Men don't want to be "just friends." How is it that women don't understand that?
Men and women each have 3 categories that they put people in.
Women call them:
- Men I want a relationship with.
- Men I want to be "just friends" with.
- Men I have no interest in.
Men call them:
- Women I want a relationship with.
- Women I want to bang.
- Women I have no interest in.
Do you see a "just friends" anywhere on this list? Nope - it's not there.
I can't say which if the first two categories he had you in, but as soon as you told him in no uncertain terms that he had no chance of either, then he demoted you to the third category, because that's all that's left.
Yes, there are exceptions - a guy in a happy relationship can be "just friends" with another woman sometimes, and a rare single guy can be too - but largely, this just doesn't happen, EXCEPT for a lot of guys who are in the FriendZone who absolutely don't want to be, but are too insecure and pathetic to realize he has no chance and move on.
I love women, but as much as that's true, the majority of women are NOT easy to be friends with (for a man, anyway). Women tend to be needy, insecure, and want tons of attention and favors, plus get upset about everything. (Yes, there ARE women who are exceptions to this too, but they're also rare.) That's why men mostly have male friends - other guys are none of those things, and a guy can not call a guy friend for 2 years, and when he does, they pick up as if they just spoke yesterday - no guilt or anger.
98% of the time, when a single guy has a female "friend", he's really in the FriendZone, and hoping for a promotion into the "guys I want to be in a relationship with (or are willing to have casual sex with)" category. As long as they believe they have a chance, many will stick around for years waiting and hoping - but once hope is extinguished, then there's just pain, and why stick around and torture yourself?
Just for a moment put yourself in his shoes then you will understand how much that hurt to see the person all the time and they do not have the same feelings for you. It's always better to break thinks of or it will hurt either of you regardless of the friendship you may share. It will be like passing through a broken window with the sharp edges of glass, it will hurt you too. Either he will snap someday and say things or do stuff that will scar you for life or you will hold him from getting over you and move on his life. He will always going to think he has a chance someday. So it's better to leave things and move on
I'm in the same boat, girl. I actually cut contact with the guy friend because he told me he needed to move on. Don't ever expect someone you've dated to just revert back to not having feelings for you. I know how you feel though. You didn't ask for this but it is what it is. It might best to keep your distance for a while. If he truly wants to be your friend after all of this, he will contact you, if not, then you know why he pulled away.
That stuff hurts, man. When you're around someone that you love and you KNOW they don't feel the same way about you, it kills you. Crushes your soul. I don't blame him for pulling away.
Unfortunately, that comes with dating friends. That comes with dating anyone.
Because not everyone can be friends with someone they have feelings for. It's too painful and unhealthy for some people to constantly have to deal with feelings of unrequited affection. It's easier to move on by not involving yourself with that person.
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If you like someone and they don't feel the same way it can reallly hurt being around them... especially once they start seeing someone else. This can be true when someone only sees you as a friend or if they were an ex who nonmutually ended the relationship for any number of reasons. Usually the person who doesn't have feelings will want to be friends but it's unfair to the one who does. Just give him space. Maybe once he is in a relationship with someone else his feelings for you will be replaced by feelings for them and he will want to be friends again.
because you can never be friends again... if he really loved you , it isn't possible for him to be a part in your life as a friend , he is logical , he is going to go away from you cut you out of his life and will try to forget about you , let it happen.
he's unable to disconnect his romantic feelings from you. unfortunately. this drives a wedge between you two. I don't think there's anything you can do to prevent it. sorry for your loss of friendship.
Guys don't need female friends. There is nothing you bring to the table other than access to your vagina. In any event, guys don't text their regular guy friends everyday. Maybe he's treating you like every other friend he has.
Wow, really? He wants more than friendship, so obviously it's painful being around you after you rejected him.
I think he was in the friend zone with hope which is the worst place to be for both of you - If he can't separate his feelings you are better apart
He was only after sex
and his little head wants it NOW, so diverted his investments to other gals that might provide satisfaction
u His ego is bruised, he is disappointed, and being around you reminds him that he has failed (in his perception.)
I think he likes you so much it pains him to even see you, every time he looks at you he feels rejection
Isn't it obvious? Being around you is probably torturous. Dude needs to get away from you for a while so he can move past his feelings for you.
you've broken guys heart give him time to put the pieces together again.
cuz it is difficult for him to be "near you' while you don't want him, may be it's hurting so much that he can't bear it..
Because he hasn't accepted being friends yet. He needs time to suppress the feelings he has for you. Im sure over time he will be your friend, but It all seems sudden to him right now.
He needs to get away to stop his feelings for you, when you are too close and you want someone that doesn't want you it hurts - he needs his space.
He doesn't like just being friends he's pulling away because he's not interested anymore.
He doesn't want to be just friends.
Plus, he probably has other women to get to know.
Good for him to not stress out about it.
okay calss this is a typical i rejected him now i want him case which is very stupid
It's kind of obvious. Vice versa it would be the same.
because he wants you but can't take it now he doesn't understand
Let him be dont be selfish I hate when women demand friendship if they dont like us
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