Why are some men so mean to pretty women?

[Anonymous]

Ok i get the basic jist of it- they're intimidated, scared, they feel inferior, insecure- however, what I don't really get is why a lot of males are just so abusive and downright cruel to pretty women. I mean these guys are really mean, and sick with how they treat these women. I'm a 'pretty or hot woman." You would think men would be 'happy' to see a hot lady- get excited, anything. I"m a woman and I'll tell you that I tend to appreciate pretty or good looking women- I mean I might semi stare at them but I definitely admire their beauty and im a woman. Yet, men, I find it crazy the hatred and hostility they show towards women who are beautiful or really pretty.

I used to model and heck even photographers I dealt with some were really really mean to me- the whole passive aggressive hot woman hatred. Yeah some said you're incredibly gorgeous and we'll help you make it big or hope you do, but many were full of hate and anger. I really don't get this hatred it makes no logical sense. Random guys I encounter- many go out of their way to be mean, to be, do mean things, not greet me- or just be nasty and rude. Some are REALLY turned on and acting this way while being turned on. Again what i don't get is the cruelty- are they scared of the 'power' that woman has over them- their mere presence makes them feel so turned on they get angry and mean about it?

Not every guy is like this- some act 'normally' which would be excited, happy, pleasant, or just normal. But most show this extreme hatred and hostility- im wondering if there are guys out there that can break it down psychologically why these males show this hatred- esp to women who are really nice- i look like- i dont look b*tchy mean or even dress up. I have an innocent look and am really sweet. It makes no logical sense to just be this mean to a nice pretty woman- can someone explain it and justify it--or are these people just crazy sick and twisted?

[AriadneSky]

the issue in my opinion is you spend time with people who disrespect you-- regardless of WHY they are being 'mean. its not a chronic problem unless you make it one. no one can be mean unless you remain in their presence. why hang around people who are disrespectful? what's the appeal? tell them to fuck off and be done with it.

[Asker]

what? these are random guys or just guys in general- it seems most guys treat me this way- not all, there are some who are nice but they're usually doctors lawyers or professionals

[This_is_my_username]

Maybe the men you're hanging around with are on their period and have no respect. NOT all men are like this. And oh.. being attractive has nothing to do with how some people treat you. That's all based on first encounters and how you treated them.

[RJGraveyTrain]

#truth

[This_is_my_username]

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[Asker]

uh no- its based on how they treat you and lots of people are mean to pretty women.. wtf..

[This_is_my_username]

Lol either you're full of yourself or in a self absorbed world of your own anon. If you treat someone poorly they'll give you the same treatment. This is behavioural etiquette 101. Going back to kindergarten. Attractiveness plays no part darling.

[This_is_my_username]

You're one stupid woman

[JuicyCat04]

I used to have a similar problem. Message me if you want help on how I got over it.

[Asker]

Hey.. i can't message anyone b/c of my level- but yeah sure what did you do? I don't think there's anything you can do except be a total arrogant bossy demanding b*tch b/c then stupid men seem to follow you. If you're nice cool and friendly they treat u like crap.

[Asker]

all I know is, if you take charge and be the 'man' the pussy male will follow u gladly. If you expect the pussy male to take lead, he treats u like sh*t and rejects you.

[JuicyCat04]

You're good 👏🏻

[Anonymous]

It's simple. They know they're gonna get rejected and they're mad because that hot girl will never give him a chance. If you catch the same guys act nicer to lesser attractive women then you know he believes he stands no chance with really attractive women.

[Asker]

yup that's what I've seen! I've seen guys ask out uglier women, who are mean and reject them and they don't seem to care at all. But they'd never ask me out and also are mean to me. But why be mean to a woman who's nice

[Opinion Owner]

Guys can have this judgmental mentality where they see a hot pretty girl and they assume she's stuck-up and snobby because they know they can get away with it. The thing is that guys get rejected all the time and many are willing to settle for a lesser attractive girl if she's nice and will accept him.

[Opinion Owner]

Plus, hot pretty girls have a bunch of options, like a lot. So the more average looking guys will shy away because they think it's pointless. There's also some kind of social stigma that hot pretty girls like the jocky douchebags who are big and muscular and treat them like crap.

[Asker]

that's true- i mean it's all true however, the weird thing is, I've even tried to get sexual with some guys, and they still reject me or get scared- it seems like it never ends- even if you accept them they're still insecure or they feel like they're not good enough. Guys are just stupid.

[Asker]

i wish i understood it--only because I look really down to earth- if i was high maintenance, dressed up make up- sure i could get it, but Im super cool. Even one guy said "i tell everyone you're the coolest person I know" so it makes no sense. I dress cute like im in college, and im just really laid back. it doesn't make sense. Also why are they just so mean to me--is it b/c they want me and to cover up for that they act like jerks..

