandvich · Answer

For myself its the exact opposite. If I get to the point where I'm no longer shy around a woman, it means I'm very interested in her. Because it means that I like her and trust her enough that I can take down some walls and be myself.

rahul1307ghosh · Answer

If he is changing on purpose then he is doing this to act confident and probably impress u. But yes there is a chance he is getting over u so try to talk to him more often and give him some attention then if he still likes u then will probably ask u out..

Radon · Answer

It almost sounds like you don't want him to be as confident as you saw him last time? why? because you said "it has been frustrating me for a while but now I'm wondering if it is because he lost interest in me", so you want him to suffer in silence when you know he likes you and you just sit there and do nothing about it but when he gets his balls together and come forward you think there is a problem problem... Are you even interested in him?

Xelebrum · Answer

No. It's usually because he's comfortable around you. Which is a very good thing, because it's rare for shy guys to feel comfortable around certain girls.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it simply means that he is comfortable around you.

Whatfloatsyourboat5 · Answer

He could have became comfortable with you. Maybe he does still like you and figured that if he stops acting that way that he would have a better shot with you.

godfatherfan · Answer

maybe he isn't shy. It is a lot harder for guys to talk to women then visa versa. But once we do it and see that she is receptive, it is a lot easier. Sounds like he decided your not going to reject him immediately and the barrier lifted.

Ashely_Princess · Answer

Maybe he's likes you and he's trying to open up to you more and trying to not make you think that he's shy all the time. Maybe he's starting to come out of his shell.

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't mean he's lost interest at all. Guys don't play "hard to get" the way girls do. If he's spending more time with you, it could mean he likes you enough to get over being nervous.

GOOSEBOY78 · Answer

shy guys can change their ways but it takes someone else to "open them up" and bring them into the light.

Robbey · Answer

I'll add to the chorus - it means he's comfortable around you and is being himself

ClassyClaudia · Answer

it just means he comfortable around you (: its a good thing

aegis_penguin · Answer

It could be because he is feeling more comfortable around you.

When a guy stops acting shy around you, does it mean he is no longer interested?

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