It is more complected than that. Some friends are more important than others. Some girlfriends are more important than others. Generally desperate guys will value the girlfriend more. Guys that are popular with women will value his friends more.
Guys also have different levels of attention they desire from their women. Some guys care a lot about his girlfriend, but don't require much time alone with her to be happy. Some guys don't care about his girlfriend much, but demand a lot of attention. It is the same way with friends.
At one point in my life I would have said that the girlfriend was more important. After years of trying to keep women happy, and jumping through hoops for them, I just don't have it in me to do that anymore. Now I am at the point where I just want to do my own thing, and let her do her own thing. If that isn't working for us, then we are probably not compatible and are most likely just with the wrong partner. It should never feel like I am being forced to choose between living my life the way I want with my friends, and being with my girlfriend. It isn't about which one I care more about. It is about if we are compatible or not.
Ideally no. Realistically yes. My friends are my friends. They have no expectations of me. They're not worried about the future. All they care about is enjoying time together and that's it. So when I'm feeling down I usually just want to go do something I enjoy which means calling up my friends. Ideally I'd love to have a girlfriend that I fealt that way about but the nature of the relationships makes that improbable. Does this mean my friends are more important? No it just means relationships require more work and time before they begin to feel like the most important people in your life.
I think it should be an even split.
A person (in my eyes) is not ready to be in a relationship if they cannot balance being with their partner and hanging with friends.
If a person lives with their SO then maybe they could split the weekends to hang out with their friends v. their partner.
Maybe hang out with their friends on one weekend and the next weekend hang out with their partner.
in my opinion it should be a balanced split. No one person, partner nor friend, are more important than the other.
for me.. it's both. being too clingy is not healthy too in a relationship.
not only guys, we also need some space and time to have fun with our friends. yeah, our lover is the priority, but still, i need my friends to be happy and able to enjoy girl's talk moment without my boyfriend around.
balance is the key
Bros before hoes haha
My close friend has been dating her boyfriend for a couple months and the boyfriend says he feels like the third wheel when I'm around
Which is how it's meant to be
Friends were there way before the boyfriend
As we like to say
How's before bros 😂😂
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Normally, a girlfriend is also a friend. But that doesn't mean you can just abandon your old friends whenever your partner is having a fit. That, and he is also just avoiding unnecessary conflict, and I cannot blame him. Why would he stick around and endure blows when it is completely unnecessary to do so? He would probably spend less time with his friends if he didn't feel antagonized around his girlfriend.
Nope. Friends come and go and don't devote their time to make you happy, and friends don't give you head every day.
My woman comes first and she always will, she will be there wiping my ass when I'm old
both are important and it's unfair to choose between. how we choose sides depends, most of my friends chose what they feel would be right and not who he just likes more, but since you are saying that he has fun whenever you feel low , it might be that he is on the wrong side of the track.
why isn't there a both option in the poll anyway?
If he consistently drinks with his friends after you fight then use your head. That is his moral and emotional support and who he gets it from.
Now, as for me (and you will not like hearing this) I pick friends over all girls to a point. If a girl reached the stage where I feel we might be putting a ring on each other's fingers, that is when she gets more important than friends. Until then, no.
Of course, I am expecting my girlfriend to fake cough so I can get out of friend duty and hang at home watching netflix with her, but that's different I suppose.
Once a relationship passes a certain point the guys priority should switch from Friends to girlfriend. That being said, it needs to be within reason. If he spends most of his time with you, and he wants to go out one night a week or every other week with friends, then the woman is the problem if she has an issue with that. So if it is a reasonable request for him to be with you, he should be siding with you. If you expect him to dump his friends, then your the problem.
Me and my friends have known each other since we were 5, but even then we all understand that girlfriends come first. There were times I didn't really see much of them when they had girlfriends and vice versa, but we'd always make an effort to go out for a pint every now and then or have the occasional night out. Truth is, I don't blame them or myself for wanting to spend more time with their girlfriends.
I don't know your exact situation, but it's generally the case that male friendships are more resilient than romantic relationships. In other words, you're more likely to break up with him than his friends are. His male friends are a sort of constant, and (I don't mean this as a sweeping generalisation and I don't mean to offend anyone) more often than not, girls are more quick to anger/harbour a grudge than guys, who don't really care about a lot of things.
I'm glad I have a boyfriend who knows how to balance things out. I don't mind him being with just his friends on some days. Everyone needs that. Idm cuz I know he knows when it's time to wrap it up and show me some l-o-v-e, and then it's time to say "goodbye" to the boys. And the next time they see him and wonder why he's glowing and cheesing from ear to ear, he'll tell them his woman rewarded him for having his priorities straight. 😉
If anyone puts a guy our girl above a brotherhood our sisterhood like relationship than that person is trash simple as that. Friends are much different and unlike romantic relationships they aren’t dependent on sex. If anything a romantic relationship should be equal not more our less but sadly women generally are the most clingy and usually can’t spend a couple days without there lover. Men are guilty as well mainly because they generally don’t stand up to there wives. Society just needs to understand the importance of friendship and sadly don’t think society understands that.
my friends would be more important but at the same time, my girlfriend would at the very least be a really good friend so their both super important, i just think you should put you friends under your girlfriend they should be at least equal to you cause they both should matter
This is a give and take kinda question. Yes a girlfriend is important, but at the same time you don't want to lose your friends to your relationship. You need both and having a healthy balance is important. Choosing one over the other could cause you to lose either party (s).
To me, my girlfriend would be all I needed.. way more then any guy friends I have and I have very few of those.. I do not really need any of them.. but if the guy friends are gay and so is he.. well the women do not stand a chance.. I am not at all into that gay guy crap..
It depends on the situation, but I think when guys are young and still live with their parents it is quite normal, because most of his friends don't have a girlfriend and they want to spend some time together, but it changes when most guys in the group have a girlfriend.
u The more important question is: why are you still with him?
depends on the guy. some love their circle of friends a lot, others wanna cling to their girlfriend like there's no tomorrow.
one would hope that a man can just balance out both and make time for each of them.
My girlfriend understands I have some "girl friends" who are more important than she is. Mostly cause they are like my sisters and several have children who refer to me as an uncle. And my girlfriend knows I'd do anything for my niece's.
To me at least, my friends altogether are more important. But the boyfriend is more important than any one friend. Except maybe my best friend, she's special.
that depends on the guy, but I've noticed that the guys who put their girlfriends first immediately tend to be shitty friends. it seems to be extremely rare that a man can be both a good friend and a good boyfriend, its usually one or the other.
Hmm... no. The girlfriend to me is more important. However, if the girlfriend is being a bitch, then my friends are more important. Likewise, if my friends are being assholes, then my girlfriend is more important.
For me girlfriend is most important one on my life.. I can say somehow more important than my family
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