He says the "timing" isn't right for him it's a lie, right?

[Anonymous]

Last night, the guy I've been dating for a couple months and I called it quits. He's been trying to avoid me the last couple weeks and OK lol I'm not stupid, I figured something was up. also he wasn't being as attentive as he had been. Anyway, clearly if I hadn't orchestrated the 30 min break up meeting, he would have continued to be passive-aggressive and avoid me instead of addressing the situation (LAME, if you ask me...) anyway, I was super nice about the situation (though I did have some choice things I wanted to say, I refrained from doing so since we have a TON of mutual friends) and since he had been the one who had pursued me hardcore I wanted to know the reason for why this was headed towards the dumpster. he says that he got out of his last serious relationship (which was a good one, with a friendly mutual breakup) and the "timing" wasn't right for him, as he didn't really want or see us going anywhere at this time. I know he was just trying to be nice and he denies that it had anything to do with me, or that it was because he just stopped liking me. That's a huge bunch of bull, right? lol I mean if guys really really like the girl, the timing is always right, right? or am I just applying huge gneralizations to different scenarios. either way, I'd just like some feedback! frankly I'm just amazed every time a guy decides that avoiding the situation is a decent solution to the problem...it's so pathetic and childish. glad to be done with this!

thanks in advnace!

[Apocalypticality]

You're assuming it's a lie because it's cliche. I'm not saying that it isn't childish, and that there weren't better ways of handling the situation, but just because we've all heard it before doesn't mean it isn't true. I've been in relationships where the timing is especially bad, and it took a while for the whole lusty, hopeful, optimistic feeling to wear off before getting a chance to look at reality.

So, he should have just told you that the feeling wore off, rather than the timing, since it seems that the whole time excuse was just icing on the cake. Either way, yanno.

[Anonymous]

I would assume it is just something to say to ease the break up. I sort of sounds like the "it's me not you" line if you ask me.