Why are men so weird towards pretty women?

[Anonymous]

Some guys are ok and normal, some act 'normal' too such as they're attracted to you, but about 80% of males act totally crazy and psycho if they encounter a hot or sexy pretty woman. I dont get the intimidation factor- if one guy is gawking like holy sh*t!! while another is FREAKING out as if he saw a ghost and treats the girl like crap- what is mentally wrong with the guy acting like such a psycho? are they insecure? idiots? messed up?

i went to a speed dating matrimonial event last year. I was probably the prettiest girl there- tho there were a lot of pretty women. At first, the guys were nice to me- but b/c of our age groups, the same guys had to talk to us again. Some guys talked to me again- a few, but the rest acted psycho. One guy said "if im bothering you i can leave." not sure why he'd think that, im nice and sweet and didn't give that impression. Two guys FREAKED OUT when they had to talk to me again- no i mean, the way they even LOOKED at each other as if--it was scary. Like someone asked them to down a glass of urine. wow. But, ALL the guys were THRILLED to talk to this really UGLY fat girl next to me--who was rude b*tchy, and even mean to me.. again huh? one guy didn't want to talk to me again either, but went STRAIGHT for the fat ugly girl, and no she didn't have a good personality. They also talked to another 'pretty girl" near me again, but not me. Then, the "pretty girl" next to me, tried to mess with me, and she and a few other bullied me. Then, they made fun of a guy who came up to me to talk to me from the younger age group.

are these guys intimidated by a pretty girl next door looking female just b/c she's pretty/beautiful? Why were some of the guys not intimidated? i dont get it anymore... why are some guys OK with it but others are scared--is something wrong with them

Updates

+1 y

I look like any 'hot sexy' female next door.. model etc.. I think there are thousands of women that are in that range and i dont get why some of these men act like psychos towards me.. only one guy texted me and he was one of the two that freaked out when he had to talk to me again. the others seemed scared of me, even one of my sisters friends was there and he acted weird towards me too.. as if he didn't consider me, but under his breath he was turned on breathing heavy

[Anonymous]

When I'm around girls I'm attracted to I can't hide the attraction, it's obvious from the way I look at them and talk to them. With girls I see as being on my level (I'm not ugly but not a tall handsome model either) I'm very confident, but with really pretty girls I'll admit I do freak out a bit because I don't want to look like a creep. It seems that a lot of girls see a man who they don't find attractive but who is obviously attracted to them as creepy, a lot of things that probably used to be considered normal are creepy we're constantly being told how creepy we are and you've seen it yourself the way other people too will make fun of the less attractive guy for approaching a much more attractive woman. So when in conversation in an effort to not be creepy I act completely uninterested and sometimes I bet I do come across as an asshole, but it's really all to do with my lack of confidence. It's hard to explain to you as a pretty girl because you know you're pretty and you're probably constantly reminded of that, while we're constantly reminded that we should try not to be creepy.

[Transigence]

It's not something you're likely to ever understand as you will always have suitors, and will never be faced with isolation because you didn't go out there and make a relationship happen.

Relationships are basically going to come to you, so you have nothing to worry about. You know deep down that one day a guy will be with you and give you what you want. Men don't have that security. The insecurity is a legitimate one.

[Asker]

Well that's why I've been single my whole life and why lots of pretty women are too

[peachblossomluck]

Extremely hot people are super intimidating even if you are hot enough yourself. The reason the asshole guys are acting up is because they feel unworthy. You'll see a lot of these relationships with the beautiful woman being treated like crap, and the guy is trying to keep her self-esteem down. The beauty makes other guys so nervous they don't know how to act.

[AlwaysBelieving]

I think I act "normal" (whatever that means). I mean I treat her like a human being and not some sort of "party favor" ("The Mask" movie reference). This has probably lead to some gals thinking I've "friend zoned" them.

Hopefully you'll find a guy that can treat you right.

[Curmudgeon]

Because "Pretty Girls Make Graves"...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=avVaU2HS8x8

[Asker]

i don't get it..

[Curmudgeon]

Well, because they tend to be cruel. As the song goes:

"Then, on the sand
Another man, he takes her hand
A smile lights up her stupid face
(and well, it would)

I lost my faith in Womanhood
I lost my faith in Womanhood
I lost my faith...
Oh...(Morrissey moaning)"

[Asker]

oh ok--i guess some can be? I'm really nice though- and i come across as nice too..
the other pretty girl was such a bitch. someone asked her "did u see anyone here u liked"
and she said no, but she tried to mess with me. i'd talk to any of those guys

[Prof_Don]

In short, some of these guys don't know how to behave around women they find pretty, because they can't control themselves.

[blondfrog]

Same reason you would be towards an attractive male.

[Asker]

no i wouldn't be. there were some cute guys- sort of. I was nice to every guy i met. I don't judge someone by their looks and most women love cute men.. shoot if i met a hot guy there i'd be thrilled

[blondfrog]

Wow you have balls

[aliceinwonderland69]

So I'm supposed to feel sorry for hot chicks now?

[heavensgift2girls]

I guess so. Everyone is a victim in our society. lol

[Sabretooth]

they're shy... and they really like you.

[orphan]

I doubt you appear as you describe yourself.

[Kayla03]

Yeah I would only believe the asker if she posted an picture of herself which would be not doubtful and more nicer of her! 😊

[Leykis101]

maybe you're ugly