Guys, why drink alcohol to 'loosen up' in front of a girl you like?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy who I know has a huge crush on me. I'm actually considering giving him a chance. His best friend told me though that he intends to get drunk when we meet up next. .. and I've noticed any time we spend together physically, he has had some alcohol.

Am I supposed to take it as a compliment that he's so worried about how I'd see him?

But personally I'd prefer to talk to a more sober, awkward guy than have him boisterous and being jackass-y to all his friends. Guys and girls, discuss!

[blazergirl]

I know exactly what you mean! I have been hanging out with a guy that only talks to me if he is drunk. I have been around him when he's sober but he usually drinks to loosen up when he is around me. I found that when he is drunk he does stuff that he wants to do and doesn't think it through. For example: He would flirt uncontrollably with me and we ended up making out one night when he was drunk. Then he stopped talking to me because when he was sober he realized that he was leading me on and that he was still hung up on his ex. So we decided to be just friends... But still now he acts like he still likes me a lot when he's drunk. It makes things so difficult! My friends tell me that drunken words are a sober mans thoughts. I thought the same thing you did... Am I supposed to take this as a compliment? I would just go for it now and see what happens.

[Mesonfielde]

They drink so they won't fear the communication. They believe that if they are held back by themselves, then the girl will say "ugh another inconfident little dweeb, burn in hell damn you" and eternally vanquish any possibility to ever get together with her. Therefore, they will freely be able to communicate with no restraints if they are mildly drunk. Most girls think they would want to talk to a sober guy... but if he comes off as awkward and shy, then most girls would deem him unattractive, forever.

But as they said below: A drunken person's words are a sober person's thoughts. You just say everything out loud without thinking about it.

[toulouse]

I don't mind at all when a guy is shy. Usually its endearing unless he's an asshole. You can be an asshole & be shy. Some guys when they are drunk just get playful so its not really an issue, but fir sure he shouldn't feel he HAS to drink to get a long- it will back fire at some point,

[Mesonfielde]

Yeah.. it can backfire when the guy cannot be at ease and be as talkative as he is when he is drunk. You cannot be like as if you were drunk 24/7, and there are chances that he still won't feel at ease later on around the girl.

But the feeling that you need to drink to be loosened up enough is not that surprising. There's a lot of stress and inhibitions for guys when they are supposed to open up their feelings to a girl. Especially when the girls can just say "haha, no" with a lack of empathy.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Alcohol lowers our inhibtions, it's likely that the guy in question has self esteem and confidence issues when sober (don't we all) so it's only normal for him to have a bit of 'dutch courage' before talking to the girl he really, really, really likes

[BrentDude33]

I could see a guy drinking so the confidence is there. Some guys feel so awkward that it can actually hinder how they talk to others at times. So a little drink can loosen them up and get them more relaxed. What do they call it... Liquid courage. I personally think it looks bad in front of a girl to drink on date or whatever. Unless you both agree to have like wine with dinner or whatever.

[rikooprate]

Tell him after this time around that you won't hang out with him again unless he's sober next time. Problem solved...

[snackeyg]

Sober he might not talk at all. I know with alcohol in me I can be all kinds of outgoing and open. Sober I'm chill and quiet.