I work with a man who is married and 35 - he is constantly playing games and I don't know how to handle him. I have to approach him for work reasons to ask him to obtain information for me but also to chase up once I have done my part of the task. He makes it very difficult for me to do my job because he is very obstructive (partly because it takes a bit of time and effort to do it - and he can't he bothered plus it is not always easy doing it). I have no doubt in my mind that he finds me attractive. It is quite obvious, he stares at me a lot, he does silly childish things like say my name when I go past, he comes close to me when he talks to me (and sometimes I get too close if I am honest - he is attractive but married so I am definitely staying away from now on), he enquires about my relationship status, he makes jokes about coming to my house and talking to my dad, he tries to get my attention and talk to me about random things sometimes, he kept joking about a bad smell coming from me to wind me up then he blanks me for a day or two then starts wanting attention again. I think he is a very egotistical man who wants to compete with the other men I work with and prove he is top dog and can win me over and make me like him. My plan is to just ignore him and not even ask for the information because I don't want to partake in his silly little games. I would rather get told off by my boss for not doing my job properly than waste another second nagging this man for the information. Is this a good way to deal with it. by the way there is no point going to my boss or anyone else - I know this from experience. To clarify there is nothing going on between us (nor will there be). It is just an attraction, admittedly from both sides but both of us pushing/pulling away from one day to the next.
Married man playing mind games at work - how to deal with him?
I work with a man who is married and 35 - he is constantly playing games and I don't know how to handle him. I have to approach him for work reasons to ask him to obtain information for me but also to chase up once I have done my part of the task. He makes it very difficult for me to do my job because he is very obstructive (partly because it takes a bit of time and effort to do it - and he can't he bothered plus it is not always easy doing it). I have no doubt in my mind that he finds me attractive. It is quite obvious, he stares at me a lot, he does silly childish things like say my name when I go past, he comes close to me when he talks to me (and sometimes I get too close if I am honest - he is attractive but married so I am definitely staying away from now on), he enquires about my relationship status, he makes jokes about coming to my house and talking to my dad, he tries to get my attention and talk to me about random things sometimes, he kept joking about a bad smell coming from me to wind me up then he blanks me for a day or two then starts wanting attention again. I think he is a very egotistical man who wants to compete with the other men I work with and prove he is top dog and can win me over and make me like him. My plan is to just ignore him and not even ask for the information because I don't want to partake in his silly little games. I would rather get told off by my boss for not doing my job properly than waste another second nagging this man for the information. Is this a good way to deal with it. by the way there is no point going to my boss or anyone else - I know this from experience. To clarify there is nothing going on between us (nor will there be). It is just an attraction, admittedly from both sides but both of us pushing/pulling away from one day to the next.
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