I've liked one of my guy friends for a while now and I want to know if he likes me back. I've tried dropping subtle hints that I like him but I don't think he got it. We don't see each other very often and he's rather quiet so I think I'd just have to tell him through a text. Do you know how I could ask/tell him about this through a text?
Well, the situation you just described fits perfectly into one I'm having at the moment (Except that obviously I don't know if she likes me! Would be nice if she did though haha) in that I'm quiet and shy, but have known her for a while and don't see her THAT often.
In my situation I would absolutely LOVE it if she straight out told me, don't listen to the girls that have answered.
As someone else has said guys really don't do subtle hints, either make them outrageously huge or tell him straight out.
The only downside I can see is the guys (Or your!) maturity or age. I see it says you're under 18 but if you're well under then guys are likely to be much less mature. I was asked out once when we were both 15. She was very mature but I didn't know what I wanted, said yes, and it went terribly. The girl in my situation atm is 17 but VERY mature, and now I've grown up a bit (Currently 18) I know I wouldn't make the same mistake again.
If you want ideas on exactly how to do it, just text him asking if you'd like to go somewhere together (Like a film or something). This works even better if you live a way away but just go to the same college or something, cause it shows that you are willing to travel to see him on your own. Even if he doesn't realise that (He probably wont) his subconscious will. Obviously you'll be meeting as friends but if it all goes smoothly you can tell him at any point in the 'date' that you like him, should be either a nice surprise or if he's got his act together he'll have had some time to think it through.
I wish you the very best of luck! I'm sure you'll make him very happy, no matter what the response. Lets just hope his answer makes you happy, too! :)
I agree with Teeruss. Honestly is the best answer. If he can't handle it, then he is immature and most likely a waste of your time.
Best way is in person, face to face, smile, place your hand on him somewhere and say to him something like "I think I'm starting to have feelings for you" Then smile and wait for his reaction.
He will most likely:
a) Smile back and get excited
b) give you a weird look as he recounts any possible signals you gave in his mind - then ask you a question or two about it
c) get real nervous, act stupid, and say something to ruin the moment like "wtf dude, your dumb"
Keep in mind the less positive his response the less comfortable he is with HIMSELF and not YOU.
the sincere and mature thing to do is either admit his also has feelings, or politely say "i'm sorry, but I don't feel that way about you". In which case that will hurt, but he won't be mean to you or negative about it.
On the other hand if he is rude, childish, nervous, afraid or any other bizarre behavior, you will know he probably does like you and has no idea what to do about it. good luck.
I wanna be able to tell you what to do but I have no idea either. I've done it all. Tell him, not tell him, hint at it, everything. But you want to tell him. So my experiences with actually flat out saying I think I have feelings for you as more than just friend is limited, I've done that only twice and both were via text. One guy just said "oh..." and mocks me. The other simply said "so you like me? It won't make it awkward or anything if you do. :)" and is a lot more flirty. My friendship with the first guy suffered but my relationship with the second guy got so much better and we got so much closer. So I really don't know what to tell you. There's a possiblity of disappointment but there's also hope. Which outweighs the other? Would you be ok if things didn't turn out the way you want and your friendship wasn't the same anymore? Would you be ok quietly liking him and keeping it a secret while he goes out on dates with other girls? It's almost impossible to choose so think long and hard before you decide.
Oh, god. Don't. If you really can't handle waiting then I'd say go with what luckystar said and ask him 20 questions and put that in as one of them. But if he skirts around it or doesn't answer or whatever then please just leave it alone! I speak from experience here...I flat out told a guy I liked him when I was in highschool...it totally ruined the friendship. Pretty much forever.
If you still want to tell him, I'd suggest maybe complimenting him first a whoooole heap before you do it. Like stare into his eyes for a bit then 'wake-up' and pretend that you just noticed that he has really amazing eyes. But don't make it too 'deep' or he will freak out. If he still doesn't get the hint, then I'd suggest telling him.
Make sure you think about it before you do it, though.
maybe jus do 21 qus and ask if he has anyone special/he likes in his life at the moment? be sure it doesn't ruin your friendship though!
Sure, you can always play it safe and ask your friends if they think he likes you, but why not take the plunge and find out for yourself?
Here are a few (slightly) bolder ways to ask a guy if he likes you:
If you want to ask a guy if he likes you, one of the easiest ways to do it is to get his number. This way, you can text or call him and gauge his reaction. If he's into you, he'll definitely be glad to hear from you. If he's not, he might give you a fake number or he might not respond to your texts or calls.
Another way to ask a guy if he likes you is to ask him out. This one is definitely bolder, but it's also a lot more direct. If he says yes, then you know he's interested. If he says no, then you know he's not.
One way to gauge a guy's interest is to flirt with him. If he flirts back, then you know he's into you. If he doesn't, then he's probably not.
Giving someone a compliment is always a nice way to gauge their interest. If he takes the compliment and runs with it, then you know he's interested. If he doesn't, then he's probably not.
Talking to a guy is always a good way to get to know him better. If he's interested in you, he'll want to talk to you and he'll make an effort to keep the conversation going. If he's not interested, he'll probably be less inclined to talk to you.
Hopefully, these tips will help you figure out if the guy you like likes you back. Just remember to be yourself and have fun!
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Well most guys aren't going to pick up on subtle hints. I know its seems like a large generalization but it is the truth. Just be up front about it, which is quite possibly the hardest thing ever to do because you are in high school as well. If your honest with him hopefully he will reciprocate. If not, f*** him there are better guys who WILL want to date you out there.
Pretent ur texting ur friend and say u like him it usually works
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