Do girls like cold hearted guys over emotionals guys?

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Really man.. I am kinda guy who is cold hearted. I maen its not that i have no feelings , infact i am too emotional person I do cry a lot. But I am awfully introverted adnd socially awkwards guy. Really shy person. I generally do nont care for others as I am cencerned with my own stuff... I dont have any close friend and matter of fact I reallly have only 2-3 friends , But I dont llike to help people who have hurt me in some way... I am kinda person who keeps grudes on others , I have too much ego , I can't handle people making fun of me. i dont like people useing me instead if they just ask for it i would help.
I have seen that girls often are pissed off by the emotoinal and ovely attached guys.. Conversely are they attracted to cold hearted guys?

ak666 · Accepted Answer

I think you're more likely to be emotionally distant but extremely emotional. Ego, grudges, these things tend to be associated with strong emotions. Being manly usually requires becoming a little more disciplined about your emotions: a really emotionally-stable guy usually doesn't hold grudges.

That's not good for a relationship if you end up getting your ego poked a little bit and then get angry and distant and start holding grudges towards the woman, only to have to come back to your senses and then tell her you love her again.

It's usually destructive behavior for a relationship where you're bouncing from "I miss you" to, "I hate you bitch, leave me alone!".

It would help to work on that part, try to trust at least those who care about you and not let your anger and ego get the better of you. It's like boxing: if you step back, you lose your footing, corner yourself. You have to learn to side-step, counter, lunge forward and hug, talk it out.

I was this type somewhat. I didn't hold grudges but I had quite an ego when I was younger, and rather prone to aggression and violence (though never towards women: I'd end up stupidly punching walls and shattering my hands when angry).

Attraction-wise it's different. This kind of side of you will tend to show up in deep into relationships rather than on a date, e. g. So if you find a girl you love, it's worth really recognizing these aspects and trying to make at least some minor corrections to them.

Tanuron · Accepted Answer

To be honest though, you dont sound cold at all, which is good. Or its just me who is more f**ked up than I can imagine. Cause most of these traits you describe was something I considered to be very human in the past when I was "cold". But I became pretty detached in many ways no doubt, couldnt afford ego, couldnt afford to hold any grudges, didn't have any friends, was always made fun of really. Ended up meerly exsisting anyway. People say you need a reason to live, but that is not true either. Dont even need one.

Afro-dite9 · Accepted Answer

I'll take a 3rd stage cry baby, shy, clinger over a distant jacky (jackass) I can't get through to ANYDAY! I don't show emotion's, because I'm so emotional but I'm not a cold hearted person about it either. Depend's on who I am with I guess. But it is not a trait I am ashamed of either. Know one like's being used even the player's. Know point in holding grudge's, you just block your blessing's that way. Just forgive them, remember it and do not fall for it again. someone has a problem with me being too emotional or silly or bold for what I believe in... than that mf was NEVER for me in the first place. Point blank period! The only people who think I am are very few and that's cause they're asshole's and I treat them how they treat other's. At least you can talk an issue out with the emotional person or you know where you stand with them. But you know what they say cold hearted people were just people who cared too much and got screwed over.

Sharyln · Accepted Answer

Yes I'm attracted to only cold hearted guys. Infact I'm just like u, I don't have any close friends and u get angry easily too and for some reason guys think its hot. Its not fun to see a guy crying or being sad on everything. It'll actually be surprising and cute to see him get emotional all of a sudden someday. I don't cry at all on anything but seeing a cold hearted guy cry will make me cry for sure

musicislifeeee · Accepted Answer

Well, personally I really don't like guys that act completely crazy over me, like saying I love you over and over and won't stop talking to you. It's super annoying. Most girls like more casual guys that chase them but not to that extent where you just want to slap them. So, to answer your question, maybe somewhere more in the middle.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Girls like mature guys (by which I mean emotionally mature), not just "overly stoic guys" who suppress all their emotions, nor a guy who is actually narcissist acting hurt like a diva.

Baggz · Answer

Some girls dig it. I was too cold, not even emotional or feel any sort of remorse, once upon a time. I'm not vindictive though coz I don't really give a shit. Why get angry over someone for long period of time when you can just block them out completely and not give a fuck. You consume less energy. I'm always looking out for me, but there will be a day when you finally open up to this incredible girl you meet. She'll slowly chip that block and you be mushy as fuck lol but for the meantime, do you and whatever keeps you happy. I would start practicing not giving a fuck and just let those grudges go though... I'm tellin' ya, they ain't worth the time bruh

mar47 · Answer

I'm similar to you man. I don't display much emotion or argue with a girl I'm dating. Due to the fact that when I was growing up I never had a fight with my father or mother or siblings. I never displayed my dissatisfaction with stuff I didn't like. In fact until a few years ago I thought I had to get approval from my brother and father to do anything. It was like I didn't have my own opinion.

For me to display anger or annoyance is extremely difficult. One time I got angry at one of my friends and started shouting at him. And next time we were fine. And that was such a surprise for me. I never thought I could get upset with someone and still be friends afterwards.

It's not that I don't want to be emotional it's that when I do it, I express annoyance for very small things and I feel like a child even though girls don't think it's such a big deal. I guess the way to get over it is to be aware of it and do it a step at a time.

Good luck !

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

No, not at all. Of course every woman is different, but I personally prefer men who show their emotions. I want my boyfriend to tell me how he feels, I don't like guessing.

