I wish I never met you. Why did he say this?

[Geekin25]

For the last year I was sort of dating a guy I met online. i recently found out I am pregnant and told him.
His reaction was pretty negative. He denied that it was his and that I was probably lying to him anyway. So we didn't speak for 6 weeks and then he suddenly pops back up after unblocking me on a social networking site to ask if I'm definitely pregnant. we chat a bit then i ask him what he would prefer to happen and if he will support me through deciding what to do as I don't have any support around me. He says he doesn't want to talk about it now as he wasn't well so I think enough is enough and block his contact. He messages from a different account last night and I asked if he would want to come to the scan. he said he can't as he has an operation that day. Cut it short we spoke for a while but he was more interested in asking me about any other people I'm seeing or slept with since him. I say its no longer anything to do with him. His reply is he can't talk about if he can support me and the baby if I am to keep it until I answer his questions. His reason is he doesn't want another man with his kid. So I don't reply back till the morning to send him the picture he asked for to prove I'm pregnant. He sends a thumbs up as a reply and soon as I said is that all you want to say he replies with... you can't decide when you feel like being ok with me. i remind him I was not willing to talk about it and other than that I was civil with him. He then says something that I really wasn't expecting...
Fuck your personal life. Just get rid and don't contact me again. Honestly wish I'd never met you. he blocked me straight after.
Now I'm here not knowing what to make of this and I don't know if this is just the usual I'll block you for a bit then I'll get in touch when you've sweated for a while kinda thing or if he is being serious. Bearing in mind when we fall out he'll go off for a week or so and say it's because of me to why he did it.
What should I do?

[D1991F]

Well i could understand him being negative since this was completely unplanned and as guy who experienced pregnancy scares it kinda feels like your life is ruined because i guess some dont see the beauty in having child and if you two wernt exactly close i would assume he's looking for a way out trying to interview your sexual past and timeline with guys

Im not prolife and agree any women should have a choice over her body but if your keeping it than maybe you should comfort him and suggest to him you won't slow him down or have to worry about it cause he's living in fear now and might man up eventually and be a father

[Sara413]

I'm sorry but she's the one who's stuck carrying this pregnancy for 9 months, going through the worst pain imaginable giving birth to it, and then stuck with a child she didn't want without being able to walk away or decide just how involved she wants to be... why the hell should she be comforting HIM and telling HIM his life isn't over? Especially when he sounds like a complete prick in the first place.

[D1991F]

@Sara413 this guy is probably a nice guy but he is experiencing fear and doubt and anxiety which is normal for unexpected pregnancys so i recommend she try to make the relationship work and motivate him and in return he might man up and be a good father and husband and support her instead of her worried and continuously blocking him

[Sara413]

Read her response to one of the other women's comments here - guy was a prick before she got pregnant.

[D1991F]

@Sara413 wow your right this guy is joke but i still think she could try to at least get his support since the relationship is obviously isn't going to work from this asshole

[Sara413]

She should not go through with the pregnancy. Otherwise she is tethered to this guy for life regardless... and he sounds like the type who will use the kid as leverage to control her.

[Streamhopper]

Sounds like heat of the moment kind of thing to me. He'll probably be back once he's had a chance to cool down. But it sounds like he's confused as to what to do; not only what *should* he do, but also what he *must* do.

[Sara413]

He sounds like an immature douche and, frankly, if I were you I wouldn't bother with him. I certainly wouldn't attempt to raise a kid with him. I think you're probably better off terminating the pregnancy, but that's a personal decision you need to make for yourself. You tried to include him in that decision but he has proven himself to be too immature to be involved, so fuck him. It's now you and your life you've got to worry about, so make the right decision for you.

[writing_essays]

There is something seriously wrong with you. You are pregnant - the baby might be his and then when he asks you who you have slept with you tell him its none of his business? Forget dating - if I'm dating even my friends have a right to know about it - much less somebody you have a romantic history with.

[Geekin25]

Sorry I didn't have the space to explain further on this. For the year we were dating he would constantly ask if I'd chatted to other men, he constantly asked if I was sleeping with others. This was the main topic of conversation we had in between visits. I always answered his questions and told him the truth. We'd fall out and he'd say he was going to be "getting laid " else where. He even posted things stating he was in love with someone else. Hed tell other women he spoke to about my flaws and how I kept messing up. The baby is 100% his as we had both said from the start we wouldn't see other people as we wanted something serious and not casual. So when I did tell him I was pregnant I also made it very clear that he was the dad. there is and was no might be about it. But now we're not dating and it's clear we won't be working things out I have no need to discuss my sex/life with him, pregnant or not.

[writing_essays]

IF he is the father of your child and your former lover he has a right to know your relationships status. Telling him is the decent thing to do.

[Sara413]

Wow did you read this question and come to the conclusion that SHE is in the wrong here? The guy sounds like a total fuckin douche, even before the further explanation she just gave here.

[D1991F]

Im sure this guy is cool and Please let him calm down and think for now a pregnancy can temporarily catch a guy by surprise and alter his thinking so Look at it this way Your looking for support he's looking for relief

[Centurion20000]

Well, if it's his kid he's SOL about paying for Child Support - [no argument, no appeal]

As far as what you're doing without him? He's going to be in your life for the next 19 YEARS if you are carrying his baby. It would behoove you to either try and cultivate either some diplomacy or to try and get along with him.

[Bananaman177]

Congratulations, you fell for the meme:

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