Why do guys keep their feelings inside?
In general, why do guys keep most of their feelings inside? Why is it so hard for them to talk about them? I recently broke up with a guy &... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
Most guys are taught to hide their emotions and appear tough. We are brought up to believe that if we show any emotion (other that masculine ones like anger) we would appear weak and no one, especially women, would respect us after that.Also, in a relationship, guys want to appear cool and nor feminine and emotional. So, don't expect any emotion from your guy, even though he may be depressed.
What Guys Said 3
From birth, I never showed my emotions. Its nature, your just gonna have to accept it. I don't know many guys that will just let all that stuff flow like its nothing...it just doesn't happen. The only thing you can really do is let him figure things out on his own, that's what he's wanting you do anyway. Unless you get him to break down, then he'll think you're working some female mind games on him lol. So yeah, it may be hard but just let him be. He'll adapt.
Like sumina7 said, guys are taught to hide their emotions. Sometimes they venture our of their protective shell and try to be more open usually only to get rejected, hurt or cheated on then they become even more cold and distant and hide things more than they did before.Pretty much like me now, there isn't a girl alive that could melt my icy heart.
What Girls Said 2
I'm feeling the same way as you right now I feel for you but unfortunately I think I have gone too far. I wanted like you did to express my feelings on it and I've contacted him too much now I think I'm looking like a stalker :( and I live with him so its very awkward. My advice to you is to give him some space because that's what my guy asked for and because I'vebeen too clingy I feel I've scared him away for good. So please just give some time and hopefully he'll come back to you
Girls do it too, they are just advertised as being outwardly emotional & showing feelings, because society likes to represent emotions as being girls & girls as being weak, it is a double win for keeping people ignorant & making sure relationship counselors & dumb books get lots of profit cause no one is supposed to be human- they are supposed to fit the box made for their gender in social status... Even if they are not overly emotional, do not like to show feelings, one else believes them, because they believe the stereotypes.Anyways eve of guys are said to be not emotional or show feelings, by narrow view of emotion it is not true because getting anger acting possessive or jealous or getting into fights- ( all exceptable ways of conduct for guys.) - that is emotional.& Every one is emotional & acts out thee emotions- feelings - unless you are Socio -pathic - a dangerous condition where you can not connect to reality , do not experience empathy, & are likely to commit crimes such as murder just to FEEL something because you lack emotion or proper access to the.It is not true that guys are not emotional, or show feelings, but it s true they are encouraged not to show it in quote unquote feminine ways.Emotions are an essential aspect for morality, without emotion we would have a very dangerous world, more so then already exists.I think a good question is to ask "Why are people afraid of emotions, & why do they except such a degrading representation, of a very important & useful aspect of the human psyche & nervous system"":-)