Why do guys have such high standards?

[Anonymous]

I'm sick of guys having such high standards about looks. I can't look like a Victoria's Secret model.

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+1 y

I can't look like any model, I have an ugly body, and no guys ever check me out.

[SammyGurl]

You are on the right track about this. Any normal, natural women cannot compete with retouched pictures, digitally altered pictures, Botox, a little nip here and tuck there to enhance the models proportions, hours and hours of professional makeup artists applying makeup from head to toe, hair stylists to make sure every last hair is in place... on and on and on... How on earth are we supposed to compete with that? We can't, many of those models in a sense aren't real, they're a perfected digital image which started off with a pretty girl/woman in the first place.

I'm told I'm pretty, I have been told that all my life, I guess I believe it. I sure feel like a dog's hind end when I compare myself to those women, my breasts are small A or B cup, perky and natural. My bum is small, toned and tight from running miles and miles. My tummy is flat, almost washbordy, I'm thin and tall like they are, 5'-9" (minimum height for most female modeling jobs). Blonde and blue eyed like many of them. I have beautiful skin, complexion and natural highlights that with just a little make up looks nice enough to go out for the evening. Most of those girls look like they begin at a C cup and just get bigger!! I can't measure up to that even if you take away all the "Magic Imagery". Why, think about it, each one of those girl represents maybe a thousand others who thought they were pretty enough to be a model and washed up along the way. They couldn't measure up either! The V. S. Models are the cream of the cream, models who made it yet were prettier or had something about their looks that make them stand above the rest... How can we compete with that? We can't; so why even try?

I resolved to myself and to my guy that I am me, I'm not a model, I'm not a V. S. Model and don't want to be one. I want to be accepted for me, not the fantasy that enhanced looks conjure up. I can't even measure up to that! Why should I, I'm me, no one in the world looks like me, I'm pretty, even beautiful to my husband. He loves me for who I am, not what I look like, he backs up those words with actions!! I love that!! He loved me way back when I was a Tomboy, trying to get his attention. I love him like that too so, why should I compete with a fantasy when I'm his to have, to hold, to love, to return his love. When I look at it that way, why would I even want to compete? Especially when I don't need to!

[Bella8991]

That’s like saying “why do girls have high standards?” And the only answer I can give for both of those is because they don’t want to settle for anything less than what they deserve and hiwnstly most guys don’t want a Victoria look alike super model, they actually prefer something to hold on to and to grab, as for personality most would probably say that they’d want someone to take Home to their Mum, someone to keep them on their toes, good personality and sense of humour who they can laugh along with. As for body shape, some like curvy, some like normal and some like slim/skinny as for looks some like dark, ginger, blonde, brown, multi-coloured, curly, straight, beach wave hair. Plus girls are just as bad when it comes to looks plus when you first meet someone the first thing anyone will notice is their appearance on how they look and dress and everyone has perceptions and standards on what they want their person to look like

[CluelessJ]

Don't get involved with them then. To tell you the truth, everyone looks to models for the perfect looks and the standard of perfection on looks. Its everywhere, but you shouldn't involve yourself with guys who look for that standard and not the person. Guys like these are looking at fantasies and not reality as the majority of pictures of models are wearing makeup and using Photoshop. So, instead be yourself and focus on yourself, guys will flock to you more when they notice that you are for yourself and that you enjoy being you and not the world's perfect model. You will attract guys who want you, not only looks but everything that makes you, and not those who want a fantasy. Hope this helps :)

[Asker]

I just hope so. But even if I try to "shine" I won't get noticed. I have brown hair, small boobs, and a small face. That's boring for guys.

[CluelessJ]

Boring to guys who want sex and not the girl. You don't want those type of guys, they'd probably treat you like an object to show off to guys and use until they get bored and find the next hottest after you. And anyways, you've got a long time and since your under 18 of course guys will be immature on that. I know how you feel, but now I'm focusing on myself and I've found happiness because of it, I'm less stressed on me not being attractive and not getting attention and instead focusing on me and the people I know like me for who I am and not because I look attractive, adorable, etc. Shine for yourself, not for guys, immature guys at that, who want looks than the actual girl. Hope this helps

[Rei13]

I don't believe that all guys only care about looks. I used to be a lot heavier than I am now and still attracted guys. I think a lot of it has to do with how you present yourself. Just because you're not getting checked out doesn't mean that you can't attract guys. Don't be so negative, you don't want a guy who only likes the way you look.

