WHERE ARE ALL THE RUGGED MEN AT?

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the beards, the mucles, the big bodies, the height, the rough voices, the rough hands, that little cave man inside, the roughness, the chivalry, the assertivness, the masculinity... TESTOSTRONEEEEEE !!!
hehehe

WHERE THEY AT?
a lot of guys these day seem so soft and feminine (on the outside mostly), and mens fashion seems to be going that way as well
whyyy?
and its the opposite with women, the type being promoted is the more masculin-ish woman... but this is about dudes :P

where are the rugged dudes... get me a cave man (with manners though lol)

my absolute 100% perfect type would be the sweet giant type of guy <3 
men with strong bodies and fragile hearts :') <3 oh how amazing

but yea back on point... why are men getting more inclined to be more feminine and women to be more man like? what is it these days? the fashion as well...
i dont like it tbh :(

Levin · Accepted Answer

Realistically, there must be a million reasons for this, but I'd suggest that part for this is that the first world war bought about huge structural changes to society, with the mechanisation, dominance of knowledge and technology, and strive towards efficiency with nations competing against each other and the furtherance of globalisation.

To cut a long story short, society has strove to ever increase its productive capacity, so women now work. Historically, in many cultures of the world, women have been dependent, passive creatures, this a patriarchal society. This has naturally led to a lot of resentment and bitterness. So women have desired to become independent and respected, because... who likes being dependent. The problem is, we still haven't gotten past this false dichotomy, this understanding of yin and yang. If one is yang, ie aggressive, expansive, non reflective, then this is naturally at the expense of yin qualities: ie reflectiveness, passiveness, little in the way of action. Society is structured as such, that one can really only succeed, in business most overtly, if one is avaricious, aggressive, dominant, etc. So women have taken on male characteristics, as a necessity to succeed. The vestiges of patriarchy remain. If you like, women are 'playing' with male characteristics.

The reverse is probably true with men. Those qualities simply aren't valued and cultivated in men, we're no longer a physical society. One is often shamed for embodying a man. Women love a man knows how to 'play' with them and not fawn over them, but this is not how we're conditioned to interact with women. It's too sexual and objectifying, we're told. It's too imbalanced towards knowledge and... bitchiness...

I'd really say two things in response to your question. Personally I think one should be able to shift into, and play with both sides. Unbalanced personalities are not cool. Yin and yang theory states that extreme of one eventually causes one to shift and go to the extreme of the other. So we're in an ever switching cycle. Obviously, we're in a male feminine cycle, but it'll grow so extreme, that we'll grow so tired of it, that eventually we'll switch back.

I'm sure you can still find men to give you a good fuck, though...

cavmanier · Accepted Answer

You mean Madison Bumgarner? He's busy being married and winning world series.

Fionna19 · Accepted Answer

No idea where they at. But I agree with u that men nowadays are becoming more 'feminine' in fashion and personality too. Honestly i hate when guys wear super bright clothes that a female could wear. Also the light-coloured tight jeans? Just to add on guys that I know are really sensitive -c'mon touching up. We need more masculine men for sures.

lePoivre · Accepted Answer

Personally, I'm glad to see that femininity is finally being embraced by the male gender. I mean I don't dig guys who are basically women in the wrong body, at least not romantically, but it's good to see that it's becoming more socially acceptable for men to show their feminine side.

JoahZ10nT · Accepted Answer

yeah. were are they at? I want a real man just like you said hahah not a guy that is feminine!!! if you find a couple of man that are manly just let me know ;) lmao

Anonymous · Answer

Agreed. I'm not a fan of the pressure to make the sexes converge. Sorry--I'm not buying into it no matter how hard society moves that way. I'm a man, not a woman and unlike Bruce Jenner, I have no interest in becoming one. Also, I like girly girls--not manly women. If a girl wants to be more manninsh--that's fine with me. Happy to be drinking buddies with her or work with her, but not going to be attracted to her.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the main two reasons why men are more feminine is because of the extreme liberal movement that's going on and the food we eat that reduces testosterone and increases estrogen. The funny thing is that a lot of guys ARE big at young ages. Kids now days are much bigger than they used to be. Women as well. It's not a good thing, but that should work in your favor. Also, I don't think I'm feminine but I'm not tall or rugged or have rough hands or a beard. Chivalry? I definitely don't have that. I can't stand that shit.

Spotme · Answer

Do you have perfect skin, long blonde hair, long legs, big boobs, big butt, green eyes, great lips, soft feminine voice, small hands? Are you smart, talented, funny, cute, submissive, calm and have a non-nagging personality?

If so we should totally date.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Well we have a fella at my gym I nicknamed Thor lol, he's pretty, Norse god physique, long blonde beard, hair, nice guy though.

As to your question about why men are becoming more feminine and women more manly well you can blame society the media and their fucked up ideology for that. I for one have no desire to become feminine and I have no idea why and self respecting man would.

MrCryptic · Answer

You pretty much just explained me except that I don't have a beard and my heart is not fragile.

I think it comes from people being programmed to be more androgynous, so now you have more feminine men and more masculine women. I'll still be a masculine rugged man though because that's who I am even though I get occasional hate for it.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

I only like this kind of guy. They exist but I feel sorry for younger girls because they don't make em like they used to.

theFIN13 · Answer

Ahaha not all guys are getting soft but I get what you mean! To be honest I'm probably more feminine then masculine but I'm gay so that's expected these days. I'm not super feminine though aha.
If you find these rugged guys can you let me know? :)

Anonymous · Answer

Well I come south asia and I have seen these kind of man. I prefer a bit "gentler" ones. I am not scared of men in west but yes Im scared of men in south asia.

evenlift · Answer

You seriously don't know the answer to this question?

miserybusiness · Answer

Lmao I don't know about you, but I see lots of masculine guys

TheGreatShepherd · Answer

This post is so toxic, Get out your fantasy guys will be and do what they choose, if you dont like it move on.

Anonymous · Answer

If you find me a really feminine woman I'll find you a really masculine man.

Anonymous · Answer

Men aren't becoming more feminine. It's just acceptable to have emotions now

JackTyler · Answer

Well I'm more attracted to feminine men so I guess that's a good thing.

ELGRECO · Answer

In Canada, chopping down tree.

Questioninglife · Answer

Girl, I'm with you 💯

wisdom_sharer · Answer

At beauty salons. Getting their manicures.

MrSalik · Answer

Somewhere at space :D

springocelot · Answer

minus the beard, i'm dating one right now

Yasmine_yasmine · Answer

When you find them let me know

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