Is it a red flag if you have never been called beautiful or pretty from the opposite sex?

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I'm 17 and have never been called pretty/beautiful by guys... but some girls and adults like my parents friends have called me pretty/beautiful. Im not sure if its because I don't really hang out with guys or if I really am ugly. I don't think I am ugly though, Im average. Or maybe my school has the wrong guys? who aren't attracted to my race since no girl my race has a boyfriend in my school right now, even the gorgeous ones.
Even if I am ugly I guess I have to accept it and not mourn over it right?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

So in high school I knew I wasn't but the ugliest but honesty didn't think myself the prettiest. I had a big chest and I assumed that's why I got any attention at all which I found deplorable.

I was nominated for homecoming queen and won prom queen. But I can remember riding in my boyfriends car sitting in between him and his bestfriend just running an errand and my boyfriend told his friend I didn't think I was pretty.

I was so embarrassed and at first the friend thought it was a fish for compliments even though we were very close. I explained I knew I wasn't ugly but the idea of me having to accept prom queen if selected from the prom court I knew I was already part of was terrifying and there are so many of my friends that are better looking.

He looked at me like I was a dumbass.

Firstly most obviously good looking women don't get told they're beautiful because it is assumed that they know.

I've only ever had a man tell me I'm beautiful when we are sharing an emotionally bonding moment.

It's not something big I ever wanted to hear from someone I want very close to or respected.

The men in my life that told me I was beautiful knew me as a close friend of my boyfriend or just close friend.

You can't truly say someone is beautiful if you don't know what is in their heart.

Gorgeous is another thing that's completely looks. But I'd rather be beautiful. Beauty ages well because your heart stays true.

Brokenheartedx · Accepted Answer

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself.. it isn't you 17 year old boys don't go around calling girls beautiful
Their idea of beautiful is saying things like *hot,*sexy or the daring of them *id tap that*
N likely they will never say it in your presence in absolute terror of you n ur pals roaring with laughter at them

Hang on in there it all changes in a few years n u WILL be called beautiful

relax enjoy your youth before you get old

fabulouspancakes · Accepted Answer

Guys who are just friends usually won't say anything like that, since it could be interpreted as hitting on you. When you get a boyfriend, though, he should definitely tell you you're beautiful. And don't worry about that, you're only 17, it'll happen.

Anticipation · Accepted Answer

At age 17, I was too nervous to tell other girls what I thought about they.

I suspect that history hasn't changed that much. When adult friends are being forward enough to say you are beautiful, trust me you are beautiful.

You probably are so beautiful, young 17 year old guys are nervous to say as much.. happened to me, cost me a lot of dates I now realized I could've had.

Mikeoe · Accepted Answer

James Blunt calls me beautiful every day.
It could just be that guys your age find it more difficult. I know I usually reserve it for friends when they're feeling down more than every girl in class, so to speak.

stillagoodgirl · Answer

Nothing to worry about. I got called pretty a lot by older men and some elderly but rarely guys my age... Some guys my age or a little younger have called my pretty online via social media but never face to face.
One friend called me gorgeous over text but never in person, I think he was too shy to say it in person.

It's not really a big deal tbh, high school dating is overrated. Some guys don't say it because they feel like we know that he thinks we're pretty.

KhalebBafflesAll · Answer

It's not a red flag because you haven't received false praise and attention from people that live under false pretense. It will matter when you meet that one person who both matters and acknowledges your beauty.

Be patient.

ZeoCaliburn · Answer

The answer is in your question. You don't really hang out with guys. I recently started hanging out with women and some actually told me I look cute once in a while. Also beauty comes from the eyes from the beholder. You'll find a dude who thinks you're beautiful.

John_Doesnt · Answer

No, most men are terrified/intimidated by incredibly beautiful women and thus never approach one to tell her how hot she is.
In fact many guys assume that the super beautiful women are either taken with a boyfriend/husband or are so used to being called beautiful that she'll just be annoyed hearing it from another dude.

aru67 · Answer

Don't say you're ugly. No one is. It can happen that the guys in your school are preserved and damn shy. The only thing that matters is how you see yourself. Dont degrade yourself if you haven't got any compliments from teenage males.

Anonymous · Answer

I have the same problem : I think it's the worse scenario in my case, that I'm actually very ugly and not the opposite of being beautiful and intimidating.

milkyway777 · Answer

I don't know how you look like. But you're still 17. You will get more beautiful as that is what I saw with my high school friends. They all changed to be fashionable and chic ladies after 10 years passed.

Just have confidence with yourself. That is the most important thing. Many men find women attractive becoz they are confident :)

Musicgeek21 · Answer

No. You might just be a late bloomer. What race are you? Also, sometimes pretty girls get sidlined if you are more of a quiet type.

UncleRayRay · Answer

Guys your age may not have the confidence to compliment you and/or fear that saying you are beautiful will end up with some kind of negative reaction that isn't worth the trouble.

Caaarl · Answer

No. Don't worry about it. People will eventually start saying things.

emerald77 · Answer

Just because you've never been called that by the opposite sex doesn't mean you aren't pretty.

Cccgala · Answer

I think those people that do find you beautiful haven't gotten the chance to tell you that you are beautiful in their eyes.

awesometjgreen · Answer

i don't know. I've been called hansem by the opposite sex but it's hard to take seriously since it's always either family or friends of the family that tell me that but never anyone my age at school or anything.

Whatthefluff · Answer

You're very insecure. Guys usually don't go out and tell girls they're beautiful. But we can't tell if you really are attractive without a picture.

Profile17617 · Answer

accept yourself and be happy, thats all the advice I can give u. i was called ugly years but it dont bother me coz it was just 1 girl's opinion.

JSmuve · Answer

Its okay op. I've never been called beautiful or pretty by the opposite sex either!

Justinaveragedude · Answer

I doubt that you are ugly. You probably just intimidate guys.

args225 · Answer

no one is ugly.  and it doesn't make any sense if no one did.

luckypshah · Answer

Nope, I don't think so

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