Would you date a former slut?

[Anonymous]

guys if she is not a slut anymore what could stop you from dating her. If you refuse to date a promiscuous woman this will make her feel worthless and unloved. Please don't be pigs about it and date them.

yes

no

I am a girl/I am not a straight guy

[BuchitaBuchys]

Personally, I wouldn't be able to date a promiscuous man.

I get that people can change, but I have a really hard time believing that. Also, I'm extremely jealous and insecure. Like what if he keeps contact with them as a "backup"? I find that to be incredibly rude and disrespectful. I want someone to be for me fully and only me. I'm selfish, I don't share partners.
I also am not crazy in bed at all. I'm very vanilla, so he'd probably get bored of it and either leave me, try to do some stuff I don't like, or cheat. And then I would have just wasted my time on them.
We just wouldn't be able to see eye to eye because they most likely don't form emotional bonds with those they are intimate with, and I don't agree with that view. Like, would they see me as another notch, long-term, under their belt?

Plus, as I said, I'd be too insecure and feel like maybe he's secretly comparing my "skills", or worse - my body, to see how I "stack up" to one of his many former conquests.

Nope, no way. I can't date a promiscuous person. And I've actually have turned some down for that very reason. One guy, he was a pretty good guy from what I saw, but slept around in his youth and had almost 30 partners at nearly age 30. Nope, that's too much for me.

I don't think they're bad people, but I just don't want to date them.

[Ethrealness]

Lmao Words_and_Wisdom, cuckboy 2016 blocked me for hurting his wittle feewings.

In response to the asker since I can't respond to you on that post, I agree. Have you seen the interview between Gavin Mccines and that ginger kid? Coppercab? He gets annihilated. If you haven't seen it, he was raised by a single mom and as a result is a feminist and self-admitted cuck (or troll). It's pretty sad. Onision is still more annoying than both of these guys though.. (coppercab and the 24 year old cuck).

[Asker]

it is funny that he blocked you. lol. Honestly I haven't heard Gavin Mccines' case but I have heard an interview of a crossdresser who was raised by a single mom. He wore his mother's clothes and make up. And feminists raise their sons as pussies. They teach them to obey women and to be feminine. Have you ever heard a feminist quote "let boys be feminine" ? It is all over the internet.

[Ethrealness]

Yeah society has stooped so low... men aren't meant to be women, that's why they were born with testosterone and dicks. Not really sure if mental illness is running rampant or its this victim culture to blame.

[Asker]

feminists should learn basic biology and psychology. I agree that it is not rape culture it is victim culture

[Gwgwgw]

What's wrong with liking a slutty woman? It's much better then a prude. Seeing a woman have sex is awesome. I have both parents who looked after me when I was younger so the single mother bs doesn't work on me. A man Is a man whether you like it or not. If he was born a male he's very much a man

[Ethrealness]

@Gwgwgw He's technically male but his typical characteristics that he should be proud of have been stripped from him as soon as he accepts a slut as his equal and love. You can find a girl who's only crazy about you and doesn't crave others guys dicks. That's what quality (non-cucks) strive for. They don't just settle with anything they can get.

[Oram52]

So you hold the same views about Open and Poly relationships? What about threesoms, either FMF or MFM.

[99percentangel]

Well I don't have a huge problems with guys who used to be former man-whores. I don't see why men should have a big deal of it. If you really like someone it shouldn't really matter how many guys/girls s/he's been with in the past 'cuz it's all in the past.

[hellionthesage]

Well the atitude you exhibit is the exact reason most would be against it, because she isn't a "former" slut, she is a slut who now wants to have a relationship and expects a guy to give that to her ie she is entitled to it. You women men virgins or sluts are not entiteled to love, you earn that. If she could prove in some way that she had changed then I might consider it after all we all make mistakes but if she had the attitude that you are exhibiting then clearly she has not changed she simply feels she is entitled to a relationship despite her actions and behavior which means she is perfectly capable of reverting (if she even stopped) the initial behavior. That would be to the detriment of the man and the fact that she and you seem to think he should simply look past that is a clear sign that she/you are only thinking of yourself thus providing further evidence of why one should not date a "reformed slut"/promiscuis woman. As I stated if she actually changed and could prove it then I would not have issue as we all make mistakes but it would have to be proven that it was a mistake not she wanted to have fun and now realizes she can't get away with that now and wants some one to take care of her/raise her kids etc.

[Asker]

she might have slept around because no guy wanted her as a girlfriend

[hellionthesage]

But that doesn't mean she should automaticly be accepted by a man simply because she wants him to accept her. That also is a problem, she slept around but thats different then trying to have a relationship she chose sex over a relationship, she chose to have sex maybe because she felt desired and or prett which in turn informs the relationship, what happens when some one starts flirting with her? Will she even though she is in a relationship desire to be desired and thus cheat on her partner just for the chance to feel pretty and desired? The fact is we know statisticly that the more partners a woman has the worse things get. She is more likelyt to divorce/break up with the guy (not good for him), she is more likely to have relationship disatisfaction equivalent to the number of parteners she had (not good for the guy) she is more likely to cheat (again not good for the guy) etc. None of it is beneficial to him only she wins out if she convinces a guy to over look these risk factors.

