I fooled around with a guy from work. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

The other night I invited a guy from work over. It was just to hangout as friends. We get along really well and everything so I thought why not. Only problem is we had a bit too much to drink and fooled around a bit. Nothing serious just kissing cuddling a bit of foreplay. Then at 6 am he got up and left. Now I have to go to work with him today and I am not sure how to act. Part of me is really scared he will be all weird with me. Help please.

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+1 y

Well followed your advice and played it cool. It worked brilliantly. Thanks all.

[dsmarie]

you silly girl. "invited over"..."hang out as friends"..."drinking"..."kissing" are you scared he will be all weird with you, or are you scared because you are into him and you are afraid he won't be into you? sounds like you just need to be cool and let nature take its course. you two are obviously attracted to each other and hopefully you will get to see where this goes. so far as not sh*tting where you eat. I wouldn't worry about that unless one or the other of you is each others' boss; other than that go for it. and don't back him into a corner and force him to talk about it..that is so uncool. just be normal like any beginning flirtation.

good luck.

[da5id]

The first three words say it all - but I agree wholeheartedly

[Anonymous]

I think the best you can do is 1) let it go and see what happens when you get to work and 2) learn a lesson from this.

My personal lesson is that I don't invite guys over nor do I go to their place, unless we are dating and ready to convert the dating to a relationship. Personally, having a guy that I like alone is too tempting and I already know it is a recipe for disaster in most cases. Add alcohol and I would be likely to make out as well.

[19876p]

Well even if you like the guy or not act like it is no big deal. If you act all weird and can't even look him in the eye he will naturally start acting strange. See how he reacts with it. If he acts all weird just be 100% honest. Tell him it was all in fun and you don't want things to be weird at work. Don't make it out to be more than what it is.

[quovadis]

Just remember, he probably feels the same way. Just go into work, be cool, say hi. You don't have to be nervous, I'm sure he had a good time, just be confident, you obviously have a thing for each other, enjoy that spark while it lasts. Try to hook it up again, if he's compliant then you know you've got something nailed down.

[TC123]

Well, is this a guy you don't like at all, or you do like but don't want to date and/or be seen with in public?

[1luvs3x]

Whether or not it's awkward is in YOUR hands! No matter how HE acts, don't let it bother you and continue to be professional/friendly.

It also really depends on what you want to happen next... never again? Fuck buddy? Boyfriend? Talk about it with him *if* he brings it up.

[xokdmr]

I don't agree with bnwsmile, I think that you should just play it cool and let him take the reins on this one. Even laugh it off maybe, but don't make any sort of big deal about it. If he brings it up say something like "Oh yeah, I was wondering when you were gonna ask for a make out sesh in the photocopy room ;)" or something along those lines, and then laugh and walk off. Let him know that it really wasn't a big deal to you, and that you're still willing to be friendly yet professional. If you want something more from it, then let it progress organically.. if not, just stick to fun flirting but don't let anything get too unprofessional again.

Oh, and DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT do anything with him again. If you do, THEN it will be an awkward situation. One hook up can be written off as a drunken encounter, but more than one and you're falling into a pattern, one that I doubt will end well if you continue working together.

Hope that helps girl (=

[bnwsmile]

Yes... Guys LOVE beating around the bush... /sarcasm. Maybe if she waits for him to come to her LONG enough He'll be married with kids and they can have an affair!

Don't play a waiting game with him. You're grown, he's grown. Go after him if you want him and if not then just address the situation.

~bnwsmile

[xokdmr]

Maybe in a regular situation, going after him would be fine. but I think that considering the fact that he is her co-worker, being too forward could make the situation better. Notice I didn't say to beat around the bush at all. But if she comes straight out and tells him she really likes him and he doesn't feel the same way, it could get hella awkward. I think she should wait and feel out the situation before making any drastic decisions. I doubt he'll be "married", that's a little bit dramatic.

[bnwsmile]

Tell him that what happened you're not OK with. You want to be friends and nothing more --- IF that is what you want. If you want a relationship then tell him that. Put your big girl panties on and don't be afraid to say what YOU want or need.

Best of luck

~bnwsmile

[candlewax]

I've been there before. Just act normal. Act like you did before all that happened. It helps the situation a lot.

[Memoryfalls]

Stay professional. What has been done privately has to stay private.

[PeaceHere]

I really love this answer-- right on the money.

[jimi_s]

I am so sorry for not reading your post I just want to say this: Don't sh*t where you eat!

[dontknowwhattodo]

haha I've done this. not like not that but I was kinda seeing a guy I work with. just act natural. cool calm and collected. and he will act cool too

[lilyogi6]

Tell him you had fun

[trod199]

OH NOISE