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Girls, is it a turn off if a guy is bisexual?

Is being bisexual a turnoff to girls? I'm a bisexual guy and I was wondering if that turns girls off? I'm pretty attractive and I'm told that I'm funny and easy to get along with. I have had sex with three girls before I came out. Since I came out I had sex with a guy. The guy ****ed me I didn't **** him. Does knowing this turn girls off. What if they just knew that I'm bi and didn't know about what I've done with guys? Please girls help me out. Is being bi a turnoff to you?
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  • First, I'll say all women are different. Gay porn's all the rage amongst straight women, so I'm sure it's not a turnoff for a lot of women. Also, I beg of you to be honest with whoever you're dating. Yes, you may risk losing that person, but the chances go to close to 100 if you lie to them -- and it wouldn't be because you were bi, but because they'd instantly wonder if there was anything else you weren't telling them.

    For me, personally, however, it's an instant no and a complete turn-off. It isn't the being with a man part that's a problem; it's the fact that I learned the hard way that I only have a 50% chance of satisfying my partner. It's one thing to be left for another woman; quite another to be left for a man. I've never run into anything that gutted my sense of sexual self-esteem so thoroughly, tbh. The one (semi) good thing was that a couple of friends of mine had run into the same problem, so at least I know I wasn't alone.

    So, yes. The point is moot now, since I'm in a committed relationship, but I've been there once, and no matter how nice the guy is, I would never go there again.

    FYI to all the people who are downvoting the nos: This person asked for an honest opinion and none of the ones I've seen have been offensive in any way. It's unfair to vote someone down because their sexual preferences are different than yours, be they gay, bi or straight.

  • I think it's great that you know it and that you're honest.

    I think, ultimately, the issue is monogamy, and you either have to decide and ensure whoever you're dating at the moment to be monogamous and/or inform your female partner that you won't be.

    Don't ever *hide* anything like that from someone you're intimate with.

    If the female can't handle it, then they aren't meant for you.

    Females can feel *doubly* threatened because they not only have to worry about you cheating with a girl but with a guy, too.

    • That's sucks. Same goes for the girl.

  • Hm, well most of the guys I like end up being bi anyhow so I don't think it'll change anything unless he changes and is like "Im full on gay now, sorry hun" (Bad memory) .. but ummm yea I wouldn't mind (: and if your a taker that's okay it just makes the girl more happy that she can be the more-so aggressive one (:

Most Helpful Guys

  • I agree with most boys and girls on here. It is a major turn-off for girls. Do not lie to a girl about it if she asks, but don't bring it up until you know her really good. And I mean really good. I do disagree that girls like masculine guys, not all girls feel that way! Some girls like a guy with feminine tendencies, there's not many of them, but there are some. Overall, yes gay sex is a turn-off for girls.

    • Again, I have to disagree. You wouldn't fail to tell someone if you had kids, for example. Why would you fail to tell them from the outset what your sexual preference is? I think the school of thought here is 'oh, she's closed-minded, I'll get her to fall for me and then she'll learn that she really doesn't care' -- except that's just wrong to do to her, and it's a wrong attitude. News flash: "I can change him/her" never works and isn't fair. Either you love someone as they are or you don't. Besides, why would you want to be with someone who isn't cool with what you like? Also, how could she ever trust you if you said you were actually planning to be monogamous? You should always be honest with your partner, or you have no foundation for a relationship.

  • So you are a receiver, a 'cushion' bisexual, not a 'pin' bisexual...I think girls would find that to be worse because it's even less masculine than being a 'pin' bisexual...this is my feeling...

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  • I think it would be a good idea to keep your history of gay sex quiet until you really know a girl, and think that she's comfortable hearing about it. My boyfriend is bi and hasn't had sex with anyone, but I think if he told me he had sex with another guy, then I'd need a few days to process the information. However, knowing that he does like both guys and girls and that one day he may have sex with another guy is okay with me. I accept it as part of him.

    • I disagree. I think he should tell her flat out from the beginning. I'm not saying share every gory detail, but be up front about being bi from the first. Again, one of the biggest issues in a relationship with a bisexual is trust. It would be very hard to trust someone who suckered you in, got them to like you, and then drop that kind of bomb on them. That's just wrong.

