When a guy tells a girl he is not ready for a relationship, what he means is that he is not ready for a relationship with HER. The end result of this is usually that the guy can keep the girl going for a lot longer than he normally would be able to, because she starts thinking that there is hope for a relationship with him in the future. They will use things like 'wife material' to make the girl feel good about herself, make her think of the guy in a positive light ("he thinks I would be a good wife, he thinks of me like a wife, that has to be positive...")
If a guy is sleeping with a lot of other girls while saying these things to you, he is never going to get into the position where he is suddenly going to give up sleeping with other women just to be with you. If he wanted to do that, he would have done it already. A guy like this may settle down with someone in the future, but it will be with someone new that makes them change their ways, someone that they decide they do want to be with instead of being with a lot of other women. Someone that they haven't hooked up with while also seeing other people.
Never believe a guy who basically says "stick around, I will change my behaviour regarding you at a hypothetical point in the future". It will not happen. It is a tool of control and a very common form of manipulation. He will be telling all of the girls that he is seeing the things that he thinks would be most effective at keeping their legs open for him. For some, it will also be telling them that they are wife material. For some it will just be building up their self-esteem by constantly telling them how beautiful they are. For others it will be playing up how rebellious they are by sleeping with him and not being the good girl their parents demand of them.
So, yes, it means he still wants to have sex with a lot of other people, but likes you enough that he wants to include you in the list of people he is having sex with. Despite his claims, it does NOT mean that he will actually marry you up after a while. A guy doesn't suddenly get tired of sleeping with a bunch of women. It takes a game-changer to pull them out of that behaviour. If that was you, it would have already happened, unfortunately.
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Maybe he meant he wasn't ready to settle down yet
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