I don't think it's insecure to not like the fact that someone you like or love, likes how a lot of other people look. When they do that of course it's going to make some of us feel like they're taking away from our relationship in a way. Especially when they're willing to continue doing something that affects how the other person feels. He's pretty much saying at this point that he likes random girls pictures more than he cares about your feelings on the subject. I would be more worried about that.
I feel like sitting on social media all day long, looking at girls on the internet constantly is just a sign of immaturity too. To an extent you can't blame men because it really is in their faces everywhere and also as some have said "it's in their nature." Well to me if you're going to apply that reasoning to the behavior of men then you should also apply it to the behavior of women. It's natural and normal for us as women to feel more emotional about things like this and you need to be understanding of that as well.
If it's in a "man's nature" to look at and want to sleep with multiple women then
it's "in a woman's nature" to seek the strongest man who can provide for her and her children. So the next time your girlfriend wants a man who is bigger than you and has more money then don't worry because it's simply "in our nature."
guys are guys... they get turned on by naked and half naked and clothed girls.
Even though I feel I am not pretty enough for a boyfriend, he will say I am, but then oogle other girls, esp when we are out at the mall.
The worst was I bought this ultra tiny black bikini to go to the beach.. I had to shave down there totally smooth and it still barely covered my goodies. Joey thought I looked hella hot, then every time some girl with big boobs and wider hips/curvier ass than me, he would stare at them.. even with his sunglasses on, it was obvious to me he was checking them out. Even the ones in one piece suits!
It really hurt my feelings, he said it "wasn't his intention", then he went right back to staring at other women.
I think guys cannot help themselves... it is girl flesh, I must look!!
That is so disrespectful of guys though. You did all that so he would look and only want to look at you but still had to look at others... oh Heck no.
As you said, looking is natural, but you should NOT be subjected to seeing your boyfriend "like" photos of half naked (or totally naked) girls. That's extremely disrespectful and inconsiderate to you, not to mention immature and inappropriate in general. That's behavior I'd expect from a horny single teenager, not a mature adult in a healthy relationship. Talk to him again and let him know that while you don't mind him looking, it's upsetting to you that he "likes" those photos. Ask him to be considerate of your feelings since it's not like he can't live without doing that. If he won't respect your feelings about this, then I'd consider that a major red flag about him and your relationship.
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Social media is exactly that- SOCIAL. It's not private, it's not personal. Its sole purpose is to communicate with others and to show them what you want them to see about you. Portraying yourself a certain way on social media is a choice. It's saying, "this is what I want you to know about me". So when your boyfriend comments on these types of photos or hits the "like" button for them, he's choosing to show that to you and everyone who sees his social media activity. He's just looking at other girls, he's making the decision to rub it in your face. And that's where it becomes inappropriate.
He's NOT just looking at other girls, he's making the decision to rub it in your face*
Many people would think and say a different opinion.
1. My fiance did do those. But no matter what he is still with me... but he makes me feel disrespected and not good enough. But he doesn't want to see me out in shorts because he doesn't want other men looking at my legs.
2. Tell him how you feel about it.
3. If he likes it and thinks he should not stop, then that's kinda messed up.
4. Either way for male or female, if y'all click on someone half naked... then your partner might get affected in many ways.
Yes I agree. And that is how my boyfriend is. He likes pics of all these hot made up girls but asks "who I'm trying to impress" and gets weird when I try to look nice... Sooo I don't know
That is TOTALLY disrespectful!! If his 'Likes' are popping up to you, WOW!!
If I was dating a woman, and I saw every 'like' for guys that she clicked on, I would stop dating her, tell her how hurtful that kind of SHT behavior is, and dump her.
I'm fine, if she casually 'sneaks a peek' at some guy, here and there, when we are out. I can't say that I don't 'Notice' other women, but I am WITH HER.
Does he just not know, or is he just that much of an A$$ that he doesn't care? I would hope for the first, but you need to confront him!
Honestly, you would probably be better off with another guy, that really cares, and has some sense!
I agree. When in a relationship people have to think about the other and I think he is too immature to understand that.
I think you need to find a new guy, someone that REALLY respects you, and just ADORES YOU!!! Why would that new guy even look at other girl's pics, when he is SO interested in YOU!! :)
I know :/ I don't feel good enough for him for sure
He doesn't respect you. When a guy loves and respects you, he doesn't even need to be told liking pics like that bother you. The fact that he hasn't stopped after you've t as liked to him about it shows he doesn't value your emotions. I would get out of the relationship now. It will only get worse.
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Then of course there is the other approach. Look at a bunch of pictures of half naked guys. If it's not his thing and it pops up when he wants to do something he'll eventually get the hint.
... because simply being in a relationship is not going to magically make you no longer find other people of the opposite sex to be attractive?