[hellionthesage]

Thats why she would have to prove that she has changed and her demanding that she deserves to be in a relationship is not a very good way of going about it, if anything that simply further shows that she is high risk, to high risk to be in a relationship with. Plus as the example you gave, it shows she is impulsive which again is not a good trait. If a person lies they don't get to just be trusted they have to earn it and that takes time and that requires many actions showing they have changed with no screw ups (they can't afford to relapse or screw up).

[AleDeEurope]

"Former" slut? Yeah, right, like I'm gonna believe that... XD

[Asker]

what if she slept around because guys didn't want to date her. it is not that she didn't want love

[AleDeEurope]

Even more reasons not to date her. I don't want a girl that isn't true to her beliefs and does anything to get guy's attention. It's pathetic. I want a strong woman.

[Asker]

what if guys wanted to dae her but she wanted to sleep with them and that is it?

[AleDeEurope]

I don't want a girl that hasn't had a relationship as a goal. I'm not against casual sex, but not so much that you're a slut. A girl that sleeps with like 40 guys every year until she's 27, is an HUGE no for me. She would've probably stayed a slut if it wasn't because she was running out of options by that age.
Most sluts stop being sluts because guys like young girls, so they would choose a 20 y/o over 27 y/o. You don't change from promiscuous to wanting a family from one day to another.

[Asker]

I get an impression that you think promiscuity is not a choice. And some people are born promiscuous. lol

[AleDeEurope]

What? When did I say that? Of course promiscuity is a choice, but you can't simply fuck three guys in one night, and the next day be all like "I wanna get married and have babies"... nah.

[AleDeEurope]

Thanks for the MHO

[Anonymous]

If she doesn't want to be unwanted, she should not have engaged in things that make her undesirable.
And trying to shame someone for having a valid opinion on who they choose to associate with it retarded. That would be like me trying to shame women into wanting me. "Not everyone can look like Brad Pitt in his prime! Not dating 300 pound men makes them feel worthless and unloved!"
No one would care, and what's more, I would be mocked relentlessly for trying to shame women into fucking me.

No, why should I waste any time one a slut? Why should I devote myself to her emotionally, work to provide for her, and any children we have, and put in the huge effort to build a life with her? Why should I? What do I get out of it?
Better question: what do I get out of it that dozens of other guys haven't already gotten, for the price of a beer at some shit bar?

And the guys who do give women like you a chance? They are miserable. Often raising someone else's children, watching you get fat (you landed him, you don't need to worry about it any more), and knowing that, despite the dozens of dicks you jumped on in a single night in the past, he'll be lucky if you give him one half-asleep fuck a month.
Maybe if he is a good boy and takes out the garbage, you'll CONSIDER throwing a blow job his way.

No. Sorry. You have no value. You have been used, endlessly, and nothing you offer me is worth the additional effort I put in, that some jackoff in a club somewhere never did.

[Asker]

Why was I used? Maybe I used those guys?

[Opinion Owner]

I said you ARE used, not you WERE used.
If you were used, it isn't your fault.
If you are used, you have nothing of worth to offer.
and if you used those guys, why the fuck should I think you ever stopped using guys? Any man you catch now puts a roof over your head, buys you food, etc. He is a meal ticket. He is some poor, lonely sap who never had a girl, and thinks he has a chance for something useful and real with you, that finally he'll have something good in his life. And you will use him, in a different manner, but just as selfishly, as you used the guys who came before him. You will bleed him dry.
And like I said, not only will he BARELY get sex out of the deal, but NOTHING you do for him will be something that you didn't do for a million other guys for the price of a drink.
You may not be a slut anymore, but that doesn't matter. you lost all your value from being a slut. You don't want love. You want security, and no casual fuck gave you that.

[Anonymous]

No, I would not date a former slut. Like I have said in the past, I have no respect for people with the "party now, settle down later" mentality - male or female.

It's not just that, but I am unwilling to date a girl who isn't a virgin. Partially because I am also a virgin, and I want us to be on equal grounds, but also because I just could not stand the thought of the girl I love being with another guy - even if it was in the past.

I'd rather be with a girl who I know and trust is completely untouched before me - that I have the honor of being both her first and her last.

[Kylesar]

Nope

Sorry, but her entitled self-esteem will never be put over my emotional and financial health

The switch doesn't just flip like that. You don't just go "I'm done riding the carousel. Men must accept me now. If they don't look past my cock-a-thon past, they're pigs."

That's exactly what you're exhibiting in your post... that her feelings matter more than my emotional and financial health and that she can just stop at will and the best man will be waiting for when she gets off

Fuck that

[Anonymous]

Would not date a woman who slept with guys for sexual pleasure alone. I would date a woman who had, had many relationships each with sexual content, assuming she genuinely was looking for love in each relationship and it just didn't happen.

I could never trust someone who was into sex for pleasure to be truly committed. First fight or disagreement seems likely she would have no problem seeking someone to sleep with make her feel better.

