Throughout human history, desirable men have had multiple women in their lives. Multiple wives, mistresses, concubines, etc.
Hell, it happens all the time in the animal kingdom as well. The males of many species are naturally inclined to multiple mates.
Also, side chicks are a thing purely because there are a certain percentage of women that are actually okay with being a side chick. If some women are okay with playing second fiddle to another girl because they only have eyes for one particular desirable dude, then yeah, of course there are going to be guys out there that will exploit that.
There isn't much bigger of an ego trip for a guy than multiple women wanting him, especially if some of those girls are completely okay with sharing.
Guys who want girls in every port are usually the most egocentric. They need approval from more than one girl and they get that approval from anyone who will touch their penis. It's all a bit basic and a bit caveman. The main point is that you don't need to be one of those girls. You can have a bit more respect for yourself, as it seems you are doing already :)
That is insane. Its all because of lust and they see you as somebody they can use, pump and dump. Ignore those guys. They're literally cheaters with no backbone. Don't let this get to you. Many of them today are like this. Don't allow yourself to fall for their nonsense. They have nothing else better to do. And they assume because of your physical appearance like you will just do it anyway. Their losers and a waste of time. Not worth being around, not worth having respect for. And if they really do have girlfriends, and they know that this is happening. THEY. ARE. DUMB. Literally a dunce.
here come some men with their whole "Gorilla ape shit" from eons back.
Sorry for your encounter. Maybe stop going to places where these guys are predominant. I know many good natured men that aren't like this. Good luck in the future
Dont ever let a guy put you second. Sorry that sucks! They must have been immature and couldnt handle just having one girl. There will be a guy who won't do this , just be patient and the guys who do it can fuck off
Wow, you have had a horrible run there. At least you are finding out before something bad happens... i hope.
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7 times... You need to meet other kinds of guys. Maybe you're just having bad luck, maybe you're surrounded by assholes or maybe you overlook better guys.
As to why those guys want a side chick, they want to cheat with other girls without having to go through the trouble of finding a new one every time.
Most of the time it's because the guy is immature.
The other reason is because women are known to withhold sex and offer it as a reward. Guys can't stand it. All we want to do is have sex with our gfs because it's awesome and we love her. We don't want to have a spectacular date beforehand to impress her or anything like that.
The problem with you isn't the guys fault here though. You are obviously picking them up at club/bars. A bar is probably the worst spot to meet a person. It's loud, you can't hear what they are saying, it's crowded, it's sexually competitive, and most of the time people are drunk as hell and acting like idiots.
Would you rather you were 1st best and he made his present girlfriend 2nd? Guys want variety for one. Also possible his present girlfriend has a lower sex drive but doesn't want to break up for other reasons (kids, finances etc). You might as well plan on being single for life and find some other hobbies besides guys unless you come across a less-honest guy that lies and says he's single when in fact he has a girlfriend. 7 honest guys in a row that were up front about what they wanted, I'm impressed with your luck.
Bigger question why are these the guys the ones you attract/are attracted to?
I'll let you in on the secret. Side chics are there for just sex. He got a real relationship and then a chic on the side for when its not going well or in other words no sex. There 2 types of girls doods look for when they want a side chic, one a less attractive girl and two an easy looking/ desperate looking girl. You're pretty, so you may give off an easy going or desperate vibe.
I don't know, I guess those guys they cake and ice cream too.. But, those are just some guys.. Me.. I don't need or want a side chick.. First it's too much drama for me, when one finds out the other, and that's pretty much treating a woman as an object.. Which I cannot stand..
He know he is alpha and wanted by many women , he take advantage of fact that majority of women are only interested with minority of men
There are only two kind of men in this world , alpha guy who have power to get multiple women at once , and guy who always get rejected by women and ended up being porn addict forever
You meant to ask this question about straight/bi guys. No, not all guys want/need side chicks. Especially not me... The guys who want them are cheaters and aren't satisfied with being with only one person...
Do they not tell you beforehand they have a gf? I'd say snoop and get to know them really well before getting involved.
I won't lie I've been guilty of this. I say this thou for some reason I'm actually a nice person and kind but when it comes to girls and feelings I'm pretty selfish. If I could have 3 girls I would. Side chicks are better than a girlfriend because we don't have to deal with anything other than sex and affection.
This happens when guys meet girls who are good enough to have sex with but not good enough to want to date.
Only immature boys are this way, I'm sorry you had to stumble assholes like that :/
I don't understand a lot of men sometimes. Sorry this is happening to you. Just tell them to fuck off and keep moving forward trying to find the right guy.
Probably Cause He has a girlfriend with a lower sex drive. Otherwise I can't imagine why a guy would want it.
That sucks girl. Sorry that has happened to you, so much. Feel better 😊
I don't need or want a side chick. When chicks try to be my side chick I politely tell them I have a full time chick.
Not sure. I'd never do that to a woman; I think you're hot tbh and if I personally knew you I'd ask to date
How else we gonna rack up our numbers? It would be great if men were upfront and honest about it but that means we would never get laid lol
I think that happens to exceptionally good looking girls. I would get too aroused with you and would wanna cheat on my girlfriend. Maybe that is why I've never had a girlfriend and only fwbs
Cause all men are whores we wanna get you pregnant and not pay child support.
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