How do guys know they are handsome?
Some guys say, "I'm really handsome/good-looking, if only I could get better with talking to girls or making moves..." How do you know you're... Show More
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There's a HUGE difference between being "Good Looking" (genetic potential) and "Looking Good" (socially calibrated man of status.)
You need to change your mindset about women and dating. Women are FAR less superficial than us guys, so you need to accept that how you look has very little effect on her attraction towards you.
Instead you need to learn how attraction works. Women respond to who you're BEING, not how you look, or what you say.
It's about how you see yourself, and how you express your value, worth, esteem.
This is why women will continue to say they want to meet a man who's "confident and funny" over "handsome and rich."
Because attraction is about feelings. You need to influence how she FEELS if you want to attract her. This comes from how you express yourself (are you shy, weak, insecure, needy, desperate, conceited, shallow, superficial, or judgmental?) and how you interact with those you meet ( are you calibrated, comfortable, brave, trusting, mysterious, humorous, interesting, caring, sincere, or honest?)
Let go of the ideas of being "handsome" and you'll be free to REALLY see what women respond to - who you're BEING when you're with her.
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Good luck dude!
What Girls Said 14
well if you get a lot of female attention and winks and flirting your way in a situation where there are a lot of girls then you're a hot guy generally.
if you think you have a fit body and nice features then you're a hot guy :)
I think being well rounded makes a guy handome.. if that makes sense.. guys can be attractive who are hot but to be handome having world knowledge, skills, and other things are the main differences for me..
even though some guys may openly stare at a hot girl, girls generally don't do the same thing. Like if I see a hot guy I'll give him an up and down and maybe a smile. Or if you notice a group of girls all looking at you at once, you most likely were just the topic of the convo. My friends and I point out hot guys all the time to each other. we don't snicker or giggle cause we aren't 5 but we do let each other know. Also I might look at a hot guy without doing any kind of once over, so if you think no girls are checking you out and you're waiting for an up and down, you might be waiting forever.
You'd have to be told because the whole getting checked out thing is harder for guys. Or if you someone who girls talk to a lot at parties and hang around you might be attractive physically.
that's all I can think of to answer your question, sorry if it was no help.
Sure looks are nice, but then again looks aren't everything. I think its the personality that is more important.
Maybe you are looking at the wrong girls? Who cares what the wrong ones think? When you come across that someone special she will think not only that you are handsome, but her world. Be confident, without being cocky and be sure of yourself, without being hung up on looks.
if your told your good looking-handsom then you are...maybe you need to put yourself out there a little more to keep interest
Girls don't gawk at guys the way guys gawk at girls. I might look twice, but that's about it. I guess that there is really no way of knowing, but I go for muscular guys with no acne and a good sense of humor.
It depends on several things, such as how observant you are of furtive looks, etc. Not getting a lot of looks could mean you're not much of a looker BUT it could also mean you are so good looking that people are shy/intimidated to approach you. Unless you have any obvious physical defects, I also find that womens' aesthetic preferences range quite widely from girl to girl. For example, my taste in men is completeley different from my roommate's. Ask an objective buddy who's not afraid to give you a piece of his/her mind.
you're handsome if you pass by a group of girls and they look/stare at you ( followed by whisper and laughter) :)
i think being handsome is more about your personality and the way you look. you know your handsome when a girl likes you for your looks, and love you for your personality. it makes you feel more confident when you know there's really something that makes the girls want you.
If a girl tells you that you are handsome you are handsome.
If a girl tells you that you are handsome you are really handsome.
Looks really aren't everything in a relationship. Personality is very important, and girls really really appreciate a guy with a great personality.
Personally, if there was an extremely attractive guy with a horrible personality I wouldn't want to date him, and I don't think many other girls would either.
Then on the other hand, there is a not so attractive guy, with an amazing personality. The excellent personality just makes the guy so much more attractive than the one with the horrible personality.
it has nothing to do with being handsome it's all about the attitude.
