How does my affair partner think of me?

[Anonymous]

I am a married women having an affair with a man I went to school with who has a girlfriend. I know what I am doing is wrong, but before you judge me completely, please know we started our affair when I was separated and he was single. It just never really ended. I'm in an abusive and love-less marriage.

That all being said, I have strong feelings and attraction to my affair partner. He compliments me while my husband constantly puts me down.

The man I've been having an affair with for 3 years had never told me he loves me. We mostly communicate via text and we see each other a few times a month.

I want to know if he has any feelings for me or if I am just a booty call? He sends me pictures of things he's worked on, fixed or created/ his accomplishments and our conversations go beyond sex. Our sexual chemistry is amazing. I've asked my affair partner why we can't stop and he says because, "I'm like cocaine to him." When I ask him deeper questions or talk about feelings he's pretty vague and gets uncomfortable.

Please give me some advice. I'm so confused. Please don't think I'm a terrible person. I'm staying in my marriage for my kids. I have been verbally and physically abused. I know an affair is wrong but I can't seem to end it.

[AleDeEurope]

"Please don't think I'm a terrible person" Yeah right, cause saying that is gonna change our opinion -_-

I would never help a woman cheat, so if a woman wants to have an affair with me, I would decline and in my head I'll see her as this... "thing" that deserves no respect from me.
I don't know what that guy is thinking of you since he's as shitty as you, but I believe he just sees you as a walking pussy, cause after all, that's all he's getting from you.

Disgusting.

[Bobba_Fett]

I recommend leaving your husband.
You say for your kids, but how happy are your kids if you're being abused?
In that light the kids are part of that abusive relationship too. Your affair may be morally wrong, but so is your marriage.

As for your boyfriend, he's obviously crazy about you even if he can't say it. And if he's sending you pics of projects and junk, he thinks about you often.

[leann1234]

Im in this same situation. But he's going through a divorce now. We used to be able to joke ab missing each other and be sweet and everything now that she left he doesn't want to talk about anything like that. I dont understand. Im single and he's going through a divorce now. I don't know what to do either. But sounds like my situation, Maybe he's scared to get attached to you because you are married.

[MrsWrong2061]

He is not going to allow himself to fall in love with you because you don't belong to him. It's not fair of you to ask him about feelings unless you become single. He won't consider you as a girlfriend because he knows you cheat, even inform the reasons you have.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you file a divorce?
I think you're just a booty call for him as well since he is still dating.

[Nonamesbetter18]

Hi I am so sorry. I am in the same situation and was just dumped by my affair partner because he is guilty... but he did not feel that the first several times we did it :( when i post a question like this here too many people judgde and I am in pain. I am also in a horrible marriage both physically and verbally abused and staying due to other reasons. If you see this message.. can you please message me?

[galsgals]

Why don’t you leave the marriage

[Unknown2o22]

Hi, unfortunately it won’t let me message you. But I hope everything worked out for you. We are still ongoing…

[knowbetternow1960]

Regardless how bad your marriage is an affair is not the right approach. Fix or end your marriage without the influence of another person. Regarding him, he likes the easy, passionate sex and that’s probably it. You’re being used as a masturbation vessel for this cocain lover.

[billmunch]

I'm not an abusive guy but I would be totally okay with you dating other guys outside the marriage. If he's abusive, leave.

I'm know I'm not like most guys, but I'm okay if my SO cheats a little on the side.

[Crystalmaze]

I'm in a similar situation. Feel free to message me will do my best to help Nd listen

[chapawapa]

Any updates?

Hmm well he probably hasn't talked about his feelings because he wants to remain emotionally unavailable.. He just wants to feel good and escape his reality.

[Ridemeplease]

Sex affairs are a very healthy thing for you. Obviously he is giving you something you need.

[Anonymous]

If you know what you're doing is wrong, then why are you still doing it?

[Walls_and_Doors]

You're something to do.