Sigh, now I am also depressed, because my body won't EVER look like "Miranda Kerr" I dont have that bone structure.
In the beginning. I just am scared I won't find someone new:(
You should definitely lose a whole bunch of weight. Say, if your boyfriend weighs 180 pounds, then that's exactly how much you should lose... by kicking his ass to the curb.
Look, we can't always control who we fall in love with, and sometimes we fall for someone with a great personality, high compatibility, but who doesn't have our preferred body type - and that's perfectly okay. BUT... if that's happened to you, then you don't say hurtful things about your partner's body like he did.
If I had a magic wand and could transform you into a Miranda Kerr clone, that might please your current boyfriend, but your next boyfriend might be much more into the Amber Rose shape (or some other shape), and you'd be back to the same issue. No one girl is every man's "type", which is fantastic since not every woman looks like every other woman.
Your problem is not your body, it's your less-than-effective method of choosing boyfriends. I obviously don't know you or the story of how the two of you met, but IN GENERAL, most people today rush into relationships WAY too quickly, long before they get to know the other person well enough and before they've had time to thoroughly evaluate their long-term compatibility. Worse, it's clear that your boyfriend lied to you about his preferences. Learn from this, and next time you are considering a boyfriend, take a lot of extra time, and spend a lot more effort asking questions about compatibility - issues like marriage, children, religion, sex, careers, money, retirement plans, lifestyles, etc. - things that will eventually matter if you two stay together.
Expect that many potential boyfriends aren't going to work out - you'll discover big incompatibilities when you start asking those questions. THAT's OKAY! In fact, that just means the process is working correctly. Just because you're attracted to someone doesn't mean you are compatible for a relationship, and you'll have to filter out many guys who you find attractive before you find one who will ALSO be a good long-term partner. But if you don't choose guys based on compatibility, you're just going to drift from one bad relationship to the next.
Most guys will recommend that you break up and make a better choice next time, and I have to agree. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your looks, by the way.
Mate, the beginning of that was brilliant
You can do anything you want to do. You have to understand those kind of women you see on TV and Magazines they have a personal trainer showing them what to do and they are right in your face pushing you at the gym the moment you walk in for your training appointment and if you try to skip a workout they are calling you and waiting at the gym for you, so most feel to ashamed to take a lazy day off so they just go. Plus they have a professional chef cooking for them and feeding them like a professional athlete no wonder they look so good. Takes money to make money and they pay the best to look there best.
I get depressed because I do have Miranda's body. Not a model body, obviously, but I'm that thin. I wish I was like the girl in the second picture, but I'll never be that. I'm the total opposite, because even though my guy always says he likes my body, I know he likes curvier girls. My guy LOVES big butts and thighs and boobs. :(
I know how you feel. Everyone could be telling you you're amazing, but if your boyfriend says otherwise, then he's right in your eyes. That's the one person you need to think you're a glamma.
My advice, leave your guy. You deserve to be with someone who loves your body. I know my guy likes bigger girls, but I also know plenty of other guys like my shape, and my guy says he loves my body because it's mine.
And if your man likes that stick thin look with huge boobs, he likes it fake. It's not really humanly possible to have Ds and no body fat anywhere else. Think, if there's no body fat anywhere else, how can all that fat be on the chest? It's silicone!!! He probably watches too much porn. You're too good for that.
Woah woah woah I know damn well you are not worrying over trying to figure out how to change the body god gave you for the no good lying loser your seeing simply cause your scared you can't get better do you want to know who else has this type of idea going through their heads women in bad unfullfilling relationships and women in abusive relationships come on your still young and your body is way better than Kerr's she has a boy body no hips no assault body like yours attracts real men while hers attracts guys who are half way to gay.
So break up with him. He has a right to be attracted to what he likes. But he doesn't have a right to expect you to change to fit that ideal.
If you want to lose weight, and workout, to make yourself look the way YOU want, and to feel how you want, that's fine. But don't do it because of him.
If I'm to be completely honest, I'd dump his ass, and catch an amazing, gorgeous guy who loves me for who I am.
Thats what you deserve. Someone who doesn't want you to change, and loves and wants you anyway.
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These girls are way too scrawny, and I'm not sure why you're with someone who clearly doesn't appreciate you whatsoever.
even the 2nd one?
@VampireEmpress Well, okay, the second girl is actually pretty reasonable. She is clearly at her optimum weight based on the alignment on her thighs, butt and arms.. Something is just a bit weird to me about her stomach, but maybe I just really haven't seen anyone with a flat stomach like, ever.
just fucking dump him?
tell him if he wants a body like Miranda kerr then she can go fucking find a girl with Miranda kerrs body instead of bitching to you like a little bitch. he can fuck her all he wants and then become really fucking sad and depressed when he hits old age.