[Asker]

Guys won't ever like a skinny girl like me: https://imgur.com/a/pHOGJ

[Rei13]

If you meet the right guy it doesn't matter how you look. Be confident in your appearance. You're obviously cute so don't be so self conscious.

[Asker]

It matters how I look because guys only want 10/10 blonde girls. Cute isn't enough for guys. I have to get plastic surgery.

[Rei13]

Better start saving up if that's how you feel

[Asker]

Maybe, but i don't know if I'll make a lot of money anyway.

[Rei13]

You just have to get more creative about it

[Asker]

Creative about making money?

[ScottSummers]

I will be first to admit that when it comes to dating girls physical appearance is important to me. If i want to date her i need to feel attracted to her.
Iam sure guys look and his height etc is important to you as well and it should be,
we all should have at least some standards.
Also you need to understand that many boys might like you but they are kind of afraid to act on it.

[Deadpool76992]

Hold on a fucking second now. Don't bullshit me here. Would you fuck Danny Devito? He's funny, talented. But he's 4 foot, a little on the fat side and he's pretty much bald. Now, most girls would say "Ew! No!" so why is that ok, but we can't turn you down?

[Asker]

Guys turn me down anyway.

[Asker]

Every time they see me. I'm not saying that. I'm just saying that guys always have high standards and guys always deny it. Men just like power, thats all.

[Deadpool76992]

That's my point. Just because a guy doesn't want to fuck you, that doesn't make him, or all of us assholes.

[Deadpool76992]

bullshit. You're under 18 so you probably mean guys in school... as in immature guys going through puberty... of course THEY will have high standards!

[Asker]

I know.

[Asker]

But NO guys want to fuck me. they don't even look at me.

[Asker]

https://imgur.com/a/yZigg

[Deadpool76992]

Right. So not 'Guys have high standards" it's "allot of teenagers have high standards"

[Deadpool76992]

So what? plenty of people don't want to fuck me. I don't turn around and go "You shallow bitch!"

[SuitAndTie]

I'm sure most guys are not expecting you to look like a Victoria Secret model. Besides, I'm sure you have standards of your own. You can't complain if you do the same thing. Most guys don't even get a second glance from females, let alone being checked out.

[Anonymous]

We all know that's not true and that the majority of women have more options than men if they want to get with someone. Girls don't have to look like a VS model, and really dudes don't need to look like they belong on the cover of men's fitness if they've got game, or cash. lel

[baakkmn]

I really only have 3 standards really

Smiles,
Excitement,
And Being Open Minded.

I don't run into too many people who you're talking about at my school and in my town. If you just went to a different town for a day, I'm sure you'd notice the difference in culture amongst men (if you'd call it that).

[JayGarrick]

I can ask you the same about women. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. Unfortunately, the majority of women don't like me. Its probably the same case as you.

[Asker]

The majority of men don't like me. https://imgur.com/a/EZgCp

[TclaytonIi]

I can tell you right now that a lot of guys would be happy to talk to you depending on your personality. .. you're not ugly..

I don't want to sound rude, but you could also do some improvements too... try trimming your eye brows and smiling a little more.

Just by looking at this pic you seem kind of stand offish

[JayGarrick]

You are pretty. For me, you are a 7/10. Don't worry about it

[Asker]

@TclaytonIi I don't look good with thin eyebrows either. https://imgur.com/a/VOIla

[Asker]

7/10s don't get boyfriends. only 9s or 10s do.

[Asker]

No guys will have an interest in me because I'm a 7. No guys have ever approached me or even flirted with me. It means I'm sexually unattractive and therefore cannot pass my genes onto the next generation, all guys want blonde, thin girls.

