My heart goes out to you because this happened to me not too long ago. However, I had NO accolades of marrying the bastard. He pretty much ripped out my heart, threw it on the ground, stomped and spat on it, laughed and walked on to live his life normally.
I erased/removed any reminders of him from my computer, phone (i.e. phone number, texts, etc.). I developed a strict no contact rule and have been successful in maintaining it. I buried myself in my work and kept as busy as possible. The key for me was keeping busy in various ways like hanging out with family or friends, enjoying my hobbies etc. In addition, I made sure I avoided places where I was likely to bump into him and did not drive past his house. If I had a bad day and was feeling down about what happened then I remind myself of how he made me feel- like complete sh*t. It enabled me to feel a little better and be glad he is gone. Moreover, I took things one day at a time and I allowed myself to feel various emotions from sadness, to depression, to being angry to saying good riddance!
I am doing a lot better now. I actually feel very good and have moved on from that horrible experience. I wish you all the best and believe when I say you will get past this too.
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I've actually be led on for months and just realizing it recently. Trust me, I know. The experience hurts, it hurts so, so bad, and it feels like your heart's been abused. I know. Let me just say that time heals. It does, and even though it's been said so many times, it heals. It's not easy, it's actually super hard. First, cry and sob and just let all that anger and sadness out with a friend. They help. Once that's over and once you've heard the support and threats to the person who led you on, you'll feel a bit better, trust me. Next, channel your anger/sadness to something beneficial. For example, cook, knit, draw, play music, work, etc. Anything to distract you. Do things that make you happy, and try not to fall back to being led on by the same person if he/she shows interest in you once more. I sincerely hope you get better and feel much better.
You punch yourself over for being such a moron, look at the situation and then laugh at your stupidity then tell the girls friends she led you on, so they can all know she's a bitch, and they'll tell her off
sounds like my one and only rejection in high school... lead on by my best friend who I was in love with. Got over her by cutting off all contact with her - erased everything I had of her - photos of us together, removed her from facebook, deleted her phone number, literally erased her from existence. Once you do that, its a lot easier to get over the girl. Then I improved myself, its been 6 years, now I'm the better looking guy, and I know for a fact she regrets the decision, but I'm dating better looking girls now.
Been there, multiple times. Just remember that there are other people out there who aren't interested in playing games with other people's feelings and want a serious relationship. It takes some serious time to get over anyone we like or care for, but it passes with time.
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Ha! That sounds painfully familiar. Just think about something negative about that person every single time she pops up in your head. Keep doing that and eventually you'll hate her guts and be totally over her.
take a big step back and do the other things that make you happy. and with time hopefully it won't seem as big a deal as it was at the time.
hmmm... just listen to sad song... do things you love! And realize it not who you want to be!
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