Are some guys actually "bad at texting"?

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This guy is so horrible at texting I am starting to think he isn't interested. In person he is nice/somewhat flirty and friendly and he does use a lot of smileys and such when he finally does respond. He will text me first and then just not respond, he will take around 30 min to 2 hours to respond to me, occasionally he just doesn't respond when I text first. And we rarely are just talking about pointless things either. I get that people get busy and not everyone checks their phone but at some point I have to ask, is he just not into me or are some guys like this?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some people. A lot of women do this. Whether it's a guy or a girl, it's plain stupid.

The stupid fake alphas and the crazy women attention seekers will roll in and post comments like:
"Not obligated to reply, I'm busy, I call women, texting is for chumps" etc. All of those are pathetic childish excuses.

Texting is for adults (for men and women) and is more personal than fb, emails, clubbing etc. It's less intrusive than a phone call.

It does require you to read and reply promptly. people can be busy, but only if they REPLY TO NO ONE. If they selectively reply to some quickly and not to others, they are BAD people. Full stop. Whether they are a girl or a guy.

I have a girl who is a friend who blanked me for 3 weeks. Obviously she's at fault, not me. Don't worry, he is at fault, not you. Don't change who you are and stoop to their level. I just wish I knew what to do with this girl.

JuicyBrain · Accepted Answer

I just don't get women and texting. Girls, can't you see that texting is bad for you? It makes you doubt EVERYTHING. If you are so confused all the time about it STOP USING IT. There are countless similar questions on here. You don't get it. Texting was never meant to have a full conversation. It was meant NOT to have one ! It's probably the worst way of communicating after morse code. There is so many ways to misinterpret a text that it's not even worth it. Do you gals actually like to be confused and insecure?

SLT93 · Accepted Answer

In life I have noticed two things with the introduction mobile communication and the impact on our normal lives...
Text speech - Hello bbe. How r u? Wanna get drink bbe. Hit me bk yh. Spk soon. C u l8r.
Normal speech - Hello babe. How are you? Want to get a drink babe. Hot me back yeah. Speak soon. See you later.

Personally I prefer normal speech. It's how I talk normally but we want to keep texts short and sweet so sometimes we cut corners.

When it comes to texting people we're interested in (perhaps this guy you've mentioned), we take our time messaging them! We spend a lot more time picking our phrases or the tone of the message. It's easier in person though isn't it. Don't worry about the time it takes for a reply... worry when he doesn't reply at all.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well it sucks that he takes this long to respond, but I wouldn't say this is a case of being bad at texting. Yes, some guys are, but being bad at texting implies they don't know how to have a good conversation over text. It seems like this guy just isn't trying that hard with you. Remember he is choosing at will to take ages to respond to you, busy or not. If he wanted to, he could decide at any time to respond faster. You say that he still makes plans to meet up with you, which is good, but just be careful. Don't get too hung up on this guy who seems *kinda* into you but not that much. Only put in the same amount of effort that he is willing to put in for you

Kamiink09 · Accepted Answer

I've thought the same thing so many times about guys. There's this guy who used to constantly text me when we first met and then it slowly went down. We text a little everyday but sometimes I miss the way it used to be. That's why girls get so confused with guys and texting. They set our expectations high when we first meet so when it becomes different, we think it has to do with us because that's usually a sign when a guy isn't interested or is backing off. But if he's still sending emojis and making an effort in any way I think it's ok. Usually when a guy backs off from me by texting I can just tell and it usually stops in time.

Shelovesnick · Accepted Answer

Sorry you're going through that girl because i hate when people take forever to text back lol, but the reality is, is that not everyone texts back fast, because i admit, i can take hours to reply to some people's messages! But with guys, most of them can't stand texting haha, I don't know what it is that they dont like, but i think its that girls are just more verbal than guys. If he is talking in person & making plans with u, then i am almost SURE that he is just not into the whole texting thing. Good luck honey! talk to him about it as well, because if u dont say anything, he won't know that its bothering you. :)

Anonymous · Answer

Hard to say. These days most people are married to their phones so taking hours to respond is just ignoring the person you're talking to, in my opinion.
Someone can be bad at texting but if you care about someone, you know that they're waiting to hear back so be a decent person and don't take forever is my mantra.
But then again, I don't know him. What I would do if I were you, I would ask him how he feels about texting. Just to get an idea. If he says he loves and does it all the time with friends, you have your answer. If he says he hates it, you know too.

Rainie_ · Answer

I've come across so many shitty ass texters, especially GUYS. They're really good at talking on the phone through call or face to face but when it comes to texting. Jesus Christ. Sometimes I just want to throw my phone into the wall cause its so bad. 😂
I've just accepted it now though... Or well... Slowly I am...😂 Trying.

Prof_Don · Answer

I will admit that I am a bad texter at times.

Sometimes I see the message, get sidetracked with something (school, work, errands, family/household stuff, another text or call comes in, etc.)... and I forget to reply.

If you think about it, with all these Bluetooth earpieces getting cheaper and cheaper, and more and more headphones/earbuds having mics... it makes total sense to call more often nowadays if someone is a "bad texter". #ThinkAboutIt

Loveherbut · Answer

Well i used to be good texted with women until i noticed most of them attention seekers using me in their free time start to pla mind games hard to get start to think they have control and everything get ugly
Now im bad texted and i feel good i donf respond it takes me half hour fo one day to respond stopped having casual conv with girls and started to ser limits and everything is good now

SensualScribe · Answer

Pick up the phone and call someone if you want to have an actual conversation. A lot of guys do not care to text. I don't understand why so many women don't understand this. He is obviously interested if he is making the effort to follow through.

MasqueradeMassacreTM · Answer

So what? He doesn't like to text. Not all people are addicted to looking at their phones, you shouldn't be either.

felchiq · Answer

There are people who are really bad at texting, for example, me. 😂 it's either i respond quickly or i dont respond at all.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

I'm a bad texter, I'm a bad flirter... but still cares about whome I think I should care about... so is it really matter the fact that I'm a bad texter or bad flirter?

Tarnygosh · Answer

My boyfriend replies fast when he isn't busy. When he is busy he takes a while and I've come to accept that.

SarahsSummer · Answer

many if not most guys are bad texters. Its an ongoing struggle in my relationship

GingerGuy · Answer

Not only are some "people" bad at it but they also don't like doing it. Some people hate texting.

NYkid27 · Answer

I don't think anyone is really bad at texting. Either they don't like texting so they don't do it much or they're just not interested

fueledbythc · Answer

I hate texting. I'd rather be there face to face. I find it easier talking in person than through texting.

lumberman9 · Answer

I was never good at texting and have only liked as a means of communication, to get things done never simply to just talk but then again I'm not a fan of using phones to communicate in general

jman46241 · Answer

I only text because girls want to. I do my best work in person..

Anonymous · Answer

Some people are. Girls too. Texting is just a chore sometimes.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys aren't that into texting. Why would you give higher value to a person that knows how to type in a phone is beyond me. Seems kind of petty.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably his stupid friends gave him horrible advice to fallow

Anonymous · Answer

WOW, that's a long time to respond! I imagine it's not "bad texting" so much as not noticing you sent the messages until much later? :/

Belgie · Answer

yes most men are bad texters actually.

Are some guys actually "bad at texting"?

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