What Guys Said 26
I never say I'm "handsome". I sometimes rarely say I think I'm "cute" or what I like best about myself.
Men- Care about how a woman looks
Women- Care about feelings (..behind security / attraction / etc)
1) Men know how attractive they are based on their own self-concept. If they view themselves as attractive, that's what they see. Someone else commenting that they are ugly or otherwise is basically disregarded like trash. The confident man (not cocky man) will know how he appears and always try to improve, but he is satisfied within who he is. (Which encompasses his looks / personality / depth / skill / etc)
- He could judge his own physical appearance based on how he feels towards himself. Obviously a "fat kid" could say "i'm fat" - it's the same thing towards physical appearance- "I'm handsome".
2) "Women don't seem to be interested" - There are several ways to influence this. First, how do you appear? The topic seems to regard a personal concern within this issue. Do you see any areas where you would like to target for improvement? Or do you notice there are things about your approach that you'd like to correct?
- When you can "target" a specific area for improvement, do a little research about how to improve that area within yourself. For instance: Personal Looks? Join a gym or do home excersizes... Approach? Work on becoming outgoing or "practice practice practice"... Hygene? Make a daily routine to follow.
There are always ways to improve any given method, it only takes a creative mind to find a way- search within yourself what you would like to target and provide a reasoning as to why- I may be able to guide you in the right direction.
Perhaps, if you're learning that you get passed up for guys with bigger personalities, you should consider letting go of this "am I cute?" insecurity and start working on your personality?
Women will notice you from across a room if you're cute, but she falls in love with your personality.
If any woman besides your mom has said you were handsome, chances are you might be attractive. Take me for example I know I am good looking, I've been told this many times by many different women, and even some dudes. The only person that really matters on if she thinks I am or not is my gf, if she says I am well then I must be.
Hot chicks aren't going to drop everything and run to you if your handsome, the only way they will do that is if your a celebrity. So does that mean dating is going to be a lot easier, nope not really, you can be handsome and as smart as a fence post and women aren't going to date you, so it really doesn't matter what you look like, so trying to get women based on looks alone isn't going to work, you gotta have more than that to offer.
Wow this is terrible.
you just can't trust womens advice or opinions.
To all the people who insisted that girls don't care about looks:
That is not the point of this question. This is about what makes a guy handsome, not what makes girls attracted.
I want to know this too, but man, stop answering every question with the same lines about confidence and self-esteem.
I know I'm handsome, because I can look at myself in the mirror and see nothing physically wrong with me. A month of working out and tanning and I'm all set. That and I am who I am and that's a guy who makes more money then most of your parents.
Most girls don't care that much about looks, certainly not to the extent us males do about theirs.
Do some running and weights to tone up, get a good haircut, wear clothes that suit you, take care of your skin. Straighten and whiten your teeth. Consider facial hair if you have a weak chin or thin upper lip.
You want to find out if you're good looking? Post your picture up on HotorNot, or on here, and wait for comments/votes.
Put your picture up on Hot or Not. That's what I did, and now I know.
i personally believe that girls are very complicated creatures who can sometimes be spoiled brats...my simple opinion would be this, " make sure that you set up your lifestyle." Make sure you know exactly what hobbies you like and pick a style of clothes that you believe goes with your personality...the reason is that the more you are into it, the more cofidence you seem to show...if you know for a fact that a certain lifestyle makes you feel like you the more comfortable you are with yourself and that reflects on how you interact with the world...dont try to be something you are not because that automatically makes you feel uncomfortable and that will show in your body language and gestures in the long run...oh yeah clean shoes and a nice fresh smelling cologne will enhance that style...whatever that may be...
It's good that people are thinking less about their looks (whether they are right about how handsome they are or not), I think it's better to focus on conversation skills and making moves.
To answer the question, I don't think they do know. You can't really put yourself in a woman's shoes. What they find attractive will probably be different to what you think is attractive.
So unless people actually tell you I don't think there's any reliable way of knowing.
