Definitely not so. My first kiss and boyfriend came at the age of 21. I consider myself -with risk of sounding arrogant- to be a pretty girl.
I feel like being single for so long comes all down to you and your attitude. I didn't have a boyfriend for the longest time and I realized it's because I'm a shy person, I don't go out much and meet new people, and I'm insecure with the opposite sex. Long story short, I did a little growing up and started going outside my comfort zone. I still don't date often, but I do. And if you look in the dating section, I actually just posted a question in regards to a guy I like and wish to actively pursue. It happens. Not often, but it does happen.
Frankly, I think anyone who says those "phrases" are saying them because they don't know what else to say.
Do some growing up, leave your comfort zone, grow a pair and approach a pretty girl. But you need to realize that if you haven't really had a relationship at this point there is a reason for it. You need to reflect on why that might be.
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I do understand you point...This may sound silly to you but have you considered reading some good books on approaching women? Google it or start asking questions on the internet. The facts are not going to change so in order for you to be happier you have to change. Ask the guys where good places to meet women are...I'm sure you know but...Take a college class, join some clubs, go dancing now and then, and most of all...work on your confidence. You sound shy to me and to get over that you have to practice. Start by asking strangers in the grocery store if they know where the paper towels are for example...not silly, that's how most of us learn how to come out of our shells, buy doing it and practicing. And don't crawl back in your shell if you get told no thank you...Just keep on trucking~ Cheers!
Ok this is how I feel I don't know what type of person you are but I honestly feel that maybe you might be a little shy just break out of your comfort zone and try something different. And don't try so hard ease up a little on yourself I don't know what kind of girls you're attracted to but here's the thing I like it when guys are honest with me and I'm not saying when you meet someone be like hey I want a girlfriend because that would totally be weird but I really think you should try being a little less shy and just try to have fun. Most girls like fun people so if you're a fun person you should be ok
It's not their fault. When people want to be helpful but don't know how, they tend to babble. Try to be grateful that they wish you well.
Now, shape up your attitude. Self-pity sends women running. No one was born with the social skills to get girls. It's trial, error, hard work, practice, same as anything else.
If you NEED advice, get the advice of a guy who gets a lot of girls. Otherwise, watch the guy getting the girls, and do what he does. Don't ask why, and don't ask if it's right--do it.
I agree, any girl who tells you to stop looking is BSing you.
There are only a small group of woman who are brave enough to initiate anything with a guy... and guess what, they usual get what they want pretty quick so the likely hood of running into one is slim at best.
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When you're first meeting a girl, don't be looking for a girlfriend. Make friends, and if you feel like she might like you ask her out. If you get rejected, it f***ing hurts, everyone knows that, but move on and find another girl you like to pursue. There are so many women in the world that eventually one of them will date you.
I know that wasn't exactly a cup of hot coco answer, but I'm trying to be blunt so you get it. It's going to happen eventually no matter what you do, beyond shutting yourself in a room and locking the door or hitting every girl you meet with a baseball bat.Sorry I can't answer for the world but...Why is it that you haven't had a girlfriend? Are you shy or lack in social skills? Not trying to sound mean just curious. I can't believe that you have been turned away at every corner...My intuitive mind tells me there's more to the story...
OK either get a sex change to become a girl and get the relationship you want or stop b*tching, man up, and go meet some girls! You're right, for the most part girls are approached by guys, guys at the very least initiate that first bit of contact, and guys wind up risking rejection way more than girls but that's the way it is and there's really not a whole lot you can do about it. I'll tell you what doesn't work, complaining about how you're p*ssed because girls don't come up to you and ask you to be their boyfriend. You just said so yourself, it's the guys role to go out and get a girlfriend so go out and get one.
And I happen to agree with those phrases that you insist are complete crap. My last boyfriend I started dating when I wasn't looking for anyone and everyone that I know now that's in a relationship didn't go actively looking for one and in some cases weren't that impressed with the guys they're dating now when they first met them.
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