Regret a Break up?

[Anonymous]

Ladies in particular, have you ever regretted leaving a good guy? I dated my girlfriend all through college and she just left me to go play the field I guess.. I was so good to her. Affectionate, ambitious, nice, thoughtful.. etc. Wasn't overkill or anything though or whatever. Lately I just feel like all the girls go with jerks. Almost like these girls enjoy being treated poorly. I just always wonder that maybe she'll be treated like crap by someone or decide that she's an idiot and want to come back. What would make her regret leaving me? Think she ever would? Why do us good guys always finish last?

PS- I was her first everything basically too.

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It's been 6 months since we broke up, and I haven't heard from her. I moved back to my home city to start over because it was way too hard where I was. Just seeing her around, etc. I just wonder if she'll ever come back? Or ever miss me? I miss her.

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Also, should I extend a hello at some point? I sent a few drunk emails months ago, but haven't since. I just don't want to look weak, but I really miss her. My pride is kinda holding me from texting her.

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It always seems to be a big head game with women. I don't understand how she could just forget about me. I was her first everything, and I was so good to her. I understand we're at different points in life.. but still. Feel like I'll never win. It sucks.

[cocacolalove11]

In a way I regret breaking it off with my first boyfriend. I left him because I had dropped to the very BOTTOM of his priority list. For our anniversary I just wanted a real date because we were long distance since he had gone to college. After standing me up to go out with his friends to see the movie we were supposed to watch, I had the last straw. I left him to go after another guy - the "nice guy who finishes last" type. I really did, and still do, want the nice guy who treats you right and is completely in love with you. However, this nice guy and I have been dating for two years now and the connection and love I felt with my first - the guy I left - I don't feel at all with him. I love him, of course! I really do love him and I keep trying... he just doesn't love me. :( I regret breaking it off with my first because the love we had between us was so intense and passionate - the kind you could write pages and pages about in a letter. I miss that... I miss having someone look at you and the love pour out of their eyes. I regret breaking it off for the most part, but I know if I wasn't of importance to him, then I deserve better... I hope the nice guy works out for me.

[spongebob101]

well. let me tell you that I broke up with a good guy(my ex boyfriend) 2 months ago. and believe me I regret it so much! I miss him so much and I feel like an IDIOT. he was so good to me, never had a problem with him except when he moved to college. this made it hard for us to see each other and we were so goal oriented that we kinda just forgot about our love. not only that I was still thinking of my ex boyfriend(my first love) and it made it worst. in may we had a lot of problms because of that and he was calm about it, but my ex at that point wouldn't stop emailing me and such and we would get in fights. also, my first love never got to be with me because of my parents and therefore I always had that feeling of what could have been. now, I regret it! because when I went back to my first love, I realized that he wasn't what I wanted that it was my boyfriend. but by then it was too late. I love him and I wish he would give me another chance. so yes, she will regret it, sooner or later. but it might be too late.

[katie1994]

i broke up with my boyfriend of one year because honestly I just got bored...this new guy came into my life and it was so exciting... so now I'm in a relationship with this new guy who is now rapped around my finger and I love him... but now I'm starting to realize how much of a better guy my ex was ...but now its too late its been 8 months and I can tell he's moved on... and I can't hurt my current boyfriend like I hurt my ex I don't know what I want! I'm so confused as to if I made the right choice=[...but chances are she is gonna end up missing you if you were that good to her...but you can't wait on her ...u need to live your life and see who else is out there. you may find someone else you like even more and will want to be with you as much as you want to be with her. I don't deserve my ex and I don't think she deserves u

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have regretted not being with that guy :( Well, at the time I wasn't feel attracted to him so it's kinda a tough call. After sometime I realized that I need that kind of guy in my life. At least now I know not to let go that kind of guy if he comes along!

I am sure she will regret her decision sooner or later. Good guys are hard to find these days :( so don't worry and don't change being jerks just because... I am sure that you will and can find someone as good or better! It's all about the timing and just keep believing...

G'luck ^.^

[Asker]

She always was attracted to me in the beginning. She's the classic case of "ugly duckling to swan".. at the moment she's got everything she's lacked all her life (friends, attention from guys, etc).. Though I was there for her every step of the way through this transformation. Basically I was good enough when she was a nobody, and nothing now that she's a somebody. I was so proud to be her bf, and never cared about others opinions of her. You're sweet and thanks for your best wishes :)

[nerdietranie]

Oh, trust me, she'll definitely regret leaving you in the future. It's just something about us as humans; when we're young the only real thing we cared about in a person is their looks more than their personalities. As you grow older, you become wiser, and realize you need someone to spend the rest of you're life with, despite what they look like, as long as they had all the qualities she wanted in a person. Do you still love her by the way?

[Asker]

I've never loved anything as much in my life as I loved her. It's been six months so I've gone through: sad to mad to neutral now. There isn't a day that goes by in which I don't think about her. Still upsets me when I have too much free time and think about all the things she's probably doing. I lost my best friend, my love, my everything. I do wish her all the best though with her life and I hope that she really does find happiness and peace. I also hope for the same myself.. I miss her though

[forever]

I feel you! My ex didn't treat me right though but I still think about him when I go to mall or anywhere I've been with him :( I don't want to be with him but I still mourn over him! grrr...

[Asker]

I am sorry to hear that. Thing is I did treat her right. I treated her like a queen. We were the best of friends. Would always be together and happy.. I miss her cuddled up between my shoulder, and surprising her with flowers to her work, or just even a little message in the day to remind her how much I loved her. But I think her friends talked her out of being with me since she's "hot" now and I'm not. Just a total transformation from what she used to be... I wish I understood...

[spongebob101]

dont let your pride let you down...but you also have to think that maybe she has already moved on and forgotten you...but at the same time you don't want her to think that you are not thinking of her and missing her...its a tough situation, I'm in it right now..and it hurts..