My crush has dated zero people, and I'm starting to wonder if he's just so inexperienced that he will only be friendly to me and not flirt. Is he hoping that I will catch on to the signs? -compliments -hanging out with him and his friends -talking about me with his friends -teasing/ copying things I say -overall good body language (preening, sits with legs wide open, stroking hair and neck, touching face, etc.) BUT... Avoiding eye contact, and mixed signals? What is this?
Yes- We get nervous and choose to be friendly to her instead.
No- We don't get shy, and we will just flirt with her
Depends on the guy, and the girl that he likes
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Do guys get nervous around their crush and say friendly things to her instead of flirting?
I've been reading your replies to everyone else, and I think you really need to go for it, ask him out or just the two of you go hang out somewhere. It's all really cute how shy he is now, but if one of you doesn't step up and take the chance it might pass you guys bye. There's nothing wrong with asking him first he may be unsure of how you feel just like you do about him, but from what you're saying he's definitely interested in you.
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Awe, thanks girl! :) Yeah, I'm just scared he doesn't like me with the whole avoiding eye contact thing. His pupils don't dilate either, so I'm scared he will reject me. Do you actually think he likes me?
I know what you mean with the avoiding eye contact but I think it's still worth the chance. Rejection sucks I know, but, even if that does happen (which I really hope it won't) it'll be better than always wondering what if. And sorry I couldn't see the other part of your message because my phone is stupid lol
Absolutely nervous. He probably goes home and beats himself up. It's the 21st century and it is not unusual for a girl to ask a guy out. Go for it if you like him. GOOD LUCK!!☺
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:) I wanna be sure he actually likes me though. Nothing worse than rejection.
This is some stuff he does: 1. Compliments me lots (ex. My friend walked by my desk and said she loved my hair. (I got highlights my hair) I said thanks. My crush was a few steps behind her, and he said “yeah, thanks”
we were hanging out with his friends. We were playing card game. (The 4 of us) My crush’s other friends who were not playing, wanted to know how to play. He explained it to them, and said “Just watch me and (my name) play the game” I’m not even that good at it tbh.
I got an award for the sport I play, and the next day, my crush was walking around the gym while our class was playing capture the flag. He said “ Yeah, I’m mvp for (the sport I play)” He wasn’t even on that team, and I was the only one in the class on the team. He didn’t say it to me directly, but he said it to other people. (My crush's friend told me my crush said I was really good)
2. Asks me to hang out with him at his friends 3. Sits by me when he can sit somewhere else 4. Talks to me with his friends and says good things. (His friends told me) 5. Looks at me when he tells a joke 6. Teases me (ex. tries to copy things I say) 7. Defends me when his friends mess with me 8. Tries to help me with stuff 9. Asks me for help when he could ask others 10. Is quiet when we are alone, but loud when we are with his friends 11. He avoids eye contact with me.
I'll let you in on a not so secret, secret, lol. Just funinn'... rejection don't kill. Now it may sting but I know you've heard "what doesn't kill you..." If us guys feared rejection, you think everyone would be alone? No girls would ask guys out. From what you've said and described what his actions towards you, I'm betting dollars to donuts you've got a date. Once again, BEST OF LUCK!!☺
Yes we totally do, because remember we are people too
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This is some stuff he does: 1. Compliments me lots (ex. My friend walked by my desk and said she loved my hair. (I got highlights my hair) I said thanks. My crush was a few steps behind her, and he said “yeah, thanks”
we were hanging out with his friends. We were playing card game. (The 4 of us) My crush’s other friends who were not playing, wanted to know how to play. He explained it to them, and said “Just watch me and (my name) play the game” I’m not even that good at it tbh.
I got an award for the sport I play, and the next day, my crush was walking around the gym while our class was playing capture the flag. He said “ Yeah, I’m mvp for (the sport I play)” He wasn’t even on that team, and I was the only one in the class on the team. He didn’t say it to me directly, but he said it to other people. (My crush's friend told me my crush said I was really good)
2. Asks me to hang out with him at his friends 3. Sits by me when he can sit somewhere else 4. Talks to me with his friends and says good things. (His friends told me) 5. Looks at me when he tells a joke 6. Teases me (ex. tries to copy things I say) 7. Defends me when his friends mess with me 8. Tries to help me with stuff 9. Asks me for help when he could ask others 10. Is quiet when we are alone, but loud when we are with his friends 11. He avoids eye contact with me.
One, looking into your eyes is difficult to him because its like very very very intimate, as its said to be like looking into one's soul. Which is like the next level stuff for him, you might expect this at an abrupt time when he might try to kiss (if he gets the courage to of course). Question where does he look at then?
-Looking an inch past my face (or just past my shoulder) - Sometimes it looks like he is looking at my outfit or hands (not sexually, just casually looking maybe to see what I am holding in my hand) and then going back to the 1st option. -Looking at the wall -Looking at his friends
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