Why would a guy reject a hook-up?

[Anonymous]

Met a guy on tinder and we texted the whole day. We were both very flirty and pervy. And we were both up for a hook-up. He took my number and asked me on a date the next day. I went, we met and it was great. He texted me for the next few days, kept saying how super cute and beautiful I am and then asked to see me again. I invited him over my place and he sounded excited about it. He came and... nada. On his way out I went in for a kiss and he turned his cheek. When he got home I asked him what is wrong and he gave me some lame reason about not wanting to fuck things up and how he would like us to just be friends. He really meant it because ever since then he has been acting like a best friend (texting, calling, initiating hang outs, helping me out, talking about deep stuff, etc.)

[Cosytoasty]

Did you leave any photos with your husband around op? 😂😂😂 Jk
Do you have bad personal hygiene?
Do you have kids?
Was your place a complete mess?
Do you wear a lot of makeup for pictures, but not a lot around the house?

The important one : How old was your Tinder picture exactly?

All of these things and many others can be a turnoff physically. And that's before we consider the fact that men are quite capable of not wanting casual sex, when he found out he was turned off. He could also just be doing it to set up a potential booty call - basically he seduces you and then leaves you hanging until HE wants you, at which point you're pretty much ready to jump on his dick (yes I've witnessed this).

[Asker]

I locked my hubby and my kids at the basement! :D
Nah, the answer to all your questions is NO. He kept complimenting me after he saw me in person, so pictures are not the problem here.
He did got turned off for some reason and I just don't understand why. Maybe you're right, maybe he's just waiting. If that's true then he's doing it wrong because I'm not interested to just jump on his dick anymore. It seemed like fun before we got to know each other better, but now that we do I'm pretty much sure I would catch feelings for him if we did it.

[WODSE]

RANT!:THESE LUCKY MOTHERFUCKERs somehow always fuck it up ( im one of em) god damn bruh... this guy just had all green lights and he ran , now on a serious note i think something u did while he was at ur house turned him completely off.. but id say u just got friend zoned, leave him and spare urself some time , id say the main reason he got turned off was ur initiative, i think he is the type of guy that is not used to a girl doing his job, and when u did it threw him off and he was like " mehh she a hoe" wich is incorrect

[Silverware]

I wouldn't over think it. He probably has insecurities about himself in the bedroom and doesn't want to share them with you because he clearly wants to keep something with you. I would continue your friendship with him and try and find a new hookup. It was nice of him to tell you that he doesn't want to ruin what he has with you because a lot of people wouldn't do that.

[DivaMonae]

Although he says he's up for a hookup. He might sleep with or use some girls but I'm guessing you mean more to him.

Either that or he lost interest and you got friend zoned

[Asker]

Well yeah I know I got friend-zoned lol. I'm just wondering why...

[DivaMonae]

Yeah but with the first thing I said thats also being friend zoned but he may actually be telling the truth. He may have feelings for you and don't want to f*** things up so that's why he doesn't want to have sex with you.

There could be a possibility that he wants to date you and do things right but he'll never come it and say it.

[AnonKuma]

If he just wants to be friends with you, then he prob really thinks you're a great person/great friend and to him running into people like that is prob hard so he doens't want to ruin this friendship between u guys just for a hook-up and things ending just like that. I suppose that isn't a ending what he wants and just wants to be friends with u for a long time without the risk of losing u as a friend.

[Daynada]

This

[Asker]

Yeah he thinks I'm so good that he can't even have a relationship with me. Sooo good that he can't even kiss me or make love to me. Really good point.

[orphan]

lol. no guy wants to just be friends. that's a waste of time. especially in this scenario.

sounds like he wants something serious.

[GingerGuy]

It could be for any number of reasons. Only he can answer this. He may have a girlfriend and just wants a friendship? Maybe he just likes "the chase"? Maybe he liked you at first and changed his mind for some reason? Maybe he's afraid of something? Commitment, some sexual hangup or something? Maybe he simply just wants to get to know you better first? Maybe he just got out of a relationship and thought he was ready to move on and realized later that he's not ready yet? Could be anything.

[Panay]

Doesn't want you to feel used?
Doesn't want you to think he's only interested in sex?
Maybe interested in a proper relationship and wants to build up to that slowly?
Or maybe just wants to be friends

[Asker]

Yeah but I gave him a green light about "being used". I don't see it that way... if we are both using each other for something that we want, then I don't see it as a bad thing.

[Panay]

Probably not that then, how about the other three? Maybe it's more about him-he might not want you to see HIM as something just for sex or a hookup and might want you to get to know him more first

[ThisDudeHere]

Well... congrats, you just used tinder to get a new friend. That's better than something, no?

[Asker]

Yeah I mean I'm fine with it, it's not like I'm desperate to get laid. :D But still it's not the greatest feeling in the world being rejected like that... and I guess I'm just confused. :/ He is very very attractive, though. Could it be that he just has really high physical standards for girls he would have sex with? Or maybe he's gay?

[ThisDudeHere]

Or he just doesn't feel like it.

[evenlift]

Because not all guys are desperate for sex (only most guys).

[RedThread]

Maybe he doesn't want you in that way at that given moment.

[orphan]

he's interested in a relationship. thus is why he's acting respectful.

[Fearless_banana]

Sorry babe. I just wasn't very attracted to you.

[Anonymous]

He's simply not attracted to you sexually

[Asker]

But why would he keep telling me how beautiful I am then? Before he came to my place he said "How come you don't have a boyfriend? You are really fucking gorges, haven't seen such beauty in a long time!". And days before that every time he would text me he would write things like "hey, cuttie", "hey, sexy", "good morning, beauty". And he still gives me those names from time to time.

[Opinion Owner]

Simply because he wants his friend to feel good. Surely you've had guy friends before that weren't interested in you. If he doesn't have his dick balls-deep inside of you, then he's not interested in you

[StickStickity13]

He put you in the friendzone

[Zanecyber]

I'd say he's a complete bitch/pussy,

[HelloEveryone123456]

I agree with this...