Is it a good thing that he's protective of me?

[Anonymous]

I'm dating this guy for six months now and sometomes when we are both crossing the road and a car drives past he puts his arm out in front of me quickly. This has happened more than once. Sometimes he will do this even when the car is far away and he will put his hand out in front of me or if a car pulls out the drive. Other times if there's vomit on the pavement he will guide me away from it and he opens doors for me too all the time. He once told me to stand next to him when there was a drunk couple stood near me acting silly

Why is he being protective of me like this? Is it a good thing?

[Smiley0730]

I think it's sweet and thoughtful. Some girls will get offended by this type of chivalry as if it takes away from their power as an independent female. But I for one like it. I don't need a man for most of those things. But I'm just fine accepting a protective man's presence when there's obnoxious drunk men around or other situations. Once a man came through my cashier line at Bed, Bath, and Beyond. After work I went to Walmart and he was there. Then he showed up all over the store wherever I was. I had met my husband at the store but we split off to look at different things. I immediately tried to find him when I noticed this. I walked up to my husband and hugged him and stayed close. The man left quickly once he realized I was with a man.

[19magic]

That would annoy me as I have brilliant sense of timing and very often allow myself to be within touching distance of a driving car, since I know it won't hit me. It's kinda a cheap thrill if you will, as for the door thing if he happened to about ahead then yeah open the door for me, but rushing to open a door for me (unless I'm carrying something heavy) would seriously get on my nerves.

[BlueFire876]

This doesn't sound bad. An example of something clearly bad is if he were trying to "protect" you from your supposedly bad friends by isolating you from them and telling you who you could or could not see.

Maybe (this is just an idea) he does this thinking "one of these days, I am going to do something amazing and she's going to be impressed."

[seanofthedead]

sounds like a gentleman to me.. I know with my women (for example) if we're walking down the street and there's no sidewalk she'll always be on the shoulder of the road and I'll be between the road and her in case a car isn't paying attention.. it's just how I protect what's mine..

[Bananaman177]

99 times out of 100, nothing happens and you're left wondering, "Why is he trying to protect me?"

But that one time out of a hundred when he totally saves your ass, you'll go, "Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh. . ."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6__QYkV_qs

[VivianDiamond]

i find this to be cute, but if he gets protective in a jealous manner it could lead to abuse, but you would know if that is the case better than I would. I think if you want him to boost his ego, let him be protective. If you want to show him how leaderly you are than open your own door, but either way it's a positive thing unless it leads to him killing a guy for looking at your hair for five seconds because that's a sign of abuse.

[kaylaS91]

He is being 'protective' of you because he's a decent human being.
I'd do things like you mentioned above to my boyfriend no differently than I would to my close (female) friends. It's a common trait in the majority of the population to look out for the safety+general well-being of those who they care for. Regardless of whether that care is romantic or as friends.

[erica1999]

well being a little protective is good, and can be a way of displaying affection. on the other hand, being overprotective can be a problem and ultimately do more harm than good for your relationship. I would make sure to make him feel appreciated for all of the extra attention he pays, but don't hide it if he begins to really bother and inconvenience you. I'd just keep it honest

[Maryanna19918491]

I don't see anything wrong with that he sort of being the dominant my opinion he's taking care of you and away. Seems like he's observing to his surroundings and wants to make sure that you're safe
I find it to be a very attractive quality

[Hidden_P]

Really? This is really a question?

Let's flip it on it's head. He pushes you into traffic, confrontations and ensures you step in dog shit and sick. Do you think he cares about you?

[Lauren-green]

It's definitely a good thing, he wants to protect you :)

[Lauren-green]

It's quite cute actually

[datgirl]

Yea, that's amazing trait for a guy to have. I love seeing guys get all protective over me. One of the ways to get me to fall for him faster.

[MrOracle]

Yes, it's a good thing unless you have a problem with it (not sure why you would, but if you did, and you told him so, he'd likely stop, or at least pull back a bit).

[Aanmchps]

He's really just trying to be a gentleman, he may be overdoing it a bit, but he's doing his best.

[Anonymous]

You are crazy! Of course this is a good thing, you have a nice guy

[Anonymous]

More than that Do you like of him being protective of you. that really matters more. I think he cares about you because he loves you. some girls really don't like it when boys are protective about them.

[Kurodo]

there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with it, sounds like he's just trying to be kind in his own way

[Meg123]

Yes its good it shows that he loves you and doesn't want you getting hurt

[writing_essays]

I think it means he cares about you.

[SvanThor]

I think it's pretty normal for the most part. He sounds like he has your back.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Yes its a good thing, that's what men should do

[Red88xxx]

Yeah its good because it can show that he cares

[JustRollTheDice]

It's kinda cute but it's also a natural instinct

[Nightinggale]

Yes it's a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it is