Life lesson man. You can never trust a woman fully. When they know you do, they either do things or they lose interest, or both. Most women are fickle, easily manipulated, and context sensitive. Yes context sensitive, you see, their decisions are based on this gut feeling, if it feels good do it, key word is feels good, ( Not sexually pervert) little if anything else matters when it comes to this feeling. Loyalty is a character trait that is utterly incomprehensible to most women, I mean I'm sure they know the definition, but they don't feel it. But, of course your mad at your dog for leaving a steaming pile of sh*t on your carpet (which stains most of the time), but you don't hate it. No hating it wouldn't make sense, the dog can't help it. It doesn't know its done anything wrong until it sees the look on your face. at the time it felt so right. And just like this Strawsonian dog, your woman will realize her mistake, hopefully for your sake, much too late. When I was dealing with something similar, minus the incest, man that's f***ed, I tried to understand, it is futile I might add. My friend gave me a glimpse into a womans mind which didn't help me understand but helped me sympathize. You see women are utterly incapable of introspection, because introspection combined with being emotional would literally and utterly consume them with guilt. You can't expect people to do the right thing, the only question is when they come around do you forgive them.
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That situation sounds like a complete bitch. But honestly you may want to consider other options. Men and women alike find someone who is wrong for them, sometimes it just isn't in the cards and that fact just blows a fat ween, but it's true.
There's no reason not to trust again, why would you ever want to do that? You'll never find someone you can truly love if you don't trust. But it will still take some time to get over this issue, then eventually you will be able to make a conscious decision as to whether you will trust again (you should probably choose 'yes').
IF YOU WANT TO STAY WITH HER, I'd say you probably won't ever trust her again... Even if you choose to trust her. On a subconscious level you won't trust her truly for many, many years, if at all. That will drag out and eventually ruin the relationship in-and-of itself.
Sorry, man :'(.
Awww I'm so sorry that happened. I know you must feel heart broken.. My longest was a year so I don't know exactly how hard it mist be for you but I do have advice fpr you sweetie. OK you have to look at it like this ... yES you can trust again because every girl is not the same. That's one thong you have to remember. Some girls hearts are bigger and just simply care with a lot of emotion and hearts. Some girls know that guys have hearts too! Hymmm like example..my boyfriend I'm with now has a hard time of trusting me too.. Its not the fact of me but he said its the past that he has a hard time with.. All I told him was that I'm the girl who won't brake your heart like that because I know how it feels when some one does... But do realize that all the other girls out there are different and not exactly like your ex..! I hope that helped ou and again I'm sorry.let me know how it goes!:)
:S I'm sorry for what happened to you...well your situation is very difficult and painful, but I think it's possible to recover and trust again, just give it time...
I also had my heart broken =/, my ex boyfriend of 4 years cheated on me, and it made me feel that ALL men are jerks and I would be single forever and could never trust on someone else again, but I'm feeling better now...the pain goes away with time...it seems like it wont, but its actually the opposite...you will be surprised in a good way (feeling better) in few months... :) well, wish you to feel better soon!
You may feel like it, but you're not. She did the wrong doing, not you. In my opinion, she was using you as a crutch so no one would notice her real self. It may take awhile to get through this hard time you're having but it's not over for you.
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the whole orgasim thing doesn't matter, girls fake it ALL the time. I just have to ask are they blood cousins?
thats a tough blow. I could only imagine what your going through. what does her family think about this new relationship she is in?
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