Girls, y'all do realize that every guy you send nudes to is sharing them to all his friends right? MAYBE not your boyfriend... but that's ify?

[Anonymous]

Like this is a public safety type shit...

I go hang out with friends, they all start trying to show me pictures of nudes random girls have sent them... not even close friends or just one friend group... any group I've been in hell even strangers showing me the these pictures that I'm not asking to see or hell for that matter even want to see...

It seems like everyday I have assholes asking if my girl or some chick I'm talking to has sent me nudes, and then they try to get me to show them that shit (even if I never admit to having them), to which I get harasses. Called Captain Save a Hoe, call me whipped, or just flat out call me a bitch.

These guys, they just spread these pictures around as bragging rights, and they talk shit about the girls who share the pictures...

It's messed up... it is... you can't trust some random guy, hell even dudes in relationships have tried showing me their pics of their gfs or exes...

I know y'all hear this shit all the time, but as a guy I want to give you the first hand words of warning...

GOOD SEEMING GUYS WILL DO IT. They'll show people their phones and think that shit's okay since they're not putting it officially online or whateer...

That's all I wanted to do... give a warning... I'd have made this a my take, but I didn't feel like uploading some random pic... cuz I want it to be known th escumbags dont always look like scumbags.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe every guy is out there doing this. I'm sure some men respect the sanctity (especially if it's a woman they care about) on the other hand, if it's some random thot, maybe they won't care because they think that she doesn't. Don't give the guys all the shit, the ladies have a hand in this too.

[Asker]

That's victim blaming, and that's a highly self destructive thought process to pick up...
It is not a girl's fault for trusting a guy and him betraying the trust... it's the guys fault for betraying the trust... It's all about consent, you know? That's really all it comes down to.
The fact is, you're right. SOME men will respect it... but most won't. And I've seen boyfriends, husbands, and whatever all sharing these pictures. And the whole sharing ex pictures is always a thing to consider... These have been otherwise good guys who get into the group mentality and just start sharing along with everyone else...
I'm not saying don't trust anyone ever. but the point is that there's a vast majority who share them and they do not have to look like they would.
I mean I don't share the pics... and I'm not so arrogant as to think I'm the only one not sharing them... but being one of these guys, I can say that there's pressure put on us and many of us succumb to the pressure

[Opinion Owner]

I'm blaming both parties not one.

[Asker]

Yeah but you shouldn't blame the victims at all.
If they send the picture to someone they trust and that person betrays them, the betrayer is at fault not the person who trusted them...
You might say they shouldn't have trusted that person, and that's true, but you can't and should not put blame on the victim of the betrayal.
Once you say that you're saying that an idyllic world is one in which no one trusts anyone because everyone's a potential scumbag, rather then seeing it as in an ideal world people would live up to the trust that we place on them.
We live in a victim blaming culture, though, so I understand why you might see things a certain way, but the truth is that if victims are told that they're guilty for their pains then suddenly we're living in a world that says the culprits have a right to do whatever they want to whomever.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe it's because I live in that world, where everyone is potentially a scumbag

[Asker]

That's might be it, and you should be guarded for the sake of yourself, but hell if anyone does something to hurt you, don't you ever blame yourself you know :) I mean I've been in situation where I blamed my self for what others did to me and in the end it didn't do anything but leave me upset while empathizing with people who had hurt me.

[Opinion Owner]

It would be better to be numb to all emotions

[Asker]

Not true at all. If you're numb to all emotions then you're numb to the positive one's s well, and some of those positives are amazing.

[Opinion Owner]

Well I'm not numb so I do know how those amazing things feel

[lumos]

No worries, no nudes being sent here.
Also, you might just be surrounded by asshats.

[Asker]

Oh probably, but I get out plenty and mingle around multiple different groups of people from cosplay nerds, to hockey loving jocks, to business men, to peeps at the tattoo parlor, to just about anything really really... My point is, you don't know who the asshats are cuz some of them seem like real good guys. But good that you don't :)

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend doesn't even want me sending them to him because he doesn't want them on his phone or anyway for anyone else to get them. Must have just picked one of the good ones :)

[Asker]

Yes you definitely do. I never ask for them either, I've gotten them, but I don't ask for them, you know? It's kinda scuzzy to ask lol. But good for y'all

[Yokoneko]

Lol sadly that all dawns on you after the fact

[RebeccaSJ]

Probably.

[JennieF]

He better not!