  • I couldn't sleep with a guy knowing that he doesn't even like women entirely. I'm sorry but it would be so awkward, and I just can't get over it.

    • What do you mean he doesn't like women entirely? Liking men doesn't weaken his attraction for women.

  • It would be for me. I don't ever and would not ever date bisexual guys.

  • i think that girls your age would likely be turned off. that being said..you haven't had a lot of experience yet so I don't think it is necessary to jump to the conclusion that you are bi. lots of people experiment as they discover themselves and their sexuality. I don't think it is necessary to tell everything about your sexual history...you might be turned off knowing her history (i.e if she had several partners, or slept with someone you don't respect)

    • Lol I know I'm bi I had sex with a guy and liked it

    • There's more to it than just the sex: you'll know you're bi the day you consider you might love a guy. In prison (and in the navy long ago, when ships were at sea for months) most guys may have casual sex with another guy. That doesn't make them gay or bi.

    • If she's expected to accept him as bi, why should he be turned off by anyone she's slept with?

  • I donno. This is a really tough one to answer. I've seen gay p*rn and some of its kinda hot, but then other stuff is kinda gross. I think the turn off with bi guys is that I like being the girl in a relationship. it would feel too weird being with a guy who liked doing stuff to guys that I like doing to them if that makes any sense.

  • It would be a turn-off for me. But I would be able to put it passed me and learn to accept it if I truly loved the person. And you should try not going into detail about your relationships with other guys, unless however she was fine with it or even turned on by the idea. Don't mean to sound mean, just stating my opinion. Hope it helps.

  • They usually won't give a sh*t.

  • i think its really hot!

    • Yes it is

  • "Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night." [Woody Allen]

    "Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a STI on Saturday night." [myself]

  • Yeah

  • No offenence, but it is a big turn off. Unless a girl really likes you, she'll definitely judge you on that. It's weird, but if a girl dated a bi guy, she might be labeled as desperate, because bi people are usually stereotyped as easy.

  • i don't have anything against bisexual guys, but i have never and would never date one. for certain reasons, but i like the fact that you were being totally honest..

  • Well. My boyfriend is bisexual, and though it does bother me, I'm still completely in love with him. I knew from the beginning, and he has dated other men before.

    He says he's a 3 on the Kinsley scale. I wouldn't date anyone who's gayer than that.

  • It's hard to say I know my boyfriend is bi sexual.i know this simply Because him and I had Our cell phones in the same plan under my name.when I picked up my phone bill there was calls for 90 minutes 70 minutes more than a few these calls were made to gay chat lines he had an add in the chatline under a different name.but I KNow my boyfriend I Most certainly know his voice.It's been almost a year now since I known and I Don't get the courage I Need to just come out and let him know I Know.I love him so much but I just don't know how this is gonna end up.My love is unconditional but will he be comfortable knowing I Know.if she loves she'll stay byurside.dont worry

    • U seem incredible!

  • Definitely it's a turn off... I think that a guy doing it with other guy is not something easy to handle for a girl (or at least for me)

  • yes a major turn off I ike 100% men

    • Bi guys are 100% man.

    • @Foxkaa Very well, perhaps she should have said 100% heterosexual men. I agree with her. Kindly respect other people's preferences.

  • I don't find it to be a turn off at all, the guy I'm seeing at the minute is bi.

    But it often seems to be the case that when someone says they are bisexual they do prefer one gender to the other. I think I'd be bothered if a guy were more swayed toward men than women. I'd feel like an experiment.

    • This is so true. The guy I'm kind of dating (I think...it's a complicated situation) is more attracted to men, so I don't see what the point is of him trying to pursue me. He wants to end up with a man, so I'm like "oh well thank you for wasting your time on me?"

    • @Jackie7 The better question is, why is he wasting *your* time! Best of luck to you, though. *hugs* Been there.

  • I think it's hot. If boys are open about themselves especially about this stuff, instant hot points.

    • I'm bisexual

  • Its a turnoff. Unfortunately for you, two guys having sex is not seen as masculine and girls like guys who are masculine.

  • I definitely think it's a turn off...

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