[JayGarrick]

me saying that about you means that someone does find you attractive.

[Asker]

Yes, it does. you've insulted me three times.

[Asker]

But you were honest at least. I'm a 2/10

[JayGarrick]

how have I insulted you? By calling you beautiful? What the fuck is wrong with you?

[TclaytonIi]

lol it's not that guys aren't attracted to you.. it's your own views about yourself. ( Ironic coming from me and the question I posted lol ). I gave you (MY) honest opinion about you over the internet where I could've lied and insulted you. Which I didn't. I saw a pic of you and thought you were very pretty.. even with the eyebrows trimmed. Your smile just boosted your appearance even more. Trust me, I'm pretty sure you do get attention. Just not in the way you're expecting.

[Asker]

@TclaytonIi Now you're telling me my eyebrows look good?

[Asker]

@TclaytonIi I look like a man.

[JayGarrick]

no. you're pretty

[Asker]

@TclaytonIi That's what a guy said on here... So I look like a man and I can't get any guy. I should kill myself.

[JayGarrick]

you are not manly

[TclaytonIi]

Excuse me I meant untrimmed. But yes either way you do look good. And from my eyes no you don't look like a man. That's just your view on yourself. You just need to have confidence

[Asker]

@TclaytonIi www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2273027-what-can-i-do-if-i-m-ugly
Scroll down and see blue anon's comment. (drinking milk gif and adam's apple comment)

[JayGarrick]

All because one douchebag happened to say that?

[Asker]

Yes. There were more comments in the past, both online and irl.

[Asker]

All by guys.

[TclaytonIi]

Guys can be assholes especially online. lol (though it is funny at times) I'm trying to tell you.. you're not ugly. Not everyone is going to find you as their cup of tea, but hey you can't please every body. Trust me, you are not ugly from your pictures. You've had several guys her tell you you're pretty. And you're focused on the bad... which I'm sure not all of em were even serious. Relax. Hell try an experiment, if you see a guy you find attractive, look him in the eye and smile. See the reaction you get from him

[Asker]

@TclaytonIi I wouldn't dare do that.

[Asker]

@TclaytonIi I'm not satisfied with how I look and I can't do anything about it because I don't have a job yet and I can't just ask my parents to get me all these makeup products because they think I have enough. But I don't.

[TclaytonIi]

Then you have your answer

[TclaytonIi]

It's not your looks that's keeping you.. it's your confidence

[tzdc21]

Most guys just require you to be average looking or somewhat attractive. You don't have to be a model level.

[Lopezz1999]

No guy expects any girl to look like a great model. To be honest, your average guys' standards are lower than your average female standards.

[lostgirl_searching]

What kind of guys are you talking to that wants a girl that looks like Victoria's Secret model?

[Asker]

All guys.

[lostgirl_searching]

Not all guys. Just say some.
Once you go to college you will see, the girls that are not like a Victoria Secret model has a boyfriend. Guys that are under 18 likes women like them which is okay.
Chubby chasers loves girls that are overweight and they're not Victoria Secret models.
I'm 4'11 and weigh 210 and many guys ask me out and I have a boyfriend. When I use to weigh 250 I was still asked out by guys and I don't look like a Victoria Secret model.
So don't compare young boys that are under 18 to older men 18 and up. You will realize it soon.

[Asker]

Lots of girls at the college I'm going to are model-like (too many sorority girls) and probably all of them have boyfriends. Those are the only kinds of girls guys are interested in even in college, but maybe I need to actually experience college to know.

[lostgirl_searching]

That's just them, not all guys. You will see soon.

[Exterminatore]

Girls are no different babe. They're worse in fact. I get your frustration, but what are we supposed to do? Lower our standards. It is what it is.

[Exterminatore]

Hold on. Is that your picture in that link? You're cute and you like Pink Floyd, so if that's you, you get bonus points for music taste.

I'd suggest your looks aren't the problem. I'd give you a solid 7 out of 10. Must be something else going on.