If you're wondering why people haven't made comments on your image is because when you're trying to have fun you don't worry about image. Get out of that vain mindset.
Oh and don't even bother trying to work out how interested girls are.
You never know. You're just putting yourself down.
Girls don't care how you look, they care about how you make them feel. If they feel a certain way depending on how you look then they are quite shallow if you ask me.
Well bro. yhuu havee 2 havv confidence inn yhurr self... Thatz all ihtt ihzz... I mean yhuu could bee thee ugliest guyy ever but iff yhuu give ihtt 100 percent ihtt wot matter if yhuu are handsome because at least 1 girl will fall for yhuu...
With guys and girls it's mostly about your confidence and hygiene. You'll be good-looking to most if you have these.
every male on earth thinks he's good looking. there could be an old fat 50 y.o. with a combover who could look in the mirror and say "looking good."
LOLLLL. TALKING TO GIRLS OR MAKING MOVIES. WHAT A SCOPE FOR ENHANCEMENT.
Anyway, its all a personal thing.There's no set definition of good looking, so if a lad feels he's got the looks, who's to say he's wrong?
I have been told I'm a 10 by some women and others rate me at a 4. I thank them for their honesty but I don't hang around the women that rate me rather low.
I am an information sponge and that helps when starting or continuing a conversation. If there is a convo I know nothing about, take the time to listen in and then you might be able to say something the next time.
Confidence is a good quality to have. This goes along with thinking things into existence. If you feel that a girl is going to shoot you down before you ask her out, chances are she will somehow pickup on this. It could be body language or how you say things. Women can be very receptive to subtle things and are better at sensing when things are wrong.
Honesty is the best policy but learn when to say what she wants to hear. I'm honest to a fault and thus why I wouldn't say I have many close friends. The truth can hurt and many people don't risk asking me what I think about things.
Figure out what your best qualities are and run with it. I wouldn't dare challenge Michael Jordan in a one-on-one game of b-ball but I might challenge him in a strategy game.
when you start talking to an attractive girl...and you make them nervous..
Guys just know
Yeah people lie about my appearance too. If there's no evidence, it's probably not true. If a guy is good looking girls would be all over him.
Like you said, people tell you. For some people, they are told by their friends, which I think should be taken with a grain of salt, since friends often don't want to insult each other. As has happened to me, people I don't even know (or barely know) will give me compliments, which I would say is a better indication that a feature is good.
Generally, if you are told you are handsome by men and women, then you are a pretty handsome guy. Also, if you get a nervous glance away when walking past a girl you are an intimidating good-looker.
They ask me.
I'm writing this as anonymous so I don't come across like a conceited prick...
I am a pretty good looking guy and am going to try to go into modeling as soon as I can. However, I never actually know who thinks of me as attractive. I just sort of know that me being easy to look at is some general consensus.
I mean I'm very confident in the way I look because I put a lot of work into it. I like looking good so I hit the gym, don't drink soda, eat just right, drink lots of water so my skin is nice, etc. And also I know what other men women find attractive and I can see some similarities between me and them, so I can sort of infer that everything that I do works to some degree.
However I've learned (the hard way, unfortunately, I used to be a real idiot about this) that regardless of how "generally good looking" I am, it's wrong to actually make the assumption that I have attracted any girl in particular by my looks alone. One girl might look at me and think I'm some exotic beauty and another girl might see me as plain.
And so even though I've had a couple of serious discussions with some close female friends where my looks are the conversation topic, and they all agree that I've got what it takes to model and I'm a uniquely attractive dude, I don't ever get that sort of attention just walking around in day-to-day life. To be honest, even though I'd be flattered, I'd of think any girl that treated me like that as pretty weird.
I just take care of my looks for myself, not really for other people. My personality has always been what works (or fails haha) in the past, not my "look", so it's not like I got some shortcut into a woman's heart.
guys don't "know" they're handsome. We play it off like we are and hope the girls follow along