In practice though, a guy can't really know a girls history unless she or someone she slept with shares that. Also guy can't trust any other guy saying he slept with a girl since too many guys are quite happy to spread malicious gossip for either stroking their own ego or hurting someone who rejected them sexually.

So in practice, yes, guys would date a former slut. If they didn't know. If they fell in love with her before they find out, they might even rationalise her past behaviour as alright.

[Prof_Don]

As long as she hasn't fucked anyone that I've known well, I trust in my gut that she will be faithful, and she is just as open with her sexual kinkiness as she was in her past, I'd consider her for sure.

What I absolutely REFUSE to do, is to date a "slut-turned-chaste girl". A girl who exuded her sexual energy on other men, and wants to act all chaste and "want to save herself and wait" with me. Now THAT is more intolerable than dating an outright slut!

[Asker]

so either she should be a slut or chaste?

[Prof_Don]

All i'm saying is, i'm not going to stand for a girl that wants to act all innocent and wait a long time to have sex with me, knowing she was giving her pussy out easy to other men. That's too emasculating for me to handle.

[Tdieseler]

It all depends. I'd date a girl who has slept around. But if she has slept around with people that I know, she gotta be something hella special if that relationship will go anywhere. Guys can be hella cruel when it comes to that kind of stuff, trust me, i know, I've been one of those guys, so if im gonna be getting "side comments", she better be worth it in every way.

[Asker]

what will the people you know do?

[Tdieseler]

they'd give side comments that i have to admit, if its pointed in your direction, can really REALLY bring down your self-esteem.

[Pyrofox]

I would date her only though if she doesn't have a history of choosing the wrong guy. As in all her relationships have been up to that point short term ones or one night stands. I dont need that kind of stress coming into my families lives. Least of all my niece's.

[lightbulb27]

It depends on who she is when I meet her, but if somehow I knew she had lived that life (I haven't met many women who are that open early on), then I'd probably more cautious until I got to know her.

I have not dated one, I'm generally not attracted to that behavior.

[Bandit74]

Ideally no, but Id consider it if she's just as sexual with me. If she's one of those girls who had sex right away with most of her other partners but wants to wait months with me then Im not interested. I don't want a girl who is hard to get for me but easy to get for everyone else. I want her to express the same level of excitement towards having sex with me that she has expressed with her previous partners.

[99percentangel]

She'd probally wants to wait months with you because she's trying to chance her way instead of doing everything she's done with other men.

[Bandit74]

@99percentangel
I understand but I stand by what I said
Overall I find girls with high partner counts unnatractive. For me to be willing to date one I want her to be consistently slutty.

The pro of a modest woman is that you are one of a small number of guys who got to have sex with her. It feels more special.
The con is that generally you have to wait longer for sex.

The pros of a promiscuous woman is you generally get to sleep with her much faster and that they are sometimes more wild in bed.
The con is that it's unnatractive to think of how many guys she's been with before you. You feel less connected/less special.

With your scenario I get the con of the modest girl AND the con of the promiscuous girl. That is the least desirable scenario to me.

[NYkid27]

I wouldn't date a slut because just because you've taken a break from doing something doesn't mean you're not still that type of person. The choices you make stick with you for the rest of your life so you just have to accept them and hope others will too one day

[TylerKuykendall]

It'd depend - by the way, you can call someone 'promiscuous' without calling him/her a 'slut'. 'Promiscuous' doesn't instantly mean 'unfaithful', just like 'virgin' doesn't instantly mean 'loyal'. I'm abstinent, though I can date a non-virgin, but I still have my values when it comes to sex: if *I'm* the only reason she isn't having random sex, and not because of morals, I honestly wouldn't be interested. Everyone has their own standards, however, so someone else will be okay with dating her.

[doetrioux]

Yes if under the impression she won't go out and flirt with other guys I suppose. Depends on the situation.

[Anonymous]

it doesn't matter if a girl stops being a slut, she still is, cause the past tells everything, she should of known better in the beginning

[Yumix]

yes. it's her past and as long as she is loyal in relationships and clean, then I don't see why I shouldn't give her a chance. it's the past and doesn't matter anymore

[Decentguy]

well im a virgin so i prefer virgin, if she has any diseases then i won't but if the girl has changed then yes i would date her because everyone deserves a second chance

[Oram52]

No, I don't date promiscuous girls. We all make choices and have to live with them.

[Anonymous]

As long as she is free of diseases and baby-daddy dramas then certainly.

[Asker]

baby-daddy drama lol

[00Lelouchxx]

She wasn't traditional So why would she want to be.

She need to date slutty guts not guys who want s Lady.

[Melcart23]

Yeah. I think most people deserve a second chance if they have proven that they're different and learned from their mistakes.

[Anonymous]

Anyone that judges you for your past, if you've truly changed, isn't worth your time.

[AleDeEurope]

You know that's idiotic right? How are you not supposed to judge someone for their past, if their present is the result of their past actions?
Seriously, it makes absolutely no sense.

[Opinion Owner]

@AleDeEurope I don't know it made sense to me... now I'm not sure any more.
If you were a slut, but you're not now and have truly moved on from your past, it's stupid for someone to judged you purely based on that past.