Why are so many men bad at complimenting women?

[Khaleesi91]

It often sounds like backhanded compliments. What's up with this guys? Do you need a class or what? 😝😝

[MrOracle]

Some guys are lousy at communicating their feelings in any context. And most guys have almost no practice at doing so, which means on those rare occasions where they try, they fail miserably. And don't discount the fact that guys are often nervous when around a girl they like, so that doesn't make giving a compliment any easier.

But it's also true that women seem to love to take ANY compliment, no matter how articulate and sincere, and twist it or somehow find a way to make it a bad thing. I realize that's because women are always giving other women backhanded compliments or just fake compliments, so women assume men do the same thing. But few men ever use subtext or hidden meanings. If we say "I like your hair that way", we don't mean "your hair normally looks shitty, but today I can tolerate it", we mean "I really like her hair this way." We tend to be simple and direct when we communicate.

[PlacentaSalad]

At least men try to compliment women. You take a survey and ask both genders how many people of the opposite sex have complimented them this year so far and you'll have a majority of guys answering with "none" or "a few" while most girls will tell you, "I've lost count."

Besides, if a woman doesn't already have an inflated ego like other guys have mentioned here, she'll probably report the dude for somehow sexually harassing her through a simple "I like the color of your hair" or "nice shoes" comment. One girl wrote on Facebook, and I quote, "if any man compliments me, I'll chop his balls off." I kind of like my testicles.

[tetris]

how should we compliment a girl? other than saying hi your pretty. its gotten to the point where guys can't even say that. even a guy looking / checking a girl out is considered a compliment but girls find that rude too. whats a guy gotta do, hand you his paycheck and say take me for a joke woman.

[IncognitoX]

Ahh complimenting a women would be the 1st and fore most thing I would like to do.
But if it's in messages I have become very poetic but during a face to face I lose all my words and just look at her all day long like a "dumb fuck".
I can go on n on of its about compliment...

[Ameya]

Wait what? At least I ain't bad at complimenting a girl. I come up with great pick up lines and compliments that makes the girls giggle, give me their phone number and even go out on a date with me. The other day I was at McDonald's and found the cashier very cute.. I instantly showed her the bill saying "1 item is missing", she asked 'I'm sorry what did I miss", I said "You name and phone number", she was in splits so were the people waiting behind me... :D :D :D

[nosleepganng]

personally feel like I over shoot or under deliver on my words so it comes off wrong lol its because I dont wanna seem obssesed or goofy by telling how how gorgeous she really is. But then I dont wanna sound like most guys in her DM w the same old "wow ur hot" "damn ur beautiful" tips for a good guy? lol

[Halucinator]

Oh really, Let's try!
Hey your eyes are so deep I wanna sink in them❤️
You're too cute too handle❤️
One last (Original creation)
On seeing you I can't express how I felt
You looked like some uncanny thing which I never dealt
On seeing you several hearts melt❤️

It maybe bad😂😂

[KnightCross]

what does backhanded mean? when i compliment a girl, usually is related to her beauty or her gracious or her virtues

[Khaleesi91]

Taken from Urban dictionary :
backhanded compliment
An insult disguised as a compliment
"No, honey... I love yours. I don't even like them big."
"Relax, sweetie... you were perfectly adequate."
"Your haircut really slims your face."
Since Michael is a pompous prick, I think I'll give him a backhanded compliment

by the way you seem sweet :)

[KnightCross]

lol thank you! :) maybe because i'm north American :) they really sound rude if they compliment girls like that

[KnightCross]

i'm not North American *

[Khaleesi91]

A lot are lol. Where are you from?

[KnightCross]

i'm from the land of the holy chivalrous and gentlemen knight crusaders! :D :D :P

[KnightCross]

who knows how to treat a woman properly ;)

[Chico_brah]

You're going to refer to classy compliments as you literally have your massive tits hanging out on your profile pic? You don't want classy compliments. You want guys to tell you nice tits. Nice tits OP.

Would motor boat /10

[Khaleesi91]

If you could read, you would see that it doesn't say 'classy', it says 'class' as in school. And a woman showing cleavage has zero to do with how a man should speak to a woman. Maybe you shouldn't judge based on a profile pic. Narrow minded Meathead

[serious]

I don't know for sure, but one reason is because men tend to think that the woman won't understand their good intention of complimenting them, men tend to think that the women might misunderstand them as being creepy instead.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Women have overinflated egos to begin with. You give them a compliment, they think you're a simp. You tease them, or say something that makes them not sure if you complimented them, insulted them, or teased them, and they get interested.

[Flyhigh21]

I think its a fear of creeping a girl out or looking awkward. Nowadays even a compliment may come off as sexual harassment.

[Truthatanycost]

Where are you finding these men that give compliments? I thought all men knew not to do that... we aren't here to further inflate, your already over inflated egos..

[col1n]

probably because some of them are so fucking ugly.

[AleDeEurope]

That's how you let her know she's good, but not that good... keeps them interested

XD

[RegularTK421]

I probably do need a class. I never compliment or approach women. The ones I'm interested in never even know.

[dolemite68]

cuz backhanded compliments actually work. girls get bored of too many compliments

[traviswtf]

I am far from the ideal guys to comment on this but, personally it can be intimidating especially when you think about ruining a potential relationship.
P. s. you have a nice necklace.

[Wulfila]

In my experience, women are about as bad at accepting compliments are men are at giving them.

[hdjfhk]

Not all compliments are direct, or even verbal. But also maybe you just choose clods.

[Kdude010]

We're always going to come off as sexist so dont even try lol. Stay simple with "You look great", even that can come off as sexist to certain females.

[ThisDudeHere]

Nice tits.

There. Was that a good one?