My girlfriend keeps lying to me, what should I do?
i have been with a girl for 4 months now...and I really love her so much,and she told me that she loves me too... my problem is that she keeps on lying to me ,especially when its has to do with hanging with her male friends I caught her lying to me more than once and she says that she was afraid of me and that's why she lies although I didn't get angry with her (a little not much) and every time she promises me that she would be honest with me.
last time she promised is this Friday and today (Sunday) I caught her lying AGAIN to hang around with a male friend, so is there any way I could make her be honest with me?
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Unless you tackle this serious issue NOW, your relationship will be in serious trouble. I am going to make a couple of assumptions and please correct me if I am wrong. Are you or do you get jealousy easily? Is it possible that you gave her this impression and thus she is hiding things? You indicated that at one point, you got a little angry when she said she was hanging out with guy friends. There have been no other occasions where you got more than a little mad?
If these things did happen then there has to be a consensus. If they didn't happen then you need to have one FINAL discussion with her. She needs to understand that trust is essential in a relationship. Once the trust is gone then most of the time the relationship will falter. I would give her one more chance to earn your trust and respect back. However, the moment she lies again then tell her it'll be over for good. Then, make good on this. Because, I can tell you that if she is lying about small things like this then she will probably lie about many other things.
The decision is yours.
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If she's lied more than twice already you need to make her realise your not a push over or messing, try this, tell her you can't do with the lies anymore, and that you think you should break up, if she loves you and respects you she'll be devastated, if she doesn't then she won't and you will be better off, if she gets upsets and says sorry it won't happen again that's great but, make sure you say to her you need a couple of days to think about things. Trust me do this right and she won't do it again, I'f she does, get rid of her some people csnt help but lie, and if she can lie about something that's not much of a big deal then she can lie about anything, Good luck my friend hope it works out.
what is she saying?
for example does she say she is about to go to work, but instead hang out with some guy?
and how the hell do you know she isn't lying about being in love with you?
if she is doing stuff like that is probably cheating.
i would talk to her and see what happens.
after that decide wether or not it's worth it.
right now, 4 months in, things aren't going to get better.
if things don't change fast then you need to move on.
"she told me that she loves me too... "
With so many other lies, how sensible is it to believe the above?
"she says that she was afraid of me "
If she is afraid of flunking an exam, that justifies her cheating? Lame excuse.
"so is there any way I could make her be honest with me?"
If her parents, friends, teachers ...etc. with all the years can't do it, I wouldn't place too much hope on that. The thing to watch out for yourself is, has this become a pattern for you? i.e. attracting liars as girlfriends. If it is, this is the real cause for concern. You need to find out why (e.g. your chilhood/parental experiences -- did one of your parents cheat the other) you attract/being attracted to, liars. And break the pattern/curse.