I have the HPV virus. Should I just blurt this out whenever I meet someone?

[jstagurl]

I have the HPV virus.and trust me it sucks! First off let me tell you I am not some sort of dirty whore! I have only slept with 8 people in my 13 years of sexual activity. I got this virus from my ex (we broke up like a year ago our relationship was 8yrs long).

The thing is this,There is this guy that I am kind of working towards dating, I know he is totally interested, BUT he doesn't know my deep dark secret yet! I say YET because I will tell him eventually, we haven't had sex, NOR will I until I tell him.

I am just scared to death that he will go running (and don't get me wrong I don't blame him at all if he does!)

I am really lost as this is my first time out there with this virus. And I know that I am not the only one suffering from this. statistics show that like 1-10 people have this virus.

I guess the real question is this.IS IT WRONG for me to go on dates and stuff with him(we've also made out), trying to get to know each other better? OR should I just blurt this out whenever I met someone?.maybe wear a big neon sign that says "HPV SUFFERER".

LIKE I SAID I WILL TELL HIM, WHEN SEX BECOMES AN ISSUE.you can't get it from kissing, and right now that is all that is happening.

How would you feel if it were you in his shoes? Would you feel that I should have told you from the start, or would you understand why I waited until it was necessary?

any advice would be greatly appreciated, but please don't judge me.i feel horrible about this as it is!

[Anonymous]

You will be ok. Since you just found out about this, it will be difficult for awhile, but when you slowly learn to accept it, and accept YOURSELF for having it, then it will get easier.

Getting to know him stage, when you feel like YOU are starting to have feelings for him, then that would be the right time to confess. Doesn't matter if you two are going to have sex or not. But by telling him before your feelings get any deeper, will protect you from getting hurt too much. If you wait and wait, until you are so in love, and then, tell him, it will be very painful for you. And you might be left feeling worthless, or no longer accepted by people, because of what you have.

If he still stays with you, then obviously he cares about you. But don't think just because he has accepted your virus, means you HAVE to stay with him because you might not find any other man who would. Just be your normal self. Yourself when you didn't have the virus.

It all comes down to accepting yourself first, for what you have. And then finding ways to work around it. Everything will be fine. And if someone doesn't accept you for it, then they aren't worth your time.

Being honest about it is definitly a step to acceptance.

Good luck :)

[tontow]

Yeah, I think you should tell him. He has a right to know sweetie. It's gonna suck but it's better that he knows now, rather then down the road when he wants to do it and you can't and things start getting crazy from there. I'm sorry that you have to go through this :( But there are tons of support communities for people with HPV

one being link and there are a million others. I really hope things work out well for you and I hope at the end of the day you know that you're still beautiful and should walk with your head high because while you have HPV you should never give in or give up on being proud of who you are.

[Anonymous]

This must be very tough for you. But I would totally be honest with him. Tell him the truth, who knows, he might have some dark side of him that he might want to to confess too.

But I'm interested to know, how did you find out you had the virus? Did you have any symptoms? My current guy and I went to get tested last week for HIV and STD's. And my doctor said that many people have HPV and Chlamydia, they don't even know it! That scared the crap out of me! And he told me that 1 out of 5 people will get an STD sometime in their life. Thanks and I'm deeply sorry you have to thru this. It must be a nightmare for you.

[chinni]

Depends on the relation that you might have. Sex is not always the priority in a relation. True love can exist with out sex. But inform him earlier that you have it else if the guy is not in love but looking for something else you might end up in a mess

[sk8ter-dude-for-life]

ooh damn you beter tell him but I know for sure he ain't gona sleep with you and 8 guyz datz a lot I only been with 2 girlz