I'm starting to notice a nasty streak in my boyfriend and feel very disconnected from him?

[emmalove18]

My boyfriend and I have been together just 5 months. In the first few months, he was lovely, always sending me flowers, cooking nice candle lit dinners, buying me little gifts, sending me cards spilling his heart out. He used to constantly tell me I am beautiful and how he hadn't met anyone like me.

Recently though, all that has stopped, he will still tell me I'm beautiful (usually when he's leading up to sex) but all the other little romantic things have stopped. He has also twice told me he would like to take me away on a weekend break, we have arranged the dates and nothing has ever been brought up again, those dates have went and passed.

The other night we got into a heated discussion about his flatmate, me and his flatmate do not get along (knew him way before I knew my boyfriend) so basically he was defending his flatmate and I was defending myself. Out of no where my boyfriend turned around and said to me, "God Emma, the jealousy is just ripping out of you." I was pretty offended. I didn't really know what to say about that comment so I said nothing and we kind of let it go and dropped it.

He was away on a stag weekend this weekend and he called me, he was drunk and said the boys were having food, I asked whether he has eaten anything. He replied he'd had a muffin the day before. I said, "Babe you really should eat something." He replied, "For god sake, remember you're not my mum!" I just said that I know I'm not but that I'd better go. He asked if that was my way of giving him into trouble. I just said yeah, giving you into trouble like your mother would. He laughed and just hung up.

Looking back through all the texts from the weekend I started to notice they're all about him, everything is about him. He didn't ask me any questions.

I haven't heard from him all day today and to be honest I'm not too bothered. It's obvious what comes next but I just wonder why did he make such a HUGE effort in the start and now seems to be fading out?

[jesshkah]

The unfortunate reality is that a lot of people get complacent in relationships. Things become easy and since you know you're with the person in the long run you maybe try a little less because there isn't the pressure to keep them around or constantly impress them. It sucks, I've been through that a lot, and I've honestly probably done my fair share of it as well. It's something to always keep in mind when in a long term relationship right, that you still always have to try. He might have just forgotten about that. You might be able to work this out if you point out that he's acting this way, he might not realize it at all.

[nikki_24]

Relationships when they first start are normally great. However I believe after awhile (its different for everyone) that people show their true colors. You do what you have to so you can impress the person you are dating and then get so comfortable (or said person is what I call a con artist) amd the rudeness, anger, bull shit, and every other negative thing comes to light.
If you think this is the case with this guy then dump him. If you aren't bothered that he hasn't contacted you at all today then I think you are on the right track in case this does end.

[orphan]

gotta shovel in coal to keep that furnace hot.

if your relationship has settled into a routine... people tend to lose interest.