Sorry, this is a long post, but need some advice and similar topic... So I moved to a new city in another country and there is this guy from my home town who also lives here, we have lots of friends in common but have never actually met before. We had been meaning to meet up for over a year and it just never seemed to happen, timing was never right. Then I started to develop a kind of Facebook crush on him, he makes beautiful art very similar to my style of art, we are from very similar backgrounds and almost the same age (28+29) and he is really attractive. Anyway we eventually organised a meeting and after all the time we had waited I had got really excited and it almost felt like going on a date, even though I told myself many times that it wasn't!!! When we met he took me to this smokey, candle lit bar and we sat in the corner (it was already pretty romantic). We got on so well, literally spoke about everything, familly life, growing up, work... relationships... and I was kind of feeling the whole time that it was a date and it was going really well until he told me that he was living with his girlfriend. Now I don't know what to do, obviously the meeting continued to go well and we ended up leaving the bar separately quite drunk (he also paid everything, refusing to let me contribute anything). We said we should definitely meet again soon. But it's so annoying, I can't get him out of my head. I really feel like he is my absolute dream man but I can't work out if he felt the same and I know I should completely forget it as he has a girlfriend who he lives with. But I cannot work out if he is just a nice guy or was he in to me, maybe he is like this with all girls? Since then we have texted just a couple of times just saying again that we should meet again soon and I went to see his exhibition but he was out of town and he said he wished he was there so he could give me the tour personally. I feel pretty stupid liking someone that is in a relationship anyway and I know I should forget it... He is probably just a nice guy that is like this with most people he gets on with.
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Likes you:
-asks you personal/deep questions (going beyond small talk)
-appears to really listen to you and is genuinely curious about your life/interests
-preens himself around you (like with his hair or his clothes)
- touches you subtly (like a small hug)
-did he smile/face light up when he first saw/met you? Then he probably finds you attractive
-asks for your number and messages you after you met
Just being friendly:
- small talk mainly, asks generic questions
- looks around the room a lot instead of staring into your eyes, appears to be distracted
- doesn't touch you.
- doesn't really listen to what you say
-forgets your name more than once
- appears to be very confident and not at all nervous around you. Also his smiles (if any) will be very false and not genuine
tries to touch you a lot. Gives you lots of compliments, hangs on your every word, aaks for you number. gets a glow in his eyes when he sees you.
If I like you, the first conversation will contain some nervous braggadocio that's easy to see through. I'll joke about whatever you're doing in a way that is poorly-disguised flirting. If you bring up a topic we have a common interest in, you will see me light up very quickly, and even forget for a second about how shy I am. I'll test to see how much you really know about the topic, and then obsessively educate you about any detail that I feel you still need to know.
If you light up too, I gauge the waters to see when to call the conversation quits If you fall awkward silent for too long, I'll assume I said too much and excuse myself from the area.
Also, if I like you, I'll wave to you and smile more than I would to anyone else. I'll treasure every encounter with you, whereas I might usually ignore a regular gal or even avoid her, depending on my history with her.
In subsequent conversations, if I have a serious crush, it will be hard for me to talk to you. It's because my own romantic aspirations drive me to perfectionism, and I'm too afraid of screwing up to spit out what I want to say.
The old saying: "If she rejects you, so what?" isn't true. I've been hurt by 3rd parties that gals have badmouthed about me to, because she'd rather use 3rd party intimidation to get rid of me than reject me to my face.
Therefore, I'm terrified of rejection. Not because it's humiliating, but because I'm convinced she won't stop at simply rejecting me. She'll try to ruin my life next. I'm fed up with constantly being ushered into back rooms "for a chat" by authority figures who refuse to explain in advance that it's really about her making up stories, and then not allowing me to defend myself from her allegations.
I wind up not only resenting the women who do this to me, but especially resenting the authority figures who have a guilty-even-when-proven-innocent mentality. Because no matter how unfair the circumstances are, the only one who ever pays is me.
Confident guy: is going to be very direct with you, compliments you, maybe even touch you and will ask your number right away. he will ask you a lot of questions too!
Shy guy: you can see it clearly in his eyes, he might fail to maintain a strong eye contact, however. he will open himself to you if you made him feel secure and make the first move.
But being friendly? hmm i think guys are only friendly if they are interested in you. unless if he was waiter, manager, receptionist, doctor, last but not least GAY.
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Even as an anxious and shy guy I still send sinlgnals. I look in their eyes and I have the tendency to say wonderful a lot. Like say you say that you recently got promoted or something in that nature I would say well that's just wonderful glad to hear.
This really depends on the guy. If he seems more outgoing and open he will most likely flirt and send signals. If he is shy like I am he will never let it show and only show friendship. Just look for signals if you like a quiet guy you may have to STRONGLY hint if not tell him out right.
He leans forward closer to you when talking (especially the case if you two are seated opposite one another), looks you in the eyes for longer, might run his hand through his hair occassionally (kinda like girls haha), and otherwise just tries to be around you more and talk more often.
you should be able to see it in his eyes. they say the eyes, never lie
If he starts stripping naked and biting his lower lip while locking eyes that's a great sign.
If he tries to be nice (maybe a little too nice) he's probably into you. If you two are talking and he looks you straight in the eyes, he likes you (maybe not too much to ask you out. Sometimes, if you walk up to him when he's talking to his friends, his friends will be either nice to you, or tease you a lot. These are both signs that he likes you. Hope this helps
It is different with every guy you have to notice how he treats all woman if he treats you considerably with more affect or has more contact or whatever its more likely that he likes you
U will find him sometimes hyper and sometimes quiet, he will be a gentle man with u and this will be clear to u.
He will ask u for hanging out, facebook, going to parties. He will be interested to be with u.In the first conversation, I may like you, but still can't be sure I really like you until I know more about you...
I think there's no sure signs except for gut feelings. I suppose you can always feel there's something more there rather than what he say or do.
If you know this guy but, have never made virbal contact, chances are that what he is experiencing is a crush. On the other hand, if you are interested in him, don't waste time waiting for him to make the first move. He may be shy so, go for it.
Don't ask subjective questions expecting objective answers.
Just do this test:
Go up to him, "hey cutie wanna see me naked?"
If his jaw is open and stutters some incoherent response then you're good to go 👍Any guy that concludes that he likes you before concluding his first conversation with you is a guy that you shouldn't be messing with because he's too easy.
A guy that likes you would flirt with you and tell jokes to make you laugh. A guy being friendly would just talk to you.
Ugh... read a my take! It tells you. Also, the answer is simple !
I like a girl: Sup girl I wanna fuck that pussy.
I want to be her friend: Sup girl I wanna fuck that butthole.
See after a butt fuck you can always stay fiends. Anus lacks value.If his knee isn't on your knee then he's not interested
Signs he like you = wants to have sex
Signs he's just friendly = wouldn't mind having sex with you
Signs he's just friendly but your just unattractive = he wants nothing to do with you sexuallyeye contact... body language.. word i don't thing they define
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