Say we are talking about players. Players approach women, know how to talk to them and make them feel good about themselves. No woman thinks: "he has lots of girls, let me date him"... players are great at disguising their womanizing ways (in the beginning). Nice guys tend to be shyer, it's not that women don't want these guys, it's just that women have been conditioned not to make the first move - and the guys just don't create chance for themselves, I don't blame them, it's horrendous putting yourself up for rejection like that - but it's equally pointless to blame women.
Also.. put it this way... you're a nice guy now... but if you were super confident and all the girls wanted you - would you resist it on principle? Would you shrug them off for one woman?
The true test of a nice guy is a guy who can get the girls and chooses to be faithful. And these type of guys don't have to wonder why assholes get girls.
it's not necessarily that girls like guys who treat them bad, it's just that in some casses, some guys, they really know how to lure girls to thinking they are the sweetest most romantic people on earth, even after they have just done something really bad or hurtful. and the truth is... girls fall for it
they just have a way of making themselves look innocent again, and again.
i don't like being treated so bad that it hurts my feelings.. but sometimes, I like wen he's kinda demanding or like tells me what to do like ( go make me a sandwich , go get me a beer...wanna suck my cock) LOL... because its just a attraction to him being a man. and I wanna do what he says and take care of him. I know my answer must b like.. weird.
We aren't all like that. The ones who are tend to be just worried they'll never find someone else who wants them so they settle. I personally think there are many more bad guys than good guys and the good ones are either taken or too shy or don't care about having a girlfriend.
Sometimes that douchebag attitude doesn't come out right away and we feel like he's a nice guy and a good guy. Then when his bad attitude does come out, we may not notice it, we may brush it off as him being in a bad mood, or we try to understand what's going on. Quite frankly, some girls just focus more on the positive than his negative aspects of his personality- even though you should focus on it ALL. So a girl may realize that he can be a jerk, but then think "well he can be soooooo sweet though!" or "He can be sooooo thoughtful." So they tend to forget how rude he can be.
the thing is boys are not bad on first date, after sometimes they show who they really are and sometimes it's too late to let them go because of feelings. So not all the girls choose to have a bad guy in their life. But that's a fact that some women like bad boys because they like challenges.
Girls are used to guys trying super hard to get with them. So when they find someone that doesn't give them the time of day they're not used to it and that automatically makes it look like the guy is getting with smarter, better looking girls &they wanna feel like they compare so they'll fight for his attention
Because me personally I like some of my guys to be a jerk to me...Only because I think I can change them..And because my father is a jerk to my mother so growing up with that I think that, that's how guys are suppose to be.
and ilk why but I really don't like the whole "lovey dovey" thing ALL the time...But that's just me=)
I never understood that but now I do! I personally think it's because as women we are always trying to prove ourselves to people.. it's sad really.. we always want to be pretty enough because society tells us that our value depends on our appearance... and when a guy treats us like we are the best and then the next second they treat us like we either don't exist or treat us like crap, we feel like we have to prove that we are good enough to have them!
for some reason I REALLY like that too. it makes me think of them more. I don't typically like the sweet sensitive guy, but there's exepsions, sometimes I like the nice ones. BUT for me if your an ass hole nd not great looking it doesn't work, I like hott ass holes! its weird but I can show more of my peronality with them too, like playing around nd be mean too eachothr.
idk if you understand. but an example for me is like hyde from that 70s show! the perfect asshole/nice guy! <3
girls like guys like that usually because they like the way they look and always look at it as if she can can see the side of him that no one else gets to see. also, when girls don't feel wanted, it makes them wanted more.
usually in situations of verbal abuse, it's because the girl has very low self confidence. she feels she deserves better, but won't leave the guy because she's afraid no one else will want her. it's sad
In my experience with girls that "seem" to gravitate to guys that treat them badly, is mostly because at some point in their childhood they dealt with a sh*tty father figure who treated her badly or her mother badly. It's what they know and stick to. God forbid they get with a guy that treats them good. They are always too afraid to have a good thing because they never think it will last or is too good to be true.
They don't. Many women like a challenge, and prefer a guy that will give them one. Some even prefer a 'fixer-upper' But nobody truly wants someone that will be an (_o_) Any time you see someone with such a person, it is because that (_o_) didn't act as such to begin with. They allowed the other person to become attracted to an enamored with the fascade they put on, then allow their true self to come out. At which point the other person has a hard time believing that is them, and letting them go. They make excuses for them, because they are under the impression who they pretended to be in the first place is who they really are. Quite sad.
Sometimes those girls have psychological issues. They could be "controlled" by their boyfriend through manipulative and harmful words. And sometimes they can feel trapped, or even too scared to leave them for fear of what they might do.
i think cause they want to change that guy into the better looking guy who they manicured into what they want when the nice guy in most cases isn't as good looking...its a lost cause and as a result most women hate men and think were all jerks. if anyone wants could you check out and answer my latest question as it is kinda similar
Not sure that aholes are what women are attracted to as much as guys who are cocky/leaderish/confident/alpha-like. Basically non-wussy like. Not that women are always weak, but if a woman is actually attracted to wuss behavior, then she is suspect of not being hetero in my book. Mostly, a woman's DNA wants a man to be dominant in the relationship regardless of what women might say about equality. Women's attraction to a man is NOT a choice on their part. It's a deeply ingrained dna nature-thing. It's just the way God made them. (Not calling anyone a wuss here, just pointing out my own observation of women's nature).