Yes I've done it and I've also had it happen to me.
Its quite common for girls to be a little less aggressive when it comes to initiating but if done too much, Its a sign of her not stepping out of her comfort zone. Or simply not willing to show her true feelings up front. Which makes me think she's passive or always trying to play it safe and afraid of risk EVEN though she's all giddy during conversations
It's definitely something I notice and I've actually let a girl go once because of this exact type of thing. Its a two way situation, Part of falling for her is knowing she can pick up or start something when I sometimes can't or my mind is dulled out.
Yes... I usually will only send 2 or 3 unreplied txt/emails before I wouldn't contact her anymore. Actions speak louder than words. You know what it is... her not initiating texts/emails, tells me... I'm not on her mind/she's not thinking of me. Makes me think I'm wasting my time.. I lose interest.
If a girl gives me her # and I text her and she doesn't respond that day.. I delete her and she lots any chance.
Yes I feel like the guy is either not interested or is taking advantage of me (Ive had guys use this as an example to justify picking on me. I dont do it in a clingy way, they just take our conversations and show it to their guyfriends to make it seem that way and say things like "omg man this girl is trying to get with me she's so *negative word*, she obviously can't get with me, lets talk about this girl that I wouls rather bone bla bla bla) even when I dont like them in that way. so i always felt insecure about it. I try to do it less now though, it was perfect when it was mutual with my ex he didn't care at all.
No. If the person was enthusiastic in response, thats more important to me. I get sick of people who dont carry conversations or are just one word plain and simple all the time. The initiation aspect isn't a big deal to me, but i understand early in a relationship it might mean more to people
I used to never initiate, because I thought it would make me seem clingy, but then I found out that guys like it when we initiate too so I try to compromise and initiate every now and then to let him that know I'm interested. I always get a positive response when I do that. You should try it.
Of course he would feel as though he is the only interested in keeping the relationship going. Guys are people too. Anyone who is doing all the pursuing will get tired of it after awhile and just stop.
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I wouldn't say I get sick of it... but I definitely would get the feeling that she isn't really interested in texting with me or even in me as a person if that happens over a longer period of time and it would also give me the feeling that I might annoy/bother her with my texts.
But it depends a bit on how our conversations are... and it's more than just replying quickly or showing some interest, some people do that just out of politeness lol. But if I really have the feeling that she enjoys talking to me then it wouldn't bother me that much that I have to initiate it.
Definitely. Even if she responds away quickly it could only mean she's just being nice or smth. Always being the one initiating would make feel as I'm the only one having any interest whatsoever so I'll stop being a pain to her and move on. Why are you waiting for him to text anyways, if you also wanted to talk to him? Where's the logic there?
I initiate with everyone, it's annoying.
Male, female doesn't matter.
People rarely message me first unless they want something or finally grew a pair of balls to ask if I want to hang out. I'm always asking everyone if they want to hang out and I arrange everything.
I wouldn't feel like she's uninterested, since she's acting like she is, i would wonder if she's willing to put the work in the relationship that i would. Id wonder how long she'd stay interested and if she's just a flippant person unless i have other info that dispels those worries.
Well look at that. 21/21 men answered "Yes. I would feel like she doesn't want to talk and I'm being clingy." and 7/7 women answered Yes.
That is one brutally clear poll.
So anyone who never initiates texting: You're clearly making all men feel clingy and unwanted and making all women sick of having to do it.
I actually like this. Good job Gag. Clarity for once!
yeah when i get sick of it i just stop texting her. i've learned that if the girl actually likes you she'll come running back. if she doesn't, and its been like a week and she's made no effort to contact you, she's not worth pursuing. imagine your girlfriend/boyfriend just stops texting you and its been like more than 2 days, you text and call to see whats going on right? same rule applies
Actually I never initiate. I feel like girls would always love to talk to me but r too afraid of bein like weird or creepy or something like that. But I just have this habit of waiting until they text first cuz I never know when they want to talk to me.
If she doesn't initiate she doesn't seem quite interested
Yes, I'd feel like she's not interesting, so most likely after a week of me constantly texting first, I will stop. If she wants me, she will text me, if she doesn't, then I made it easier for her to forget about me.
At a certain point I'd get over it, yeah.
You know that nice feeling you get when he initiates conversation? Like, he's going out of his way to get a hold of you? We like that too. :)
Never initiating means she doesn't seem interested. Simple as that. Guys want to, just like girls, feel desired and safe about that. Never initiating gives serious doubts on that.
Women have larger egos, so they want guys to text or communicate first to satisfy it. They want the guy to show them all the attention to please their sense of self-worth, but see it as weakness to show a guy attention first.
Honestly Yes, I hate initiating ALL the time.
Us like to feel wanted too!
The main complaint is if the guy is always initiating, we have no idea if she really likes us or if she doesn't like us but is texting to be polite.
When you find the right person it is almost automatic to me. I know girls like to feel persued but every once in a while it is nice for us men to feel some love too.
I've already given up on dating at this point because I'll initiate and it'll always be me initiating. Eventually the girl starts ignoring me. Well what's the point if it always ends the same way?
This never happened to me before! I always initiate the conversation/texing.. even when I had a girlfriend (sadly)
I don't really know if the problem is me or just a common girl's behavior!
I don't know... if she's so enthusiastic and shows lots of interest I think that probably I won't.
Of course I would get tired of it. I rarely initiate it tho.
I like gurls who can initiate and nvr afraid to say what they want. It shows meh how much ahe expresses her interests towards meh. If she nvr made an effort to show that she's interested in our convos, then we are over! 😡😡😡
Yep, this applies to everything in a relationship. from sex, dates, cooking, what to watch, etc.
You have no idea..
This has happened so many times to me I'm starting to lose faith in myself.
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