There are two things I look for before even considering anything else when it comes to women:
1: What kind of music does she listen to? I don't care if she listens to metal, but I simply cannot ever date a woman whose favorite artists all consist of "bands" that I can hear on the local Top 40 station. Now, there are some exceptions. Adele, for example, is tolerable. But to me, listening only to radio-friendly stuff signifies both laziness and ignorance to the world around them. In addition to metal, I also love prog, ska and punk rock (think Bad Religion, not Blink 182). Musical diversity is a great asset to have; I'd love to be challenged by someone else's taste in music instead of repulsed by it for a change. Even though I don't care if she listens to metal, though, I will say that if her favorite genre just happens to be metal, then I will be quite happy.
2: The personality. I love confidence, assertiveness, and a willingness to stand out from the norm when it comes to women and people in general. Passivity annoys me to no end.
For example, the girl I am currently crushing on right now is a vocal performance major who mostly likes a capella and other random things that emphasize vocals as the main "instrument" of choice, but is dabbling into other genres as well. She is extremely strong-willed, but not inflexible, and extremely pretty (Not that this particularly matters at all, but it doesn't really hurt, obviously). Basically, she's the nicest smartass I've ever met. Of course, I put myself out there and asked her out several months ago, and she friend-zoned me. So my plan of action (which includes keeping my options open, obviously), has been to continue developing our friendship while also posting music on my Facebook in hopes of catching her attention. I don't think it's working, and I don't think it will, because her roommate is an asshat of the highest caliber.
For what it's worth, my favorite bands are Blind Guardian, Ayreon, Melechesh and Symphony X.
I listen to everything, but metal is a favorite of mine. A lot of my friends became hardcore followers of metal and went way beyond what I would consider "good music" when they started listening to all that death metal and satanic stuff. It all depends on the person really. One of my friends is dating a slightly "gangster" girl, before that he dated a prep. But then I have other friends who "HATE PREPS AND SKATER FAGS". If they are "metal heads" because they love the music and no other reason, then a girl from another social scene has a chance. But if they are like some people I know who weren't that popular, so they all started listening to metal and banded together and started wearing black clothes, dying their hair, and have no other friends but themselves, then there is no chance.
The possibilities are in the extremes, in my experience with this subject, there is no middle ground, they either exclusively date outside their circle, or within it.
This is why on an average day you might see me wearing a band shirt, guess jeans, a studded belt, and pumas, as long as they look good together, I mix up my style to avoid being stereotyped (high school is retarded that way) and it's worked thus far.
Yeah it is. I know a guy who's all "punk" and is going out with the "girly-girl" kinda girl. And trust me they look really good together. As long as you and the guy click and have good time on daily basis. Of course there's a chance for a relationship.
I too would really like to know what sort of girl metalhead guys go for, because I'm a metalhead girl, but nature has designed me to look like a bimbo so I usually I wear baggy band tees and jeans. But..is that the right aproach?
Yes it is. Everyone is different as far as what they are attracted to.
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I know that every guy is different, but personally, I tend to go for women that know what they want. I actually fell for a chick because she almost kicked my ass w (Or, at least she THOUGHT she could) when I first met her. If a woman fights back, she's a keeper. That doesn't mean that I want to date someone who is a bitch. The chick I mentioned earlier is actually VERY sweet and sensitive, once you get to know her a little bit. In fact, basic psychology says that aggressive people tend to be more sensitive. The aggression covers up what they perceive as a flaw. As for looks, I tend to go for emo looking chicks. A good example of what I'm talking about can be found on these videos (Note-This band is Metal! Don't be fooled by the "Emo" hair!)-
(Look at the bassist.)
Another thing about the girl I like is that she is passionate about what she does. That makes her hot EVEN when I don't enjoy the same things as her. I was at my Church (Yes. I'm Christian, so you can leave your "People Who Listen To Metal Are Satanist" comments at home.) Super Bowl party and (I'm not kidding!) I saw her literally JUMP up onto a chair and start cheering. I can't explain why I liked it, but it struck a chord within the very depths of my soul. Also, when people call her name, she'll stand straight up, look directly at the person talking to her, and deal with them accordingly. If you want to know what it looks like to me, watch this-
Well, anyways, good luck.
I would say that, ideally, they look for a girl who is into classic metal or classic rock. Even if she's a bit into mainstream music, as long as there's some slightly heavy guitar parts, then there's hope that the girl can understand metal and get to know it and even like it. I would say that the goth girls or girls that are already into the more underground genres of metal (death & black) might even be secondary to the prior mentioned type, as a good amount of the girls that get into the more brutal stuff first tend to come off as "poseurs". Same for the guys actually. A preppy girl who's into fashion and dance clubs is a long shot, but if she has the right mindset (an individualist with an open mind and clear focus on her goals), then the metal head type would tend to think that she too could come to understand, appreciate, and love metal. 'cause after all, no matter how brutish, it tends to be the most intellectual, visually appealing, and fun genre in the music industry.
i would date any kind of girl, but my pref, would be a fellow metalhead (thats a girl of course)
im the most metal guy you'll find, but I still find all girls attractive
as long as she's not dissing it then I'm fine with her music interests, besides its not really taste in music that defines whether you like someone or not, its only a factor
Look I am die hard metalhead I don't wear nothing but band shirts khaki, black skate shoes etc and what I want in a woman is one who excepts me for me , and doesn't want to change me or try to change me as long as you except my passion I don't care if your a prep , Goth , what ever but I can't stand wigger chicks though.
ima metalhead, I'm deeply into megadeth, motley crue, children of bodom and lotsa edgy music of the sort. yeah id date a preppy girl, idc what label she is as long as she accepts me for me, loves for who I am, and supports my goals then I'm all for it. I look mean lotsa time and wear dark clothes and play bass, but that's me and I'm not into being loved for who I'm not, but id rather be hated for who I am
i date I girl who listen to mainstream music which I hate but I love her so she also deals with my death metal fetish,lol.
I like any type but the girl I'm crushing on right now is a cheerleader/prep. What clique a person is in doesn't matter.
Hey the thing is that we as metalheads are happy if we are accepted so if you accept him or he accepts you it doesn't matter what type of girl you are by the way my girlfriend is the total opposite from me
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