Can you answer this question and I am not being critical. Why are you having the affair in the first place?
Is your husband lame in bed? Does your husband not give you enough attention? Does your husband not say "I love you enough?" Does your husband not cuddle with you at night? Does your husband just watch TV and ignore you? Do you get in arguments with your husband over little things that are really not worth arguing over? Does your husband not help pay his share of the bills? Can your husband give you goos sex and make you orgasm (most of the time anyway)? Does your husband not help you with household chores? In general is your husband a good husband?
Does the man who you are having an affair with have something that you are missing in your marriage? Is this other man very interesting and exciting to talk to? Does this other man make you laugh, whereas your husband does not? Does this other man have something that you need that your husband does not have such as charm, conversation skills, a sense of adventure, spontaneity, or just plain good sex? Does this other man compliment you and make you feel like a woman and make you feel beautiful, whereas your husband doesn't say a damn thing?
There must be something missing in your marriage for you to have an affair in the first place right? You cannot be so selfless to cheat on a good husband who is actually good to you and shows it can you? Should your husband be surprised that his wife is cheating on him because he is not treating his wife as a good husband should?
I have this strong suspicion that a large number of men who get cheated on deserve it and had it coming. Is your husband an example of this?
Did this guy you're having an affair with put some kind of pressure on you to start the affair, and if so is he keeping up the pressure? Is he married also? If you really want to stop it you have to start "acting" like you're not as much available as before so you can gradually just stop soon without a big squabble. Start ignoring some of his advances that you were open to before. Tell him to not call your house anymore because your husband is getting very suspicious. Start being home more than before. Gradually start being more business-like around your assistant. Start dressing in such a way that he won't think you're as attractive as before. The things I'm telling you here is a way to gradually slip out of this relationship without making a big scene that could cost you your job. Message me if you'd like more details and more positive ways to get out of this without breaking up your marriage. Don't think for a minute that this guy have you over the barrel because he doesn't!
Well there are some keys to a successful affair, and your not following the rules, so disaster is inevitable if you done make a course correction.
1. Don't change your behaviour, if you had sex once a week with your hubby, continue to do so, in fact increase the amount of sex you have
2. If you didn't shave your legs every day, don't
3. Don't "try" to look better, lose weight or change your wardrobe
4. Don't be on the phone with your lover when your husband is home (that's very stupid of you)
I think maybe you want to get caught! As you have not done your homework on how to cheat without getting caught.
You do have a few choices, continue the affair, in the dumb way you are, and get caught and wined up in a big mess.
End your marriage and get out on your own.
Be smart, have fun and don't tell anyone!
Take it from me - a serial female cheater and sex addict, it can be amazing but you have to be cool and smart and have very little guilt.
Mrs. Smith
how could you quickly agree/ decide to tell you husband you want a divorce when he gets home from work tonight when you don't even know if the 'other man' is in a relationship or not?
thats so . eeerr!?
you love your husband, think of all the reasons why you did get married. maybe ask him to spice it up or work on the marriage together. don't tell him about the affair. JUST END THE AFFAIR NOW! do it. and improve what you have.
the other guy is a dickhead. telling you that your husband doesn't care about you?
he doesn't even know him. how can you just believe that. he wanted to get you in the sack.
stay with hubby
Your answers in the reply to the mens advice only says that you are justifying this affair. You want to have the affair. You have no excuses and you shouldn't be doing it as a married woman.
Also, you said you don't know if the guy you are sleeping with is married? That is absolutely crazy!
Start with being honest with yourself!
Get out of the relationship as fast as you can. Explain to this other person that you are DONE!
Before you loose your husband!
If you have to, change jobs.
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I've just seen many court TV detective shows (not fake ones like CSI Miami, but real investigations) like "FBI files" where the man kills his wife on the day she decides to tell him, "I've had enough of your shit and I want a divorce." If it happens to enough women out there to unfortunately (and fortunately for your knowledge and safety) create real murder detective shows, then it can happen to any wife who divorces her husband. If a husband is unloving and uncaring enough to cause his wife to leave him, then he may be a violent man waiting to burst out.
It is a serious caution and a good idea to have somebody next to you to protect you. But you can disguise your friend or family member's true purpose to be there (your safety) by saying "he or she is here to help me gather my things and help me move."
And this is advice I give to anybody about to enter a divorce: Start to separate your assets, expenses, and bank accounts. Keep records of what bills you pay and what bills he pays, because they might be useful for your lawyer. Also find any documents or anything else you think your lawyer might find useful.
What is it you really want out of your relationship? Do you want to be married? Are you just looking for some attention that you aren't getting from your husband which has led you to have an affair?
My opinion is that you should break it off with your affair partner and then look at your marriage. I you really want out of it then get out. If you want to salvage it then figure out what it takes to do so. If you want to have affairs then become swingers, but keep it in the open and with integrity.
Sometimes it just the "excitement" of the affair & the heat of it. You love your husband and you want to end it so then end it. I'm sure that your assistant will understand that you are married & love your husband. My bet is that the assistant will understand. If you start to weaken think of your husband & marriage. Look at the big picture don't ruin your husbands life & possibly yours when you can get "it" at home
well, if you don't want to have an affair, why are you having one? people don't do things by accident.there's a reason you want an affair with your assistant.what is it that attracts you to him?
when you answer that, you'll find out what you need to work on with your husband.
I'm weird in way. I actually prefer my SO to cheat and have affairs. Nothing makes me hotter than knowing my SO is off fucking other guys. I don't know why but it just does. If I were your husband, I would be thrilled that you were having an affair. However, most guys aren't like me. For me, a perfect woman is one who sleeps around. My fantasy is to have my fiancee bang a stripper at a bachelorette party.
So did you completely separate from your husband and is your boyfriend still with you? And do you know who you actually love or don't love? And the big question is are you safe?
you should stop. tell your husband the truth. because sooner or later he's gonna find out. he's probably suspicious of you already. come clean before its too late.
stop letting him put his penis inside of you is a good start
Hey, you've been getting into this without any help, consequently you can get out of it without any help!
What are you missing in your marriage?
No reason to stop the affair. Obviously he's giving you something your needing. Just need to have sex more often at home too it sounds like. You can have your marriage and the sex you crave on the side
Stop immediately. Your marriage, family and career is at risk. Don’t get addicted to the chemicals your brain is creating from this Affair. It’s a fog and it won’t last and the devastation will be difficult to repair
Are you having sex with the other guy? Where do you and him meet?
Just tell him you don't want him anymore, it was a mistake and that you love your husband.
when you don't wanna have an affair why are you having it?
i don't really get that.sorry maybe its just me but would be helpful if you could explain that ?
U must want otherwise wouldn't it think it's sexy a turn on
What you can do is stop cheating. Fucking duh.
END IT! be straight forward girl!
If you dont want it the end it very simple.
Just stop being a whore, it's not that hard
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