Do girls HATE it when guys act insecure?

[worthless]

every time iv talked to a girl or one started talking to me if acted nervous or shaky they would instantly turn their back to me. Is it best to fake it and act confident if you have low self esteem?

[Cyhhgg]

Well, I won't say hate. But, being a man and insecure only gets you a date with your hand, or an equally broken chick, you only think you want, but really don't.

Being a man means you pretty much have no room to fuck up and get what you want. Women, howevet, can and trust me when I say it, THEY CAN! Lol Don't believe any one who says otherwise, because if you do, you will be doomed to repeat the same vicious cycle.

Be confident, but also work on it. It doesn't happen over night, but with dedication, you'll get there.

Also, I hope you weren't the one who upvoted that girl who said insecure guys can be cute. She might as well have said, "I want a beta whenever my real man isn't around and when he shows back up, you can go play somewhere else." Lol

[ConfidentShyGuy]

Fake confidence if u want to score the chick but it will never truly make u confident in the long term and it would be hard to be consistent. Sure nervousness isn't attractive but my advice would be train first to get rid of anxiety then actually try and score the chick. Don't care if the women is frustrated or not with the experience because you are doing it for the long term. The only purpose is to gain confidence. In my opinion faking confidence is the worst idea I've heard. Insecurities always come out in the end. It is better to gain true confidence.

[TheDarkNoodle]

My last boyfriend shook constantly and my current boyfriend has constant self-esteem issues. I wouldn't say it's attractive, but it's not offputting for me. I would say don't completely conceal your insecurities as they are part of who you are but don't go on about them, a girl who cares will try to help but if you talk about it constantly she will think you are seeking attention/fishing for compliments.

[mu1tiplydivide]

Confidence definitely goes a long way with me.

Though I'm a bit of a hypocrite having self-esteem issues and anxiety myself, I don't usually find it attractive when guys are that way.

But there are the exceptions and sometimes it's easy to overlook those kind of personality flaws when you find a good guy.

[Laurie182]

Nope its pretty cute lols although when you like them you wish they could see how beautful they are and pick the courage to make a move loools. Just think of all the good qualities about yourself and try to build your confidence :)

[Mesonfielde]

People sense lies. And they sense that you are acting out of desperation and desire, and that you are filled with fear. Faking will provide a mask but won't fix the problem, and some will see through it. What you must do is realize what you fear, and find a way to eradicate that fear, to become naturally confident.

[Anonymous]

it's a double standard, you have no choice BUT to APPEAR confident...even if you are not. Yes, it's not fair. Attractive, yet insecure women will still have all the men in the world approach them. As a man you could look like Jason Statham and if you come off as insecure...you're f***ed if you ever want to get a f...

So here's a good way to start out. Try hitting a girl you are not the attracted to. When you are not interested you are less self conscious. You have to LOWER your standards bro...but ONLY in the beginning. Start easy and work your way up.

[Yeahhbro]

They don't find it attractive, even if they say "they like shy guys" BS, women clearly don't understand shy men because if that was true all shy men will have Gf's and we know very well that isn't true. Women are so busy thinking about their insecurities that if they see somebody else in the same position it will make them even more uncomfortable as now they are worrying about herself and the other guy. A confident man makes a girl feel easy and comfortable in her own skin and that is what they are looking for somebody that will make them comfortable with her own self. They will find it "cute" when you tell them that you were uncomfortable around her, but that is when she has trust you and has established an emotional bond with you, if there isn't anything like that they will think you are creepy.

[Yeahhbro]

Whoever thump me down is a complete fake and a liar, most likely a girl, tell me how what I said its not true.

[Anonymous]

All humans can get insecure at times, but if I don't know you that well and you are insecure just talking to me and being in my presence it kinda comes off like you're weak and scared of girls. Yeah it is best to fake it and act confident. Not many girls are turned on by low self esteem.

[justconfused1]

Yes, faking it is as good as having it. It makes the girl feel uncomfortable if you are. Besides that if you fake it you'll probably build it up to a degree. I know some girls say its cute and it is once I already know the guy, but at first it will deter them from making contact.

[SOUL4REAL]

NO, Keep it real and work on your confidence! Men and women love a person who is confident in themselves! Good Luck in working on your confidence!

[snowangle]

YES. Act confident. Fake it if you have to. It drives me crazy when guys are insecure and always poking at me for approval. >.<

[ConfidentShyGuy]

Soz but that's not a good long term solution. Yes it may be frustrating as a girl for a guy to be nervous, but you don't realise he's actually improving in the long run. I personally am not gonna cover up nervousness and prevent solving an issue just so that a girl I talk to is fustrated

[ConfidentShyGuy]

*not fustrated

[Anonymous]

assholes have LOTS of fake confidence. They are smart enough to know girls usually don't know they difference. Guess what is the often the result. A successful sex life!

Be a prick. Be mean. Be ruthless. Be a scoundrel. Every girl on here will disagree with me, but it really does work.

[Anonymous]

Yea. Fake it. You know that saying "Fake it till you make it"

If you just keep faking you'll eventually have the confidence. But don't get cocky.

I have a really low self esteem, and So I had to fake confidence, and now I don't feel as bad.

Also once you get some girls it will boost your confidence.

Good luck hun =]

[Xenophobia]

Girls with low self esteem seem to be everywhere. I have yet to meet a girl, who was comfortable with herself.

[worthless]

Thats good lol I need to find some of them

[SnowboardChick]

Confidence is key. Sometimes I get nervous, but I hide it quite well.

Don't hide everything, you could come off as cold.

Fake it to make it. :)

[Anonymous]

this girl doesn't I actually find it rather cute in a way but be more confident! I'm sure you can do it!

[Stutz09869]

A lot of confidence (even fake) can get the ugliest guy the hottest girls.