Never seen so much fucks given berts... warranted though
Wow, icy... what a jerk. Would you say he is in general a jerk or did this come out of the blue? I don't want to automatically say dump him, because I know there is a lot more to a relationship, but if he's consistently like that... you don't deserve that. I don't like how he lied about it before, and it came out now especially so indifferent to your feelings. How did the conversation end? You should talk about it with him again and let him know what you think. See what he says.
Side note, you've got a great body, girl! Rock it. It's a shame he doesn't appreciate it for what it is.
Please leave him and aim for someone better.. He sounds like a total asshole. There are people who will appreciate you for you.
I'm so disappointed by how many women's boyfriends don't appreciate what they have to offer on here. Makes guys look really shitty.
Is it just me or your body is actually more attractive the Miranda Kerrs. You look really healthy while she looks underweight (I love Miranda but she does look a bit too skinny). Some boys are just stupid. This one guy told me I was fat and disproportionate when I only weigh 105 (I'm short) and been told I'm very proportionate by literally everyone else. Your boyfriend is clearly insecure about himself to body shame you
Just have a serious talk with him, and tell him that if he never liked your body type then why get together in a relationship in the first place?
Also his body type views seem unrealistic in my opinion, and your body shape looks great for me and many other guys.
So I guess you'd have to break up with him. Body shaming shouldn't be a part of a relationship.
I didn't read what the guys wrote, but you're going to find that a vast majority of men would rather have a girl with your body type over Miranda Kerr. That is not me just trying to uplift your spirit, that is the damn truth. There is something wrong with your boyfriend.
Please, just leave him. He's not worth your time. A guy should appreciate his girl. He should make her feel special, make her feel beautiful.. Make her feel wanted and loved. But, your boyfriend is doing quite the opposite. He seems like a jerk. I honestly think you should break up with him. You deserve someone better.
You don't look anything like Amber rose, she's curvy
And yes he has a preference, the last time I read opinions about preferences, everyone seems to think it's ok to have them
So it's his choice and right now physically your just not the girl for him... just like you may like certain feature about a man, he has preferences about a women
Just move on, you can't change yourself or his opinions
Your boyfriend sounds like a dick if he isn't going to tell you the truth at first. Plus, most men I know like a curvy body. I basically have the same body as Amber Rose, but mine doesn't look photoshopped and I have slightly smaller breasts. Plus, I actually have belly fat. lol
Wow, you are so hot! I can't believe he said he didn't like your body. Is he going blind? Seriously that is the only reason I can think of for him saying that. If he hates it so much dump him and go for a real man, one that appreciates that drop dead gorgeous body of yours!
Is this a troll? I was expecting to see some real monstruosity with a big fat huge legs and no boobs whatsoever when I read the discription.
Are you aware that your body shape is pretty close to perfection ?
(and when I say pretty close, I really don't know what's missing, i just don't like to give full 10s. But yeah you're a perfect 10)
He's very ungrateful for what he has. He'll have a major reality check when you dump him and he has to find someone else.
Yes, dump him. He clearly doesn't respect you and attraction is important in a relationship.
You think you won't find someone new? That right there shows that being with him is taking its toll on your self esteem. Tbh, you need to have more self respect and dignity and leave him. Women with hips, ass and thighs like the second pic and amber rose are the sexiest. Pear shaped and hourglass women are the hottest, you sound hot! Never settle, you're too good for that and you deserve better. Remember you deserve to be happy so you shouldn't settle.
To simply put it, look at this situation differently... you are allowing him to control you, change the way you look, eat less, become depressed... the problem isn't him. Its the fact that you must get up and do something... now of course, leave this guy. Why would you want to stay? Because you hate the idea of being alone? That is the problem right there... your self confidence needs to change.
If he doesn't like every aspect of you, he is most definitely not worth the time and effort. He sounds like he treats you poorly and critiques every thing about you. And that body time looks great to me, I don't know how he could be unsatisfied with that. I bet you look beautiful, and you deserve so much better than this guy.
He sounds like a winner! No, but that's just rude and wrong. You should love your body, and have a guy love you for you. Not everyone looks the same, and as you said not everyone the same bone structure ( mine will never look like this either, but I'm not fat, just have a different bone structure and build).
He sounds like a nob. As long as your happy with your shape fuck him. Men find women attractive for different reasons you can't morph your self into ever women he likes. One week he might like a "thick" girl then next week hell like a slim girls. As long as you feel sexy don't matter what he thinks because I bet when he catches men looking at you he'll shit a brick
I was gonna say something but I lost my train of though because that ass.
I think it was something about being pretty sure that with your body you could fairly easily trade in your boyfriend for another one who would be more appreciative of what you have, and would want to kiss, lick caress and grind on every square inch of it.
smack him for me because i have long legs and i love them. i think if he likes body shapes like kate upton he should not be with you. when you break up i guarantee you will magically love your body again.
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