[Asker]

I mean im more hippy- really laid back. I wear jeans and a shirt- i grew up in the 90's just super laid back. Not a b*tch or mean. pretty funny and nice. low key.. however just b/c im sexually hot and pretty guys get crazy

[Opinion Owner]

They probably rejected you for getting sexual because they couldn't believe it and thought you weren't being serious. Most guys don't get hit on and have girls get sexual for them so they didn't take you serious because they're not used to it. Also keep in mind that many guys still believe thatwomen like assholes, especiallyattractive women. There's tons of guys out there who put on the asshole behavior because they think women are attracted to it. Oh yeah, guys get rejected by attractive girls all the time so some of them have some sort of resentment.

[Asker]

that's true- though i mean i do get sexual and a lot of them reject me or play games. Most of them do it's weird. I dont know what's wrong with them but yeah like you say, it's something within them they have definitely mental issues-- but thanks for the input

[Asker]

im talking to a 'russian' guy right now- he comes over, and seems to just want to get drunk. This time I wasn't feeling well, and had him massage me- in the middle of the massage he stopped and said his arm was tired. He didn't want to keep going. I can kind of get that, but the first time we met and he was massaging my breast- he stopped too and left. just weird stuff

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. I can't really pinpoint it out. They could just be nervous, or maybe they're not used to women coming on to them. Are they actually attracted to you though? It could be a misunderstanding.

[JuicyBrain]

That is probably because you embody every rejection they have ever had by women they desired. The moment they see you, all they see is every women who ever rejected them. It doesn't make it okay, but it explains it.

[Asker]

oh really... that makes a lot of sense- it just does. They totally lash out at me, as if i did something bad to them, but then they're nice to mean women. But yeah it does explain it thanks

[JuicyBrain]

You might have to ease up on the make up and preparation if you want to meet. Looking more "plain" might make you more accessible. You can go back to it once you've got him on the hook 😁

[Asker]

i dont wear make up, ever. I'm naturally gorgeous- which seems to piss men off more. I just dress average and guys still are jerks to me or mean. There are guys that like me but they dont live where i live which is orlando fl

[Asker]

if i dress up men do treat me a little better- but they just kiss up to me in this major way- or harass me more. im scared to look nice or i might get harassed or abused by men

[JuicyBrain]

Are you sure your attitude has nothing to do with it? I am not saying that's what it is, I don't know you, but it's hard to believe that every guy you meet is actually an asshole...

[Asker]

i dont have an attitude--im super nice. Most guys will say im really nice. And not every guy is an asshole but most of them are.. some are nice but it's rare I think.

[Asker]

actually it is most men- they treat me horribly. I mean I went through a subway drive thru- the guy was such a jerk to me. but underneath it he was breathing heavy- turned on. It baffles me how dysfunctional these creeps are. Men never ask me out- they just treat me badly

[Asker]

im a super hot woman who's still a virgin b/c i literally can't find a guy who will even be a damn boyfriend- that's crazy. Every guy i meet tries to use, and abuse me in cruel ways. And i look like a victoria's secret model.. it's insane. If I try to get sexual with a guy, he abuses or hurts me. Tonight a russian guy was about to massage my legs, and he tried turning them hard- like almost breaking them.. several times crazy fucker

[JuicyBrain]

Are you looking for hot guys or nice guys? Maybe you are always making the same mistake of only looking for the same kind of guys? Like some women who always land on violent guys.

[Anonymous]

Men realize the incredible amount of privilege you have as a "hot woman", and it irritates the hell out of men who have to struggle and claw for everything.

You have every advantage and none of the drawbacks or being a "regular" person. You are used to people falling all over themselves to "help" you and make sure you get everything you want. You are used to door just flying open for you automatically, getting every job you interview for, getting every man you want, and generally being the center of attention.

Your "reality" is very different from regular people and frankly, we get tired of feeding into your pretty world.

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Some guys just want to knock women down to where they think they should be, "below them". It's disgusting.

[Myyke]

it is difficult that someone is mean to you because of your looks... it might be something else... your attitude may be offensive... and you may think is not

[Asker]

no the guys attitude is offensive, and im super nice and even take it. Also men harass me after they see my picture sometimes

[Myyke]

you're too sensitive about it and I think you're not telling everything... try talk to me more... I might be different... and maybe something good will come out of this?

[Asker]

excuse me--telling everything.. you're absurd ciao

[Myyke]

have nice day... e una buona settimana...😉

[Yanoa_Yanza]

Some people are just dicks

[Anonymous]

Why are pretty women so full of themselves?

[Anonymous]

Nice try!