[Asker]

7 out of 10 isn't good enough to get a boyfriend or guys checking me out and hitting on me.

[Exterminatore]

The hell it isn't. If you're expecting Brad Pitt, or a super wealthy or a rock star, then probaly not.

Based solely on looks and no other factors, I'd totally date you and know plenty of other guys who would too.

I think you're just being impatient. Slow your roll. Mr. Right will come along.

[Asker]

I want to become a 10.

[Asker]

That way, I can choose any guy I want and be happy with myself. It will take a lot of money and facial reconstruction.

[Exterminatore]

Now we're getting to the root of the problem. Your looks can't get you the kind of guy you want no?

There are pleanty of great guys who aren't 10's themselves, but 7's like you, and what would be wrong with one of them?

[Asker]

I don't like 7/10 guys. I don't even rate guys. I find them hot or not. A 7 to me is average like this guy: images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/.../...317_AL_.jpg

I personally find him "okayish/a little attractive" but would I have intense feelings for him? no, I don't think so.

[Exterminatore]

Are you looking at the words you type? I hope so.

Your an average girl. You should be happy with an average guy. Now whose standards are unreasonable?

[Asker]

But I'm "average." Average isn't good enough. It won't get me a guy I actually like.

[Exterminatore]

Do you see the problem?

You're question was about guys having high standards, but look at yours... they're sky high. Unrealistically high.

Look, I get it. You want a guy you're attracted to, and I wouldn't suggest dating a guy you're not attracted to. It won't end well for either party... but girl... come on. Your standards on looks are insane! I'm not gay, but that guy in the picture seemed decent enough in the looks department and plenty of girls if not most would be fine with his looks.

I think you want way, way more than is reasonable.

[Exterminatore]

Ain't nothing wrong with average in this department. I'm average. So are you. It's wholly unreasonable for either of us being average to expect, demand, or feel entitled to a partner who is much more than average in looks.

[Anonymous]

Isn't it the same as when a woman set the height standard to like 6 feet tall?

[Asker]

I like guys who are at least 5'9

[truthbeknown]

Right, so a guy 5'8 now has the same gripe you do.

[disgustingweebtrash]

>under 18
Some do have high standards around that age, but girls also have really high standards around that age too, try going lower.

[Asker]

WHY DO YOU HAVE TO JUDGE ME BY MY AGE.

[disgustingweebtrash]

Because you're most likely very young, and as I said, teenagers are still maturing, and guys will be watching pornography where all the women have perfect bodies, girls are also the same (ur all lying cunts u all watch porn) with guys, they both have this idea that ALL boys and girls look like that and expect that sort of thing in a relationship.

[Asker]

I don't watch porn. Porn guys are disgusting.

[disgustingweebtrash]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n-rhuo1vnKE

[Asker]

No matter what I say, you won't believe me, right?

[disgustingweebtrash]

Nah, most porn isn't good, I understand.

[Chico_brah]

Nobody is expecting you to look like women who make up 1% of the population.

[rgb008]

Life's too short to date someone ur not attracted to OP

[dolemite68]

the hotter or more rich the guy the higher the standards, maybe ur shooting out of ur league

[Teenagekid16]

Maybe instead of waiting around for guys you should start approaching them. And so the fuck what , no guys check you out. Girls don't check me out you think I sit at home and sulk.

[Anonymous]

Guys have low but strict standards for body.

Women have high but flexible standards.

[lumberman9]

A lot of girls have standards too so it goes both ways

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

But for that one special guy, you will be his Victoria secret model. And that's all that matters.

[ΉOMO_乇尺乇CTU丂]

I think you meant the guys i like don't notice me*

[Asker]

Well, yeah

[ΉOMO_乇尺乇CTU丂]

Well there's u go.

[Anonymous]

You're talking to the wrong guys.

[Asker]

I don't talk to many guys but I know what guys want bc I'm in high school and all they care about is how a girl looks. Pretty much any man at any age ONLY cares about looks and sex.

[BrittBratt2416]

Not all guys but majority do

[NajemEddine]

ofc its guys fault everything is their fault