I understand what you're saying about your individual situation but are you sure you would act the same way with someone you're in a relationship with? Because it's one thing to act "cold hearted" in general around people you don't care about but when you're in a relationship with someone, that's different.

Waffles731 · Answer

Okay I'm going to ask you to describe your cold heartness more
Are you a Byronic hero kinda guy
The Byronic Hero is a type of character popularized by the works of Lord Byron, whose protagonists often embodied this archetype, though they existed before him, it became prominent during Romanticism. Sometimes an Anti-Hero, others an Anti-Villain, or even Just a Villain, Byronic heroes are charismatic characters with strong passions and ideals, but who are nonetheless deeply flawed individuals who may act in ways which are socially reprehensible because he's definitely contrary to his mainstream society. A byronic hero is on his own side and has his own set of beliefs which he will not bow nor change for anyone. A Byronic hero is a character whose internal conflicts are heavily romanticized and who himself ponders and wrestles with his struggles and beliefs. Some are portrayed with a suggestion of dark crimes or tragedies in their past.
Or are you like a sociopath kinda guy

Poppykate · Answer

I like to help people. I work on the theory that you need to be the changes you want to see in the world. That said, I won't let people walk over me. I don't think that I could date someone who is selfish. This is a quality in people I find frustrating!.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Cold hearted, serial killers are my favorite kind of man to introduce to the parents... Said nobody ever.

rosejean · Answer

depends... im not into cold hearted guys but im not into an emotional guy either. i like a guy who can express his self and don't go around acting like he doesn't have emotions.. we are all human and every human have emotions even the cold hearted ones so i like a guy to show his emotions but i dont want a little whiny bitch...

Hailey17 · Answer

I don't necessarily like cold hearted guys but super mushy, sensitive guys kind of overwhelm me. They baby me and would do anything for me. They get worried when they think I might disapprove or disagree with something they do and are always apologizing. It makes me feel like I'm their boss they're trying to suck up to. I like a man who will stick up for himself, speak his mind, and not always be worried about what someone else thinks. Super nice guys just sometimes don't seem very confident.

Howudoinn · Answer

Tbh I've liked both in the past. About a year ago, I liked an emotional guy who is really sensitive and nice and he was not at all an introvert. He hugs everyone and he will literally flirt anything alive like it can be a tree. Now I like a guy who is kinda awkward, an introvert and he's not necessarily cold hearted or serious, you just have to get to know him. So it's both, m8.

heywhisper · Answer

I'm sorry but I can not be with a guy that shows no emotions. My guy is very emotional.. he cries over cheesy movies! it's so cute. He is always spoiling me and treats me like a princess. He is very kind and wears his heart on his sleeve. I love that about him because i'm the same way =)

XRabbitHeartX · Answer

I'm not attracted to cold hearted guys at all. My boyfriend is very emotional, writes poems to me and is expressive about his feels. I love that about him.

ajo19 · Answer

I think it's best to pretty emtionally involved in ab a relationship, I'm not saying over too emotional because like both genders that's too much. However, I think that you need to be a little open to it relationships because you don't want the other person to think your not interested. It's painful for them if they think your trying.

serious · Answer

No, it can't be generalized that way. Not all women will like cold-hearted men and not all women will like emotional guys as such.

Well, one reason as to why some women may like cold-hearted guys could be that they may come off as a challenge to them, whereas an emotional guy may come off as an immature boy which most probably puts off women.

TonyaOrtega · Answer

I am with someone who is this way. He is mean to me, insults me, he holds grudges and blames the female race (cuz they've hurt him in the past) It really beats me down, hurts my feelings, and the things he has done to seek revenge & hateful words he has said... He can't take that back! So, it gives me a complex & makes me even more insecure & unloved. When I'm feeling down cuz of it, he will turn around and tell me hush with that nonsense and he says he loves me. Do you think thats right?

Anonymous · Answer

You cannot be both emotional and cold hearted at the same. I think you are in deed really emotional and you have a way to protect yourself from getting hurt, that is staying away from others and not getting close to people. I am very much the same.
Women like to see emotions, in fact they love them. If a guy is tough around others but emotional to a certain girl; bam ! she will love him. They do not like overly emotional guys though. They want to have fun, they don't want anybody's misery, you know..

Chief16 · Answer

So according to you there's only cold hearted and emotional guys? I think anyone would prefer an emotionally stable partner, be it a guy or a girl. Someone who can hold their shit together when things fall apart. That's the kind of person I am and want to be with.

ButternutLove · Answer

I personally like more cold-hearted people because of personal preference but every person is different. Maybe to get better results for this question you could include a pole because I've found that's what works best for questions like this. Hope finding an answer goes well :)

stillagoodgirl · Answer

I'm shy too but I feel like we're more emotional than cold hearted. We appear stuck up sometimes

I don't like a guy who's too emotional but I definitely don't want an insensitive guy.

I want a more extroverted guy though caz they get me out of my shell. With introverted guys NOTHING happens unless I make a move OR much later when I've moved on the guy does

Anonymous · Answer

No girls dont typically like guys cold hearted but you seem okay. Its okay to not be overly sentimental, im not either. but as far as you holding grudges and can't handle people making fun of you and shit, i would say learn how to let it go. People who hold grudges shoot up schools and i know you dont wanna be that guy right?

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