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It is disrespectful. I read though the comments too and the way he said "oh why am I not there right now" wtfff? That's horrible and makes him sound like a cheat. Fair enough he can look, everyone looks. But he doesn't HAVE to like it. He's simply doing that to let the girl know he's interested. The way he comments too.. What if one of the girls sent him a message after that? What would it lead to? I wouldn't trust him and honestly I don't know why you would stay with him if he continues to disrespect you. He knows how you feel about it and he still does it. It's not just an innocent thing and he's being immature. Probably even doing it more to get at you and remain "in control" of the relationship. Either way it's not healthy and I would talk to him properly about it, explaining everything in detail. If he doesn't stop then he doesn't care and you should break it off before you're posting the question "is he cheating on me?"
From a relationship coaching perspective, it is disrespectful, no doubt. First of all, he knows it bothers you. Second to this, it's not as though he's prevented from looking. Some people don't like changing their habits because they feel like they're losing control to the person who's asking them to do so--it's immature.
I approached my ex about this and then guess what happened he blocked me. LOL
Thats not why we broke up but it really did get to me for a while and i didn't understand why he couldn't just respect something that I ask of him.
Why does HE have to change his behavior because of your jealousy issues? Why don't you just work on becoming more self-assured instead of asking him to change and make concessions for you? He is with you because he wants to be, and that should be enough. Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing.
It doesn't matter what I think. What matters is that you find it unpleasant, you asked him to cut it out, he has continued to do it. I suggest a good strong talk with him. He needs to understand how it hurts you. It's somewhere between flirting and objectifying, and it's ok that you don't like him to do it. Set your boundaries, enforce them.
He doesn't have to, he chooses to. Honestly, as a Christian I recognize the word for it as lust and it is a sin to have for those other than who we are married to, it is hard to control and men have natural tendencies more than women to have it in my opinion because they biologically are ready to reproduce more so they are more susceptible to it. It is hard to stop and it takes asking God for help, knowing what the sin is and stopping it. It's hard even for women to stop, but is doable. In today's day and age it is even more prevalent because women can dress with less on exposing more lustful thoughts to occur and it is even deemed socially acceptable now, making it harder for men to avoid lust and for women to realize that we can be loved for more than our physical looks. Take care and God bless!
I get it, I don't care if my man looks but if he was stalking accounts, liking every risque pic out there it'd annoy me too, he might get a flip flop chucked at his head. And I ain't even the jealous type. Lol.
You look beautiful. How can I like your photo?
@Vivaldi Lol I don't believe there's a "like" opinion for photos. Just opinions.
Suppose that I clicked the like button for your photo.
Its disrespectful but not nearly as bad as it could be.
I am doubtful this is the only way he demonstrates interest elsewhere. If you're uncomfortable with it, date someone else. Never date someone hoping that they'll change.
You are looking for support so yeah sure. He's a dick.
If I did the same to my girl, I would be sending a message that she's not good enough. I can't justify liking other girls' pics with "I'm a guy so I do it", doing so would tell that on some level I don't care about the girl I'm in a relationship with. It is my choice to not look at any other girls than my love.
Because it's natural. Doesn't mean he's going to fuck them. They are celebrities not your friends or people he knows
One thing I've learned in the dating world is that if you meet a great person, you get what you give. If you're a really great girlfriend then having a few requests like that is acceptable, and usually he will be okay with it, because guys can be really sweet. However if you're mean or always demand things like what you just wrote about then it can become repulsive and he simply won't accept another demand. So my conclusion is that either he's purposefully being an ass or you're the problem. i think you should talk with your boyfriend again, and try to go deeper into what is really going on. Maybe there's something you need to change about yourself, maybe he's not a great guy at all or maybe you're just having trouble communicating with each other. I feel optimistic that you guys are gonna figure out what's best for you and what to do.
One of the good reasons why social media ain't that great.
That isn't cool of him to do. Yeah men do look you are right! But he could at least respect you enough to keep it to himself or privately. Not throw it around where you have to constantly see it. I'd say test his waters and see how he feels if you did the same. Maybe he'll stop.
Start doing the same but with Tall Hot muscular guys.
With big pipes
Not all guys are like that. It just so happens that you really like certain qualities in a guy that he isn't.
Loyalty, sensitivity, and moral integrity is not your guy at all.
Maybe you should consider not becoming an exclusive girlfriend to a guy for dumb reasons and make sure they are what you want.
Yeah I agree, and the bad thing is I knew how he was like this like a month after we started dating. He started commenting how good this girl in a bikini looked... a girl who was "just a friend" that he used to like -_- I'm so stupid
think about if he's worth the trouble or not. It doesn't look like he'd change.
Yeah :/ I will think about it and what I should do. Thanks for your help
Its a tad disrespectful if he's dating you and you asked him not to, but to him its not a big deal, he probably doesn't think much as he does it, he just likes and moves on. Dont worry about it too much, but if the pop ups bother you, fix it
maybe he hopes they'll take an interest in him too. it is disrespectful. and stupid tbh.
Yeah its so dumb. His family can see this and everything... not all of them are half naked but I get upset when they are
he's thoughtless.
I guess so. I see hot pics of guys but I dont click like
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